How would you react if you found out, your "Pa" was a bisexual?

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    Jun 25, 2009 4:41 AM GMT
    Something I will never get confirmation on, as my Pa / father, dad to some, is now dead.

    But I have something inside of me, that won't go away, that keeps telling me my Pa was a bisexual.

    How would you react if you found out, this to be the case with your Pa?

    I myself would not find it to be a celebration, in fact I would of given that man so much grief about it, and then reject him. That would of been the end of it.

    But as I said he is now dead, I may well never know.
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    Jun 25, 2009 4:46 AM GMT

    My "pa" is bisexual. Why would it bother you.
    Just be glad he isn't gay or that sexy leg would have never been born. icon_redface.gif

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    Jun 25, 2009 4:48 AM GMT
    how un aussie of him, I say kill the limey bastard, how dare he degrade your what 6 generations.. disgusting little foul creature..

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    Jun 25, 2009 4:50 AM GMT
    matey said


    I myself would not find it to be a celebration, in fact I would of given that man so much grief about it, and then reject him. That would of been the end of it.




    Upset that your Pa might have been bisexual?
    Wouldn't that make you half self-loathing? icon_question.gif
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    Jun 25, 2009 5:29 AM GMT
    Oh the issues that have come out of this one!

    My judgement would be based the the relationship I had with him and he with I, and the person I remember him to be.
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    Jun 25, 2009 5:42 AM GMT
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    matey said


    I myself would not find it to be a celebration, in fact I would of given that man so much grief about it, and then reject him. That would of been the end of it.




    Upset that your Pa might have been bisexual?
    Wouldn't that make you half self-loathing? icon_question.gif
    I just love the way that term of being self loathing is just thrown around, but then so is homophobic, and many other terms used to repress and abuse.

    I have no issues with my sexuality, and my pa did not determine my sexuality, the women he breed with did, or her body did.

    But you never met my Pa, and never seen the relationship we had. It is from those things. I have this opinion, and since it's my Pa I'm talking about, all opinions on that are mine!

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    Jun 25, 2009 5:52 AM GMT
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    My "pa" is bisexual. Why would it bother you.
    Just be glad he isn't gay or that sexy leg would have never been born. icon_redface.gif



    Oh it would not bother me. I just would not accept him, as he did not accept me. If our relationship was diffrent, my reaction I'm sure would of been diffrent too.

    But look at all the hate that is coming out.

    Also I well remember being on a fishing trip with my pa, before I was a teenager. He acted as if he was my best buddy, asking me about my sexuality, and since I had a homosexual teenager molest me from the age of five, I knew all about it.

    I was truthful with him. he would not let me sleep in the tent, and treated me as if I was dirty.

    I have a strong belief he molested my youngest brother who is a breeding bisexual. I have tried to talk to him about it, and he won't.

    So if I found out my Pa was a bisexual, I would of givern him grief, and the abandoned him. I would not find it a celebration.
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    Jun 25, 2009 5:56 AM GMT
    matey saidSomething I will never get confirmation on, as my Pa / father, dad to some, is now dead.

    But I have something inside of me, that won't go away, that keeps telling me my Pa was a bisexual.

    How would you react if you found out, this to be the case with your Pa?

    I myself would not find it to be a celebration, in fact I would of given that man so much grief about it, and then reject him. That would of been the end of it.

    But as I said he is now dead, I may well never know.




    My father was a quite a hunk and a very distinguished gentleman! a lady's man!! I doubt very much if he was either gay or bisexual!!! but for the sake of argument suppose he was a bisexual? I would have accepted him as he was and love him just as much, but not because of who he his but for what he was to me!!! I must confess that my dad till today have been the only man who I truly ever loved and loved me back!


    ♥ Leandro ♥
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    Jun 25, 2009 6:07 AM GMT
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    matey saidSomething I will never get confirmation on, as my Pa / father, dad to some, is now dead.

    But I have something inside of me, that won't go away, that keeps telling me my Pa was a bisexual.

    How would you react if you found out, this to be the case with your Pa?

    I myself would not find it to be a celebration, in fact I would of given that man so much grief about it, and then reject him. That would of been the end of it.

    But as I said he is now dead, I may well never know.




    My father was a quite a hunk and a very distinguished gentleman! a lady's man!! I doubt very much if he was either gay or bisexual!!! but for the sake of argument suppose he was a bisexual? I would have accepted him as he was and love him just as much, but not because of who he his but for what he was to me!!! I must confess that my dad till today have been the only man who I truly ever loved and loved me back!


    ♥ Leandro ♥


    You know I respect what you have told me, and your relationship with your Pa. But the relationship we had with our fathers was very diffrnt.

    My Pa consider himself a mans man, I think, he was a strong man, very well behaved in public, and big on appearance, or how things looked.

    Full of "pride" of his family's heratig to Oz and their high position in the community we were born ( we were both bor with status), and the fact he was born an Aristocrat, as was I.

    Some have called me self loathing. I'm just not full of pride, as I see that as a bad thing, and the way it can blind people.

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    Jun 25, 2009 6:36 AM GMT
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    ALEZANDAR said
    matey saidSomething I will never get confirmation on, as my Pa / father, dad to some, is now dead.

    But I have something inside of me, that won't go away, that keeps telling me my Pa was a bisexual.

    How would you react if you found out, this to be the case with your Pa?

    I myself would not find it to be a celebration, in fact I would of given that man so much grief about it, and then reject him. That would of been the end of it.

    But as I said he is now dead, I may well never know.




    My father was a quite a hunk and a very distinguished gentleman! a lady's man!! I doubt very much if he was either gay or bisexual!!! but for the sake of argument suppose he was a bisexual? I would have accepted him as he was and love him just as much, but not because of who he his but for what he was to me!!! I must confess that my dad till today have been the only man who I truly ever loved and loved me back!


    ♥ Leandro ♥


    You know I respect what you have told me, and your relationship with your Pa. But the relationship we had with our fathers was very diffrnt.

    My Pa consider himself a mans man, I think, he was a strong man, very well behaved in public, and big on appearance, or how things looked.

    Full of "pride" of his family's heratig to Oz and their high position i the community we were born, and the fact he was born an Aristocrat, as was I.

    Some have called me self loathing. I'm just not full of pride, as I see that as a bad thing, and the way it can blind people.



    My father died before I came out! funny thou because he would have been more accepting of my sexuality then what it took my mother. She told me years after he passed away and I came out that he already suspected I was gay and told her he was o.k with it!

    I too came from a very aristocratic family background! although my parents raised my siblings and I in a very open mind environment! I had a somewhat strict upbringing but not in a religious sort of way! religion was never discussed even thou I was raised a christian!!

    Sweetie just because you don't identify or feel like you don't fit in with the rest of the gay community it doesn't mean you hate yourself! ultimately what really matters is your love for who you are! anyone who tell you or make you feel any different they are the ones who are self-loathing!!


    ♥ Leandro ♥
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    Jun 25, 2009 6:39 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidhow un aussie of him, I say kill the limey bastard, how dare he degrade your what 6 generations.. disgusting little foul creature..

    On a side note that will never be read.. I can't see a damned thing he's written, I just felt like being inflammatory icon_smile.gif


    If it helps you feel better. I can take it have big shoulders. Even Though I'm not responsible for your issues.

    Have you taken your medications today?

    You know they do help you cope!!!!

    But not only are there medications to help you with you mental health issues. There are also medications to help with inflammation too, go talk to you doctor about it......
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    Jun 25, 2009 6:41 AM GMT
    matey saidSomething I will never get confirmation on, as my Pa / father, dad to some, is now dead.

    But I have something inside of me, that won't go away, that keeps telling me my Pa was a bisexual.

    How would you react if you found out, this to be the case with your Pa?

    I myself would not find it to be a celebration, in fact I would of given that man so much grief about it, and then reject him. That would of been the end of it.

    But as I said he is now dead, I may well never know.


    why would you reject him? If you had a child would you want to be rejected also?
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    Jun 25, 2009 6:45 AM GMT



    Whether your Dad was Bi or not seems to have little to do with why you dislike him so much. If he was straight and did what he did to you (getting you to admit being homosexual and then rejecting you for it) you'd feel the same.
    Doing what you suspect he did to your little brother; in child molestation it's about power, we've read, not sex. You'd still despise him for that too.

    ...or did you feel great about Pa til you discovered he may be Bi? (in which case you may really have some issues we advise seeing a professional about)
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    Jun 25, 2009 6:50 AM GMT
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    matey saidSomething I will never get confirmation on, as my Pa / father, dad to some, is now dead.

    But I have something inside of me, that won't go away, that keeps telling me my Pa was a bisexual.

    How would you react if you found out, this to be the case with your Pa?

    I myself would not find it to be a celebration, in fact I would of given that man so much grief about it, and then reject him. That would of been the end of it.

    But as I said he is now dead, I may well never know.


    why would you reject him? If you had a child would you want to be rejected also?


    Why would I reject him. I thought I more than covered that, certainly to my reply to GG.

    If I had a child, I would not reject him or her. I wold not always agree with their actions or decisions.

    But if I did have a child and I was still a homosexual. I would expect that child to reject me, when he become a teen, or when he got teased at school for haveing a homosexual Pa, or parents. But I would also be ready for it.

    I has two friends two lesbian friends, and one had a child, and after she had him, she got into a lesbian relationship. That child grew up to resent them both, hate them in fact, for all the tormenting he got at school, for the actions of his mother.

    So I would be ready.
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    Jun 25, 2009 6:52 AM GMT
    i guess you are not ready, seeing that you posted this thread.
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    Jun 25, 2009 7:00 AM GMT
    adaminmarietta saidi guess you are not ready, seeing that you posted this thread.
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    The fact I'm able to talk about it, and willing to, even though I have already been abused for bringing it up. I would of though I was ready.

    In fact this past fathers day in America (we are yet to have fathers day down here in Oz) I wanted to bring it up. But I thought wait till fathers day in America was over, so I did. As I know there are bisexuals here who do have children, and I'm not having a go at them, as they are not my father.

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    Jun 25, 2009 7:05 AM GMT
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    Whether your Dad was Bi or not seems to have little to do with why you dislike him so much. If he was straight and did what he did to you (getting you to admit being homosexual and then rejecting you for it) you'd feel the same.
    Doing what you suspect he did to your little brother; in child molestation it's about power, we've read, not sex. You'd still despise him for that too.

    ...or did you feel great about Pa til you discovered he may be Bi? (in which case you may really have some issues we advise seeing a professional about)


    You are correct in assuming that my feeling for him would be the same, no matter his sexuality. But if I found out he was bi, I really would of givern it to him, for his past actions.

    But If my Pa was more like Alexanders, my reaction would of been ore like his, I'm sure...Some here may find this hard to belive. But..in fact I happen to be a very loving, caring, and forgiving man, when aloud to be.
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    Jun 25, 2009 7:10 AM GMT
    I personally feel that the love or relationship between a parent/child is one of the most beautiful, fulfilling, and lifelong human experience in a human beings life! that being said I find it sad....very sad that a son will reject his dad for being who he is instead of loving him for what he is to the son!


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    Jun 25, 2009 7:10 AM GMT
    Hmm, I would go "oh, ... ok. ... hmm, *bored*"

    The importance of someone being gay or bi is about as earth shattering as finding out they have brown hair. My immediate family included.
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    Jun 25, 2009 7:24 AM GMT
    ALEZANDAR saidI personally feel that the love or relationship between a parent/child is one of the most beautiful, fulfilling, and lifelong human experience in a human beings life! that being said I find it sad....very sad that a son will reject his dad for being who he is instead of loving him for what he is to the son!


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    Mate you talk of a love I know nothing of. Yet I have loved, and I do love, even myself, and I am loved.icon_biggrin.gif

    I so remember the last time I was ever in the same room as this man, he was in hospital dying.

    My mom asked if I had a spare clock, and I said, about 3 of em; why?

    Your father wants one she told me.

    I told her he didn't wont one from me, plus he was in hospital awaiting to die! So what does he wont a clock for?

    He wants one she informed me.

    Ok if he wants one I'll give him one, but I don't know what he wont a clock for. I'll bring one over.

    Take clock over. Give it to him she tell me.

    He doesn't wont to see me.

    Take it into him. she tell me.

    So I drive her over to the hospital, with the clock. We get there and she informs him she has a clock for him. Smile from him.

    She then informs him it's mine and from my home.

    What do I wont a clock he states, not talking to me at all, I don't wont the bloody things he tells her, I'm in hospital dying, still not talking to me.

    Then one of his mates come in, and he chats away to him, not saying a word to me. So I leave, and the last thing I ever said to him was have a good trip.

    He went to say I'm not going, and stops, as he got what I meant.

    When I got outside, I thought, I could of turned myself inside out upside down, and it would of made no difference. I had left the city that I lived in, were I had friends dying of AIDS, I should of been there.

    But if I hadn't of left the city and went back to the bush, I would not of had has the experiences with him I had over the past 5 years, and would not of seen him that last time.

    But he had the opposite effect on me in the end, to what he wanted. He wanted me to hurt. If I had never had that experience. I would of told myself, I should of tried harder. I just should of tried harder. But he let me know no matter how hard I tried, it would never of made any difference.

    I have never missed him once since he dyed.

    After his death, and he left my mom a very wealthy women. Yet he still told her to rip me off, of ever cent she could. It would not make him happy to see me thieving the way I do today.

    So yes if I found out he was bi, I would give him grief, and then I would reject him.
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    Jun 25, 2009 7:26 AM GMT
    My dad's not gay.. if he was and I grew up with that being the case i'm sure i'd be cool with it.. however if he was to come out tomorrow i'd resent him strongly for it.. only because it would hurt my mother and break our family apart.
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    Jun 25, 2009 7:26 AM GMT
    Well I'm sorry to hear that things with your Pa were not good at all.But I guess I was lucky with that and my Dad,I never thought he was bi but he had no problem being close with anyone he cared about.I did find out from him one of his buddies with a little curios and wanted to have a threesome with him and another women but Dad's gaydar was pretty good so he said no.It was kind of ruff for Dad b/c his buddy kinda took it wrong and they drifted apart.I don't think that the world would be able to handle my Dad being bi without even trying he had guys crusing him all the time and he did'nt get freaked out about it he was just polite if they got brave enough to hit on him and said "Well thanks but I'm not wired that way." and he would just keep on talking to them and usually they would feel I little uncomfortable and excuse themselves.But I think I would've liked it if Dad was bi as long as he was'nt cheating on Mom,but it's problelly a good thing he was'nt b/c he would get all the hott guys and I would be left in the dust.
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    Jun 25, 2009 8:02 AM GMT
    Sean_85 saidMy dad's not gay.. if he was and I grew up with that being the case i'm sure i'd be cool with it.. however if he was to come out tomorrow i'd resent him strongly for it.. only because it would hurt my mother and break our family apart.


    Now Sean. As a homosexual, I have no need to abuse you, because you would not be Ok with it.

    In fact. I feel, many would feel the same way as you do.

    The hurt it creates. The betrayal.

    I remember my time working in a bathhouse, a sun ran into his Pa there. The son was inconsolable.

    He had told me latter. He loved his father so much, and always feared he dad would reject him, when he found out, and now he had no love for his father for what he had done to his mother, and the family.
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    Jun 25, 2009 8:22 AM GMT
    Tiller66.

    Thanks mate.

    You know I have a mate Andy from my days working as a lumberjack. Such deep blue eyes, and those looks, to go with them. I went gaga, when I first met him.

    But he is 100% straight, and he has slept in my bed nacked, with me in it. He even went to a gay club with me one night, and we were both popular. But him more so, and we got a few offers of a 3some and one couple wanted a 4some.

    He now has a wife, and young children, and it's not that uncommon for him to have a gay guy at the dinner table, who he works with, because they have gone gaga over him.

    But he brings em home to met the wife. In a way he reminds me of your Pa.
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    Jun 25, 2009 8:27 AM GMT
    In a way I have said much more here than I intended to. I was hoping to hear how people would react, and say little. I'm Ok with being the subject of hate, I'm used to it.

    But in the long run, this little runt, that I once was. Now has big shoulders, chest, arms and legs, and calves to die for. Has growen to raw. I am strong, and can take it.