I shan't slam you, OTWTM, after experiencing a sister get the surgery, I understand that it is a tool. I'm just not sure which tool. I love metaphor and when she got it I said she was trimming rose bushes with a chain saw.
Is dieting really so hard that you have to have serious surgery that alters your body drastically? My sister lost the weight fast, but she is so different.
When she was big it wasn't droopy fat, she was kinda built like a volley ball girl: big hips, breast, athletic, but by no means a petite girl. She was strong too, if she was in a full stride and you reached out and grabbed her arm, she'd take you with her.
...not anymore. She is so skinny now and she never eats. Turns out the diet for that surgery is pretty strict and some things just won't stay down. If I grabbed her arm today, I bet I might hurt her. Good news is, she got counseling before this thing and it really has opened her eyes a lot to why she was big (had tons to do with our mother....not surprising). Her diet has changed her kids eating habits too. They had never even heard of soy milk, now that's all she buys. Still, the diet seems to be so strict until it's taken the fun out of eating for her and I imagine that not knowing what food might disagree with you is frustrating.
Getting counseling, finding the root of the problem, changing her eating habits all could have been done without this surgery.
However, I brought her up before in pertinence to your issue. I can say with much certainty that she wasn't going to lose the weight being and living the way she was. For her the surgery definitely ushered a lot of things in that I know she wouldn't have accepted without it.
The question becomes, can I dedicate myself the proper way in the gym and lose this weight? If the answer is no, you might as well go for this surgery because I pep talk from any jock can’t compete with an internal deterrent, something that through no fault of your own, I seem to have without lap band and you lack.