Smoking

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    Nov 20, 2007 9:55 PM GMT
    What are your thoughts on dating a smoker? Yes its gross, smells, yada yada yada…But do you or would date a smoker??

    (I love picking ur guys brains!! icon_biggrin.gif)
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    Nov 20, 2007 11:06 PM GMT

    I don't like smokers ..mostley because I don't smoke..
    But if the guy is really hot I wouldn't regect him only because he smoke!!(then I would be really stupid!)
  • zakariahzol

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    Nov 20, 2007 11:11 PM GMT
    I was a smoker. My ex bf is a smokers. I dont mind dating smokers. It dont bother me. But nothing heavier that that. I once meet a hot hot guys and start getting intersted with him, but as soon as he mention stuff like pot, marijuana....I was like where the exit door.
  • GQjock

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    Nov 21, 2007 12:00 AM GMT
    Nope...
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    Nov 21, 2007 3:51 AM GMT
    I'm alergic to tobacco. If I am in a room with a person smoking my nose gets irritated. If Im there too long, I will form blisters that will tear and I will get a nose bleed. The next day it will dry up but if I move my nose the scab will rip and it feels like someone taking a razor blade to the inside of my nostral. Sometime I will hurt so bad I cant stop crying.
    Needless to say, I love living in LA cause the laws make it hard on smokers, but I still dont go to clubs or bars much because of my allergy. Also, I hate going to Vegas! When I make out with a smoker, my throat scratches and it feels like I swallowed wool.
    Yeah, it sucks that even if I meet my prince charming, I will have to turn him away if he is a smoker for the sake of my own health.
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    Nov 21, 2007 3:59 AM GMT
    yeah, i dated a smoker. It wasn't gross kissing him, but I didn't respect what he was doing to his health. It was fine as long as he didn't smoke around me.
  • liftordie

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    Nov 21, 2007 4:54 AM GMT
    only ever dated one guy who was a smoker. since i would not let him smoke inside he spent most of our relationship outside on the balcony. fuck for all i know he is still out there!!! LOL
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    Nov 21, 2007 4:58 AM GMT
    dated a smoker and it was okay - he just smoked outside but I couldn't stand to visit his house.
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    Nov 21, 2007 5:25 AM GMT
    I loaded up on antihistamines, suppressed my nausea, and tried it a couple of times. I spent half of the night alone while they ran outside to have a smoke every ten minutes.

    Not a chance. It's as if smokers are from another planet. Utterly incompatible.
  • duglyduckling

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    Nov 21, 2007 5:54 AM GMT
    if he looked like Freddie Ljungberg, I may consider it... otherwise, it's a non-starter...
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    Nov 21, 2007 6:24 AM GMT
    yea no....why should i deal with things i dont likeicon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 21, 2007 8:17 AM GMT
    No.

    Like a pictureless, a closeted, a discreet, or whatever, they intentionally inflict harm upon themselves. It's in the list of things that are deal breakers in my selection process.

    Smoking stinks. Most smokers, aren't "hot" anyway, because of the damage it does to their face. Bottom line is that you have to ask yourself some serious questions about folks that engage in self-destructive behavior. It's just added baggage, and with 6.6 BILLION folks in the world, it's not worth the grief of dealing with. There's better people to pick from.

    No, every time, is my answer.

    If I post on Craigslist, or so on, I specifically state that tobacco users needs not apply. It gets me hate email but, it is what it is. I don't like being around it, and I'm real honest in my selection process. Gets back to that thing of sound judgment and not being all-accepting.

    It's like the fat kid thing. It should be unacceptable for folks to kill themselves in such a fashion.

    My mom is the only one of her peers that smoked that is still alive. The rest, well, they're dead...lung cancer. My mom has emphysema, and is on oxygen. She got lucky in her tobacco use, and is just tethered to the oxygen, but, her life was spared. Cigarettes, when used as intended will kill you, as we all know. Like eating yourself to death as in obesity, it's the same thing...a death wish in progress. If you've ever seen someone in the hospital with lung cancer... hopefully you'd stop. I know...I know..I know...fat people just keep eating, too.

    Oh, and my mom stopped smoking back in the early 80's...it's probably why she'll still alive.

    I hate seeing young people puffing. It's such a sad commentary on how humans are so very self-destructive.

    I won't act as an enabler to that death wish though. Just how it is.
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    Nov 21, 2007 8:27 AM GMT
    This one question really made preoccupiedicon_rolleyes.gif.

    Hmmm...icon_exclaim.gif

    Okayicon_idea.gif, the guy could never look good because ideally, if you smoke, you don't gain so much muscles. Hence, it is quite unlikely that a well-toned man is a chain smoker at the same time.

    Can't really bear talking with and kissing a guy whose mouth smells nicotine and teeth ridges are riddled with tar.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 21, 2007 8:39 AM GMT
    I gave up smoking with my boyfriend 3 months ago. After a month I found cigarettes in his bag and he confessed to managing only 3 weeks icon_eek.gif so I put up with it for now, and I sympathise with him because it really is hard to quit. I try not to make a fuss about it or make him feel bad, but I do make him smoke outside on the fire escape or in the bathroom.

    The funny thing is, his weakness made me stronger, and the best thing about giving up was the improvement to my skin. Now I spend my cigarette money on Biotherm.
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    Nov 21, 2007 1:43 PM GMT
    Nope... i won't date a smoker. It's the rule that is right before "You can't have or want to have a pet dog".

    My best friend has two children with Cystic Fibrosis and smoke, of any kind, can have sever effects on them, and i would want her and her kids to be part of my and my guy's life. They can't be if he's a smoker. Even that residual "smell" smokers carry is bad for the kids. Plus if you read my profile i have a goal of adopting a CF kid.

    So no... no smokers allowed.

    NOW that's not to say i wouldn't have a brief intimate tryst with a smoker. Just nothing long term.
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    Nov 21, 2007 1:54 PM GMT
    No, I would not date a smoker.
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    Nov 21, 2007 2:09 PM GMT
    No. No exceptions.
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    Nov 21, 2007 2:13 PM GMT
    If he did not smoke in the apt or house and not in the car. My first lover smoke. He did not smell like smoke our apt did not smell like smoke and he did not taste like an ash tray. He did we would not have lasted longer than 5 minutes.

    Smokers aren't the "Anti-Christ"icon_evil.gif

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    Nov 21, 2007 2:59 PM GMT
    I've tried. Had a two year relationship with a "closeted smoker". But no matter how much mouthwash you use, the smell from deep within the lungs during a kissing session just turned me off. Maybe we need a "lung wash", by Scope.
  • Alan95823

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    Nov 21, 2007 3:05 PM GMT
    Won't date a smoker, totally non-negotiable. And here's why:

    In 1990, my father died of lung cancer caused by his smoking. He was 50.

    In 2003, my stepfather died of lung cancer caused by his smoking. He was 66.

    In 2006, my friend John died of throat cancer caused by his smoking. When he was diagnosed, he was 5'11" and 220 lbs. When he died, the nurse estimated that he weighed under 100 lbs. He went through surgery and radiation, lost the use of one side of his face and his ability to swallow. The tumor ate a hole in his neck that was big enough by the time he died that you could have stuck your thumb through it.

    I see people who smoke as volunteers for an ugly early death. Not interested in dating them.
  • Nudista

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    Nov 21, 2007 3:21 PM GMT
    If I was single and a great quality man showed up in my life but he happens to be a smoker....I definitely would date him.

    Smokers definitely are not the Anti-Christ and for whatever reason they started...bottom line is that its very difficult to stop. Yeah, they do have a problem on their hands...who doesn't though?

    Although the smoke is somewhat bothersome I'd simply tell them to smoke out in the patio. The rewards of a loving sincere relationship far outweigh the smoking habit.

    One guys opinion.

  • MSUBioNerd

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    Nov 21, 2007 3:56 PM GMT
    I won't date a smoker. The primary reason for this is that I'm allergic to the smoke, and it will trigger my asthma, which is otherwise mild enough that I don't even need an inhaler. Around smokers, my airways begin to close, my eyes itch and water, I get short of breath even walking up a single flight of stairs (and I assure you my cardio conditioning's better than that would imply), my throat and nose begin to burn...it's just awful. Smoking is a deal breaker that has prevented me from dating or trying to date many men, and while it may well be contributing to my being single, I'd rather be single and able to breathe than be a relationship and have the constant assault on my body.

    In terms of being judgmental, I simply can't understand how people anywhere near my age would ever have started smoking. We've known our entire lives that it contributes substantially to serious cancer, lung, and heart diseases, it's expensive, there's the obvious ick factor, and from the accounts I've heard it's not even enjoyable at the start. Therefore, being a smoker also raises red flags in my mind about the guy's ability to plan for the future and his willingness to bend to idiotical behaviors simply because they're common. That might not be fair--he might have been like that in the past, grown out of it, and found himself addicted--but I still view smoking as a possible indicator of other problems. In the end, though, that part doesn't really matter; the direct effects of smoking are enough to prevent my ever knowingly dating a smoker.
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    Nov 23, 2007 2:49 AM GMT
    I am not a smoker.so ,I dont like a smoker!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 23, 2007 4:38 AM GMT
    It was interesting reading some of the responses about the whole smoking process on this thread.

    Let me say I hate smoking. I grew up in a house where both my parents smoked. I saw the filthy residue it left, replaced yellow wallpaper, washed yellowed tile in the bathroom. I despised smoking. I'd never date anyone who was anywhere near cirgarettes.

    When I met my partner, I didn't know he smoked until we had been involved for a period. He never smoked around me, in the house or anywhere else I could watch him. I remember he'd go outside, across the road and even throw the cirgarette butts across the road so I wouldn't see them. It was never a problem honestly since he made sure it wouldn't be perceived as one.

    He quit on his own, not because I bugged him about it and hasn't smoked for about 3 years.

    Today I know there will never be a cigarette in my new home, but I'm so very glad I wasn't so absolute and inflexible in my thinking that I would have have eliminated this man from my life over it.
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    Nov 23, 2007 6:03 AM GMT
    Here in Winston-Salem, when I walk out the front door, it smells like tobacco. People smoke everywhere. When you are used to it, you really don't notice-- it's part of the ambient smell I guess.

    I dont' see smoking in black and white. It's a drug, like anything else, and people do everything from total abstention to total addiction. Smoking occasional cigarettes socially is not the same as smoking two packs a day in terms of health effects, just like drinking. And believe it or not, some people smoke without being addicted. Although few people will openly admit it, nicotine does have some positive effects. It's the only drug that both relaxes you and stimulates your thought processes. Some people seem to benefit from it more than others.

    I was one of those occasional smokers for a while, until I saw a friend die of lung cancer. I am against smoking, but I'm not ready to discount everyone who disagrees on that.