Could you have sex with someone you know was in a committed relationship?

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    Jun 26, 2009 5:19 PM GMT
    When I was younger I had no problem with it. My view was though it is wrong for someone to cheat, I didn't make the agreement to be in a monogamous relationship, and it is not my responsibiity to make sure that people honor their agreements to others. I figured if a person was going to cheat with me he has or will cheat with others, so I might as well have my fun.
    My view started to change one day after I hooked up with a guy at the gym. I started talking to him and found out he had a bf. He was horny because his bf was out of town. I could tell he loved his bf and he seemed very uncomfortable doing what he was about to do. He was horny and attractive, but I felt he would really regret cheating if he did. We kept talking (eventhough he kept going about how horny he was) and I eventually bascily told him 'I find you very hot, but I honestly think you really love your bf and you will regret and feel shitty if you cheated on him'. He eventually agreed and said this is the first time he ever was going to do something like that and thanked me for 'setting him right'.
    I still think people are not responssible to make sure others kept their agreements, but I think you get bonus humanity points if one dosen't personally contribute to another's cheating. It is possible the other person is just having a lapse sense of judgement. Even if the person is a repeative cheater dosen't mean you have to per take in it - let him cheat with someone else.

    Since that day I have turned down others because I knew they were cheaters. I am not saying I have/would never play around with a "Cheater" but I defintely don't view it as lightly as I once did.

    What are your experiences and thoughts about playing around with a "cheater"?
  • Delivis

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    Jun 26, 2009 6:27 PM GMT
    Knowlingly, no. I dont care of the person in front of me is the hottest person on the planet - if they are cheating and lying my attraction level towards them is zero. No chance.
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    Jun 26, 2009 9:45 PM GMT

    I have a huge problem with being the other woman. If marriage is fine dining than you are take out. I'd make an exception for a celebrity. Even my soap box can't compete with the satisfaction of knowing I banged a star.


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    Jun 26, 2009 9:50 PM GMT
    depends if they are allowed or not.. if not, wont happen
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    Jun 26, 2009 10:32 PM GMT
    Well I COULD but hopefully I wouldn't.
  • GQjock

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    Jun 26, 2009 10:34 PM GMT
    I could .............

    But would I WANT to is really the question
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    Jun 26, 2009 11:12 PM GMT



    phemt, what you've written is solid gold, gives us both a surge of faith in the human condition, and makes us feel privileged to see personal growth described so concisely.


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    Jun 26, 2009 11:31 PM GMT
    Not knowingly. I've had guys lie, either telling me they were single, or saying it was an open relationship, and I found out the truth afterwards. I won't deliberately help another guy cheat, I don't wanna be in the middle of that kinda mess.
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    Jun 26, 2009 11:33 PM GMT
    Its all in the level of "hotness" , etc that makes you a sinner or a saint. If a famous married movie star asked you, are you seriously gonna still say no? How about a now-married porn star that you used to watch? How about the hot straight guy crush at work you look at ALL the time who has a gf? You know the guy you prob whacked off to atleast twice when you are alone at night?


    There is a guy at work that has a gf that is prob the hottest guy I have ever known. If he asked me to fool around, not only would I do it, I would kill a priest for a second helping. Can I have a hallelujah brothers and sisters?
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    Jun 27, 2009 1:04 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    I have a huge problem with being the other woman. If marriage is fine dining than you are take out. I'd make an exception for a celebrity. Even my soap box can't compete with the satisfaction of knowing I banged a star.




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  • jgymnast733

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    Jun 27, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    YEAH,...
    cause baby if she's not pleasing her man and treating him like the king he is than yeah,,i'll give him some...
  • rnch

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    Jun 27, 2009 1:31 AM GMT
    20 years ago, YES.

    now.. NO.
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    Jun 27, 2009 11:50 AM GMT

    My 1st experience was w/ My dad's friend which is also my friends dad, Who is still married to this very day. It's always akward to see him at family functions w/ his wife and their Kids namely my friend. It's something I deeply regret. It lasted a little over 2 yrs. I was young, dumb and flat out STUPID. Since then I have moved on and in no way am I a repeat offender.
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    Jun 27, 2009 12:07 PM GMT
    In my 20s all I ver dated was married bisexual men, because I did not want a commitment, and they were the ones the said I do, and I want anymore, and not I. Pluse there is also a side of a bisexual man, that a women would never be able to please, and I was.

    I never really put myself in a situation anymore, were I would meet someone for a hook up. Pluse I'm already in two long term relationship, and I don't cheat on them.

    But If I was single, I don't know. I'm not responsible for another's actions, they could not say: I made them "do it!"