Great Sex vs Love

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    Jun 26, 2009 11:23 PM GMT
    Why do so many people confuse great sex with love? Also are Bottoms more likely to confuse it than Tops and why?
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    Jun 27, 2009 12:25 AM GMT

    Great sex is like the chicken pox, everyone will probably get it atleast once in their lifetime. However, love is and has always been The Holy Grail...it ain't guaranteed, nor easy to come by. It's no wonder that people replace the unattainable with something everyone gets, thus standing great sex in for love and pow, a bit of diligence at any night spot earns you The Holy Grail!

    I think bottoms fall victim to this switch easier because penetration is a big deal! I find it an entrance comparable to a needle or a knife. No small wonder it leaves a lasting impression. Still, a bigger wonder is that men bare their breast for the poke so easily. I don't, ya gotta work for my Holy Grail. icon_evil.gificon_redface.gif





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    Jun 27, 2009 2:25 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear saidI think bottoms fall victim to this switch easier because penetration is a big deal! I find it an entrance comparable to a needle or a knife. No small wonder it leaves a lasting impression. Still, a bigger wonder is that men bare their breast for the poke so easily. I don't, ya gotta work for my Holy Grail. icon_evil.gificon_redface.gif
    and work I shall my good man and then, once I have obtained my objective, I shall work harder still to be satisfying..

    I soooooo didn't just say that.. was someone else icon_razz.gif

    Bottoms tend to confuse it more because just like GG said, it's a lot for a guy to bottom, yeah it feels great after the fact, but the first few seconds as he's pushing in can and does hurt a lot of guys, but they suffer through it like troopers and its hawt too.. but anyway.. I also think a lot of tops aren't super clear with a bottom, they let'em think what they want so the top can have what he wants.. I get knocked back a fare bit because I simply wont do the whole relationship stuff, I wont even pretend or let'em think that..
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    Jun 27, 2009 2:31 AM GMT
    I never understood nor still do as to why people (especially men, but more so gay men) are so hung up on sex? great sex, so-so sex, little sex, or lousy sex to me is greatly satisfying!!! icon_twisted.gif sex should be the easiest form of communication between humans! I love sex as much as the next guy, but unlike most I don't complaint and just get equally aroused whether it is great sex, so-so sex, little sex, or lousy sex!! icon_biggrin.gif and even if the intensity wasn't equally satisfying I still love it anyway!! that being said anyone who complaints about not getting enough sex have big issues.


    Love on the flip side of a relationship, in my opinion is very challenging and often the most satisfying of all forms of human intimacies!! since I can remember I have always loved challenges in life! as if being gay in a heterosexual as in a gay world isn't challenging enough!!!


    The only complaint I had and still do find exhausting and quite challenging, tiresome, and even bore some at times is a man's lack of interest in love! and to be frank it can get quite pathetic and frustrating at times.

    Fortunately for me the the thing that keeps my sexual urges and my hopelessly romantic heart more intense each year is my undying faith for the goodness and positive in people!! I may sound a bit naive to a lot of you, but believe me I am not! I am just blessed that each passing year the burning candle of love within me still generates an ever increasing heat of lust, a pleasing essence of love, and much light to my spirit ever so strongly each passing year.


    Sex by itself may be free and easy but it often leaves one empty and a feeling of being lost! Love is exhausting and very hard to get, but like the all saying goes "no pain, no gain" a slogan I am sure most of us jocks are very familiar with our physique maintenance routine!!


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    Jun 27, 2009 3:20 AM GMT
    sorry Alexzandro but I would want great sex anytime and not even close to so-so sex...Sex should always be good between two guys anytime and if not then I would not get with that guy again...If you like sex as much as you say then why not have good sex ...For so-so sex you might as well do yourself.....sorry but jusy my opinion...
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    Jun 27, 2009 3:32 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said

    I think bottoms fall victim to this switch easier because penetration is a big deal! I find it an entrance comparable to a needle or a knife. No small wonder it leaves a lasting impression. Still, a bigger wonder is that men bare their breast for the poke so easily. I don't, ya gotta work for my Holy Grail. icon_evil.gificon_redface.gif


    LOL the "Holy Grail" part made me giggle, but I completely agree with you GG. It may become a bit personal for some afterward.
    *Guards my Fragile little heart* icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_redface.gificon_mad.gif


    *ahem*

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    Jun 27, 2009 3:37 AM GMT
    There's a big difference between great sex and love. It's amazing that many people never separate the two. Besides that I don't think that being a bottom or top has anything to do with knowing the difference between great sex and love.

    That sort of thing is dependent upon the individual and not the sexual position they enjoy.
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    Jun 27, 2009 3:44 AM GMT

    "Why do so many people confuse great sex with love?"

    ...because for many, men and women alike, the act of sex is love-making.


    ...eventually they discover that there's more to love than making love.
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    Jun 27, 2009 4:13 AM GMT
    I kind of agree with ALEZANDAR. I couldn't give crap one way or another about sex at all. I want to find someone for the long run.
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    Jun 27, 2009 4:43 AM GMT

    meninlove said
    "Why do so many people confuse great sex with love?"

    ...because for many, men and women alike, the act of sex is love-making.


    ...eventually they discover that there's more to love than making love.


    Yes, love maintenance is needed after making it. So tell me, who wears the tool belt and nothing else out of the two of you? icon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gif
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    Jun 27, 2009 4:50 AM GMT



    Bill is assigned for Mondays, Thursdays and Saturdays. I have Tuesdays, Fridays and Sundays.

    Wednesdays the house shakes and the dogs hide under the bed.

    His and his towels. His and his tool belts, his and his vib%^%&*^&$$!!*@!ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ

    tHIS IS bILL, i HAVE REMOVED THE KEYBOARD FROM dOUG'S REACH.

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    Jun 27, 2009 5:17 AM GMT
    Great love often equals great sex.icon_wink.gif Even when it's lame you kind of feel like it was great...
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    Jun 27, 2009 5:26 AM GMT

    Bill said
    His and his towels. His and his tool belts, his and his vib%^%&*^&$$!!*@!ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ


    Oh gawd, my heart just exploded. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif





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    Jun 27, 2009 6:01 AM GMT



    LOL! You sure it wasn't something a little lower down, say....
    ........ below the navel?
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    Jun 27, 2009 6:12 AM GMT
    toybrian saidsorry Alexzandro but I would want great sex anytime and not even close to so-so sex...Sex should always be good between two guys anytime and if not then I would not get with that guy again...If you like sex as much as you say then why not have good sex ...For so-so sex you might as well do yourself.....sorry but jusy my opinion...




    It may sound like a cliche but "LOVE IS TRULY SKIN DEEP" when you are young or just coming out sex is the only thing you really relate to, not because you are not capable of love but because ones hormones is wild and out of control, so naturally your primary needs strongly feeds on your sex drives, thus even thou your emotional needs are there it becomes secondary in a relationship!! love is an emotion that only happens in time, and not overnight or during one sexual encounter.

    One reason I love sex no matter the intensity is because I feel that being sensitive and responsive to my lover's sexual drives can in time boost his own and mine!! secondly, I am very responsive and highly aroused by any physical contact no matter the intensity, and third rather than letting the animal instincts take over, which we know if not careful it can lead to unsafe practices, cheating, and so forth, I have learned, if I introduce love in the mix the sexual drive can have long lasting positive effects on my relationship with that person.

    Sex is merely the outer skin of two bodies touching, while love is the inner nerves that awakens all the senses between the two.



    ♥ Leandro ♥
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    Jun 27, 2009 6:23 AM GMT
    jprichva saidI think the whole concept of love was invented by Hallmark.



    Really, love is something you feel, there are no words to express it!! therefore I doubted if it was invented by Hallmark, or maybe it was by people whose experience with love was so passionate and real that they felt inspired to write about it!!!


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    Jun 27, 2009 6:29 AM GMT



    Pssst! ALEZANDER, that would be Matey you're referring to.....an Aussie.

    This is jprichva, the writer.


    -Doug of meninlove
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    Jun 27, 2009 6:32 AM GMT
    meninlove said


    Pssst! ALEZANDER, that would be Matey you're referring to.....an Aussie.

    This is jprichva, the writer.


    -Doug of meninlove


    oops! I get them both confuse! thanks bud!! I stand corrected!!


    ♥ Leandro ♥
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    Jun 27, 2009 6:33 AM GMT
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    Jun 27, 2009 6:40 AM GMT
    LOVE + GREAT SEX = ORGASM + CUDDLING


    AND YES, YOU can get both if you take time to know the guy and then let him enter your life...

    so it´s like growing a plant.....you look for seeds, plant the plant whit your finger, then take care of the plant, and then you fuck the plant whit your finger. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 27, 2009 4:12 PM GMT
    I think it is wishful thinking on the part of some people. I mean who would not want to have it all in life. Great sex with the one you love all the time, a Ferrari in the driveway, a 5 million dollar trust fund in the bank, and 12 weeks off a year to travel and see the world.

    Then something called life comes a knocking and the great sex turns out to be with a guy whom you end up loathing, the job is at minimum wage, and you never get time off! icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 27, 2009 5:32 PM GMT

    first off, this invokes thoughts from the poem Boys Are Like Apples,

    where boys who are either within reach or who've already fallen to the

    ground, and are rotting, are the ones who are pursued. but those who

    are genuine, fine men, are left to fend for themselves because they

    would take far more effort to reach (due to being located high in the

    boughs of said apple tree) ...


    in terms of sex, it feels so good to trust someone with your body and

    have them satisfy you. however, love seems more like entrusting your

    heart to someone and having them, albeit imperfectly, attempt to care

    for you even if they are incurring difficulty caring for themselves (and

    vice versa).