Poseidon617 saidOK, so I'm gay, I've accepted this and fine with it after a little bit. However, the issue is that being born and raised in the bible belt(can't wait to leave), I have been taught that two guys aren't supposed to love each other. I'm really afraid that all I will ever have is just hookups(like i do now), but I won't ever really have an actual relationship with a guy. Obviously I know im wrong, but after all of these years being taught to think this way I can't exactly forget it and it really scares me that I'll grow up just to have a job and sex and no substantial relationship.
Any advice much appreaciated, I pretty much just needed to vent and let it out because at the moment I'm like crying over this subject.
Well you're young so you have a lot of time to find the right person. Random hookups aren't safe,or smart, gay or straight, and worrying about finding the right person is something straight guys, or girls go through too. I think more so for the girls, being that it seems a lot of men today, don't know how to be men.
As for whoever taught you that two guys aren't supposed to love each other, they obviously have absolutely no idea what they are talking about, or know anything about god if they claim to. I'm Christian, grew up in a very traditional home, have family members serving in the military since before I was even thought of haha, very much into the whole warrior culture thing, all the males in my family were not only in the military, but were also boxers, or wrestlers so that whole warrior mentality has always been there, I continued the tradition been in the military for 10 years, and I've been training in MMA (mixed martial arts) since I was 5, I have 3 sons, 2 of em which are older (I was kinda pretty young when my first 2 were born), do the same training, and want to be in the military when they turn 18, so pretty much all the males in my family are extremely masculine, and very much into god, and no we are not Liberals, or hard core Conservatives ha
But my father always taught us, that there was nothing wrong, or abnormal for 2 men to have strong love for each other. Which growing up as I did, I saw that in my warrior culture books, mythology books, even in the bible with David, and Johnathan, so the whole concept of men loving men, was never a weird thing to me was actually pretty beautiful, strong, noble and just awesome with how they did it, and what it was based on, and my best friend and I have that kind of relationship. Men behaving as women, or wanting other men to treat them as women was abnormal to me yes, but still I respect people's lives so long as they are happy, and not hurting anyone else in any kind of way.
If god was so against 2 men having strong love for each other, he would have instantly destroyed David, and Johnathan. So those people who claim to be Christians, but say crap like that, only say them because they are afraid to express those very normal emotions towards a man they may be close with, its got nothing to do with god, just their own crap whatever it may be, not to mention their lack of knowledge of god, and why people are as they are, and then you also have people who like to use god to justify the evil things they think, or do to others. And I'll tell you right now, anyone who claims to be Christian, but says hateful things to other people, and tries to make em feel like crap, or tries to judge them, is making the devil happy, not god, because the devil is all about men hating other men, and all that other crap.
Like I said you're young, just concentrate on doing well in life, getting where you want to be, and when you are and happy with yourself where you are, and keep a good head on your shoulders. The right people will come into your life, because they'll notice and respect the good about you.