Cost of Love

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    Jul 01, 2009 2:06 PM GMT
    I have always believed that love always asks us how much love we want in our lives, then gives the amount we want, with the caveat that all love ends in pain to the amount we actually loved. I believe there is always pain w/ loving, either the relationship ends or the person dies. I also believe love is so worth it and no matter how much pain is end the end I want to experience the depths of love.

    Agree? Your thoughts? Is this stupid?
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    Jul 01, 2009 3:28 PM GMT


    We all die whether we love or not, so we strike that one out.

    Pain w/love is interesting...pain occurs but, we think, not because of love, but because of human frailty. We think the more we learn how to navigate love, how to build and develop our emotional muscles (gay fitness, right? lol) the less pain there is....and in that respect, just like fitness, that old saying, no pain no gain.

    Some people are very adept at love, and when two of them meet, it's a natural ability; for the rest of us there's pulled emotional tendons, sore emotional muscles from heavy lifting, and strains from awkward positions (sorry just had to throw that last! lol)


    -us guys
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    Jul 01, 2009 3:39 PM GMT

    You're gonna hurt either way. Atleast with loving another, someone gives a damn about it.


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    Jul 01, 2009 3:44 PM GMT



    Right on GuiltyGear!
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    Jul 01, 2009 5:48 PM GMT
    The start of this thread reminds me of a quote by Erica Jong:

    "Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more.”
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    Jul 01, 2009 6:42 PM GMT
    jprichva saidThe cost of love?
    I think it's $250 for an out call, $200 for an in call.


    Of course, your mileage may vary.
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    Jul 01, 2009 6:53 PM GMT
  • Sirkit

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    Jul 01, 2009 8:05 PM GMT
    With any kind of attachment there is pain, it's just the way things go. In any relationship either you or the partner is going to end up hurting the other. I think understanding that and being prepared for it is better than pretending it isn't going to happen. Best part is, it's all worth it anyway.
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    Jul 01, 2009 8:24 PM GMT
    oh I fully think love is worth it and I jump in with an open heart and mind.
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    Jul 01, 2009 8:37 PM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    You're gonna hurt either way. Atleast with loving another, someone gives a damn about it.




    There you go....
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    Jul 01, 2009 8:48 PM GMT
    Go in expecting pain and you shall have it.

    Go in expecting love, and you'll always have the opportunity to avoid pain if you choose to.

    From 'Cheers'
    Norm Peterson: Rebecca, has it ever occurred to you that maybe the reason you always lose is because you think you're going to lose?
    Rebecca Howe: Oh, don't give me that crap. I tried that positive thinking stuff, and I knew it wouldn't work, and sure enough, it didn't.
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    Jul 01, 2009 8:53 PM GMT


    I'm not in love at the moment, but I have a feeling that once true love

    grips you, you'll be strongly in favor of it not letting go. I don't know of a

    better incentive to love than having the ability to look in someone's eyes

    and knowing that you would do all that you could for them and them

    willing to do the same for you.
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    Jul 01, 2009 9:09 PM GMT
    you need to listen to more Alanis Morrisette
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    Jul 06, 2009 11:51 PM GMT
    jprichva saidThe cost of love?
    I think it's $250 for an out call, $200 for an in call.


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    Does that come with fries and a biggy drink?
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    Jul 07, 2009 12:05 AM GMT
    There is a risk of pain with love, absolutely.

    So, what do you do?

    Wall yourself off to protect/prevent?

    Surely that is a good way to become a lonely, bitter person.

    How much pain is love worth?

    Hard to put a price on having someone around who thinks you make their day.
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    Jul 10, 2009 1:59 AM GMT
    I never knew love until I met my boyfriend. Oh, I knew the love of family and friends..but not the love of another man, that I feel so deeply, sometimes I think my breath will leave my body, just thinking of him.

    We have already hurt each other by actions, and with words, and maybe someday, we will go our separate ways. He has often told me that he does not want to hurt me..and I have told him the same.

    But would I trade one minute of this wonderful journey toward full realization of how deeply my heart can love? Never!

    I have read that, without love, your life is only partly lived. Before I met him, I did not understand such thinking. But now, I do. In many ways, he completes parts of me that I never knew were missing. Oh, i am a total person, on my own, but with him...life is just so much better.

    Even if my heart does get broken, I would not give up anything that we have been through together. Because for at least one time in my life, I have felt love for another, and been loved, like will never happen again.
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    Jul 10, 2009 2:13 AM GMT
    yes it stupid! stop agonising over every damn thing and just liveicon_exclaim.gif
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    Jul 10, 2009 2:14 AM GMT
    fitnhot saidI never knew love until I met my boyfriend. Oh, I knew the love of family and friends..but not the love of another man, that I feel so deeply, sometimes I think my breath will leave my body, just thinking of him.

    We have already hurt each other by actions, and with words, and maybe someday, we will go our separate ways. He has often told me that he does not want to hurt me..and I have told him the same.

    But would I trade one minute of this wonderful journey toward full realization of how deeply my heart can love? Never!

    I have read that, without love, your life is only partly lived. Before I met him, I did not understand such thinking. But now, I do. In many ways, he completes parts of me that I never knew were missing. Oh, i am a total person, on my own, but with him...life is just so much better.

    Even if my heart does get broken, I would not give up anything that we have been through together. Because for at least one time in my life, I have felt love for another, and been loved, like will never happen again.


    That is the way I feel, I really doubt we would ever break up, but do know if he goes before me I will feel as my own life ended w/ him.
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    Jul 15, 2009 7:02 AM GMT
    I think that love does hurt. Breaking it off with a man who you love and adore hurts. Losing a man who you are in love with hurts. Whether its death or a break up it hurts and it hurts badly.

    I would still rather have loved and adored the love of my life than have never done so just because I was afraid of getting hurt. We all have pain in our lives one way or another. I think that if we haven't hurt....even just a little....we haven't tried. Through pain we get discovery.
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    Jul 15, 2009 7:27 AM GMT
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    Jul 15, 2009 7:57 AM GMT
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    Jul 15, 2009 1:39 PM GMT
    Are we talking about unrequited love here? Because that would be an entirely different matter.
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    Jul 26, 2009 2:04 PM GMT
    lol I was expecting a more financial approach, but to my surprise you are referring to the emotional cost.

    Having been prepared to talk dollars I guess I'll do it anyway.

    Expensive. Its alot easier to take care of yourself than it is to take care of two people.

    costs practically gets doubled sometimes.

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    Jul 27, 2009 8:45 PM GMT
    Great Forum. Here is my take on it and just starting to come to the realization on it recently:

    In any relationship, if you are lucky to spend enough time with someone and grow close enough to that person, hurt is inevitable at some point. However, that is where the lessons of forgiveness and learning from mistakes come into play.

    I lived a long time avoiding that, and truly not the best way to live. Knowing that you will eventually die, would you choose not to live? It is sort of the same logic.