Home Schooling Question

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    Jul 01, 2009 11:45 PM GMT
    So, I recently found out that my Nieces fiance was home schooled which explains alot since ( while he is a pretty smart guy) he has the most bizzare and typically inappropriate social behavior I've ever seen. The first time I had met him was at my brothers funeral and he was attached at the hip to my niece and constantly touching her and kissing her WTF?? I later laid into her for not putting a stop to it.
    When I've seen shows that deal with home schooled kids it tends to be the norm that they can be pretty smart and have a good education from it but they are totally inept in the world socially lacking the ability to relate to people.

    Would you rather be really smart and unable to function socially or of average intellegence and able to mingle in society with ease??
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    Jul 02, 2009 12:05 AM GMT
    Average, mingle with society, and physically attractive please.


    But alas... *dramatic sigh! trails off... exit stage right*
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    Jul 02, 2009 12:07 AM GMT
    I don't see why these qualities must be mutually exclusive, as your question implies. I know very intelligent people who are also quite successful socially.

    I have observed the problems you mention with some home-schooled children, however. I knew one brother & sister who were very smart, and won various national science competitions.

    In their private lives they were extremely obnoxious and full of themselves, unfortunately, and anytime I visited their home I had to listen to them bragging about how remarkably gifted they were. I was relieved when they'd finally grow tired of trying to impress me and would leave the room, so I could spend time with their parents, who were much more pleasant to be around.
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    Jul 02, 2009 12:58 AM GMT
    There's a South Park episode that touched on this subject. icon_lol.gif

    http://www.southparkstudios.com/episodes/103887
  • jslifting

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    Jul 02, 2009 4:31 AM GMT
    Okay, I have to say something here.

    This is not typical of every homeschooled kid.

    That is like saying that every gay guy dresses in drag.

    Or that all black guys are criminals.

    Just because some are that way does not mean all homeschooled kids are.

    I should know, I was homeschool, along with my brother. It actually shocks alot of people, because I am a very social person. I may not be a genious, but I did make good grades in school and am in college. My brother on the other hand make Excellent Grades without even really trying, but to every really hear bragging about it. Never! Alot of it all depends on how you are being raised.

    For us, we had an awesome social outlet in the neighborhood we lived in. Actually there were about 5 families that were homeschooling, so we had lil a community of homeschoolers. None of us really turned out to be weird.

    I do however know some weird homeschoolers, but hey, everyone can't be as cool as us. lol. (JOKE) Honestly though, homeschooling is NOT for everyone. I think if you homeschool that it is important to find a social network to get ur kids involved in. So just to say again, not all of us are weird, and duck out heads when being spoken to.
  • jrs1

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    Jul 02, 2009 5:21 AM GMT
    Sedative saidAverage, mingle with society, and physically attractive please.


    But alas... *dramatic sigh! trails off... exit stage right*



    LMFAO.
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    Jul 02, 2009 5:54 AM GMT
    I have to second the opinions above here, which offer the suggestions that home schooled kids can be just as outgoing and socially up to par as any other children.

    I'm proof of that - I'm extroverted and involved with a number of clubs and organizations. I wasn't home schooled - but was tutored much of my life - mixed with regular school because of the extensive amount of travel I did with my family. Being tutored didn't hurt me at all - in fact I was able to skip a grade, and then I graduated from high school at 16 and got into a good college right away - graduating in 3 years with a B.A. Home schooled or tutored kids do need to mix it up with other kids though - so they can learn to 'play nice in the sandbox with others' when they have to join the real world.
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    Jul 02, 2009 11:01 AM GMT
    I didn't say that all home schooled kids are that way, but many are due their parents focusing on keeping them away from society or it's perceived evils rather than doing it to give them a good education ( From the families I've seen on Wife swap or Trading Spouses)

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    Jul 02, 2009 11:12 AM GMT
    I've known a few home-schooled individuals in my lifetime. Most were messed up, but that's not because they were home-schooled. It's all about the parents and how they raise their children.
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    Jul 02, 2009 3:52 PM GMT
    Tapper saidI've known a few home-schooled individuals in my lifetime. Most were messed up, but that's not because they were home-schooled. It's all about the parents and how they raise their children.


    Yup its about the parent, My sister is home schooling her only son. She is in no way qualified to be a teacher. His writing skills are atrocious, his social behavior is poor. Her choice to home school was always about her. It is sad. But he will be starting high school next year and she is going to let him go to a traditional education enviroment. It is for her about control. Not about rearing a good person.
  • Timbales

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    Jul 02, 2009 4:01 PM GMT
    I worked with a guy who's wife was a stay at home mom and home schooled their three kids. I met the kids on several occasions and thought they were very polite and outgoing. They also did extracurricular activities at the local school and with their church.
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Jul 02, 2009 4:11 PM GMT
    Growing up, I didn't know any really home schooled kids--at most, I knew one girl who had several majorly infectious diseases (I know there was both mono and bronchitis, and I think there may have been some strep throat in there as well) one year and had to miss about 3 months of classroom time, so her mother decided to home school her for the remainder of that academic year; she rejoined her normal class the following school year. I met a surprising number of home schooled kids while I was in college. Some of them were quite well-adjusted. Many, however, were not. And almost all had at least one subject in which they were glaringly behind the rest of us. Most of this, though, is more explained by the reasons why parents chose to home school their kids than it was the home schooling itself: most of the kids were from extremely conservative families who wanted to shield their children from all outside evil influences, and such parents didn't always seek to correct their own educational weaknesses, which they passed along to their children. The students who had parents who knew what they were doing, enrolled the kids in some structured activities with other children (whether sports or music or drama or whatever) and sought the help of tutors in the subjects that the parents themselves weren't experts in, on the other hand, turned out just fine.