Dad, Daddy, Papi...how to be called?

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    Jul 03, 2009 2:25 AM GMT
    This maybe a strange post but I need a little help or creativity.

    My partner and I are about to adopt a baby. One question we were prompted with was what do we want our child to call us in order to differentiate between the two of us. We both pondered on this and really never thought about it before.

    We wonder if there are any other same sex couples that have adopted and what creative method they have chosen to be called by.

    Thanks!
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    Jul 03, 2009 6:03 AM GMT
    Not a strange post at all. Maybe Pa and Dad? Good luck icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 03, 2009 6:12 AM GMT
    I called my dad "poppy' for years without understanding the hispanic relation to "papi..."

    (I'm a Cali native... poppies are our state flower.)

    Dad and Daddy are enough to differentiate.

    I have a friend. His son calls him dads and the other father dad. The only difference is the plural.

    Find something you both like and go with it. your child will love you regardless of the diminutive (they always do... I'm a teacher, :winkicon_smile.gif.
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    Jul 03, 2009 6:21 AM GMT
    how bout big daddy, and little daddy?icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 03, 2009 6:55 AM GMT
    Congratulations!
    We went by Daddy & Papa. Now, 15yrs later, we're Dad & Papa or Dad & Pops. What do you want to be called?
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    Jul 03, 2009 7:11 AM GMT
    aw, i want to ask myself this question one day...

    Daddy & Papa sound good icon_wink.gif

    it'll change as he grows up anyways, i had a dad and mom, but i know i varied their titles every once in a while,

    father: irritated
    daddy: lovey-dubby, or when i needed the car haha
    dad: most of the time
    pa: rarely used this

    same for my ma icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 03, 2009 7:16 AM GMT
    First of all: congratulations on becoming fathers! icon_smile.gif

    And, this is a very good question... I'll second what scarabboy said: go with something you both like. icon_smile.gif

    Otherwise I would vote for sundayswim's "pa and dad" but that's me.

    Perhaps as your child grows he/she might come up with a word of his/her own! A cousin of mine called his father "gaga" (mother was just "mama") and certainly my uncle didn't come up with that!
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    Jul 03, 2009 9:37 AM GMT
    I would like to be called daddy xavamcuu ...icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 03, 2009 9:39 AM GMT
    give me your tired, your poor... but not your gay.

    http://www.authspot.com/Poetry/Give-Me-Your-Tired-Your-Poor-But-Not-Your-Gay.845129
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    Jul 03, 2009 11:46 AM GMT
    Thank you all for your wishes and for the help! I will keep you posted as to what we decide. Have a good 4th!!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 03, 2009 12:08 PM GMT
    This is a great thread! Mine calls me:

    Dad (most of the time)
    Paps or Big Chief (when he's in a good mood)

  • wander2340

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    Jul 03, 2009 12:24 PM GMT
    When we were in your shoes we obsessed over this topic. What to do? What to do? OMG What to do? LOL When the kids arrived we were so busy that we forgot all about it icon_smile.gif Eventually they started talking and they came up with their own system for differentiating between their two fathers. Now I am One Daddy and my partner is Two Daddy. We never could have come up with something like that and we love it. It's funny how quickly these things stick. Now my family, their teachers and our friends all call us One Daddy and Two Daddy.

    There is often some confusion about which daddy they are speaking to but it's a good kind of confusion. Over time you pick up on subtle clues about which of you they will be looking for. Right now if they are sitting on the toilet and they say they need help (this means help wiping the poop of their butt) then that means they are looking for me. Somehow it became my job icon_smile.gif After a while you just know these things.

    I'm so excited for you guys. You haven't fully experienced love until you've had a small child look you in the eyes and say "I love you daddy."
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    Jul 03, 2009 6:27 PM GMT


    P: Hey Zachary, what's my name?

    D: Who's that?

    P: Is my name Daddy?

    Z: No.

    P: No? What's my name?

    Z: (points to D) That's Daddy.

    P: That's Daddy. What's my name?

    Z: Daddy... Papa

    P: Daddy... Papa.

    Z: Papa ... Daddy.
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    Jul 03, 2009 6:33 PM GMT
    BTW, my kids call me Dad. In French-speaking households, I'm known as Papa. Or père, which I really don't like.
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    Jul 03, 2009 6:37 PM GMT
    Hm never thought about that. Da? Pa? Dada? Papa? I guess it will come naturally eh?
    Congratulations icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 03, 2009 7:56 PM GMT
    great thread, i call my father dad buts its funny that my nephews son calls my nephew "the auld fella" - so maybe the auld fella and dad?
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    Jul 03, 2009 9:08 PM GMT
    I once had some one... We did the same thing.

    He would be called daddy and me papa, not that hard really.
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    Jul 04, 2009 1:21 AM GMT
    xysx saidCongratulations!
    We went by Daddy & Papa. Now, 15yrs later, we're Dad & Papa or Dad & Pops. What do you want to be called?


    Well I want to be called Daddy and my partner also wants to be called Daddy so I think the better way is to let him come up with what suits him best. Problem is, we are going to have to start using some format during infancy. Oh the joys of pondering on these things. SOO worth it though!!
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    Jul 04, 2009 2:14 AM GMT
    Well, my b/f and I are deciding on a serogate mother now. We both wanted to be called Daddy, because that is what we both called our fathers. He finally caved and decided he could be called Dad. Yeah, imaginative right...lol. But, that works for me.
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    Dec 23, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    Let the child decide, but maybe throw in a few candidates.
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    Dec 23, 2012 6:43 AM GMT
    outdated thread necro
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    Dec 23, 2012 6:45 AM GMT
    Narciso saidoutdated thread necro
    ugh by a fucking noob too, legit first post