Are most homos closeted?

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    Jul 03, 2009 7:05 PM GMT
    Are most guys who like guys closeted or out?

    What do you think from your experiences?
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    Jul 03, 2009 7:24 PM GMT
    It's somewhat situational & regional. I've lived in places where only about a quarter of my gay friends were out, including one BF who was closeted. Here in South Florida there's not one man or woman among my many gay & lesbian friends who's NOT out. I came out very publicly the day after I broke through my self-denial, having been telling myself I was straight for years, and have been totally out ever since then.
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    Jul 04, 2009 3:15 AM GMT
    You can never be sure. It's so hard to tell who's gay and straight. Even those who you immediatly assume are gay, are often not. For example, I met one of my parents co workers. After a few minutes of chatting he mentioned his wife and kids. I asked my parents after "HE'S NOT GAY??". They responded by saying that his brother was even more stereotypically gay acting but also had a wife and kids.

    I'll bet 60-70% of guys that are bi or have some same sex attraction never act on it or make it publicly known. Why would you? The only reason I came out to (some) people was because I KNEW I would not be happy with a girl.
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    Jul 04, 2009 10:31 AM GMT
    I grew up in a conservative environment and never met anyone else who was gay or bi, then when I went to college pretty much everyone was gay (I'm exaggerating).

    I know it's been discredited, but Kinsey's findings feel about right to me. I think that's the reason people keep referring to the study - it feels anecdotally true.
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    Jul 04, 2009 10:45 AM GMT
    I don't think so ... not at this point

    There are a lot
    but not the majority
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    Jul 05, 2009 2:56 PM GMT
    Its pretty safe to say that you can always tell if a guy is "Totally" out if he posts a face pic or not. On any given site there are many without face pics, and they will give you every excuse there is for why its just their body, or other male body parts, those boi's are closeted. It always make me smile when they offer to send a face pic.
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    Jul 05, 2009 3:04 PM GMT
    SFNavigator saidIts pretty safe to say that you can always tell if a guy is "Totally" out if he posts a face pic or not. On any given site there are many without face pics, and they will give you every excuse there is for why its just their body, or other male body parts, those boi's are closeted. It always make me smile when they offer to send a face pic.


    The internets and IRL are practically different universes with little or no intersection.

    The churchladies (for example) among my neighbors and customers are not going to be visiting gay socializing websites to discover that there is more to me than they want to think about.
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    Jul 05, 2009 3:30 PM GMT
    Its impossible to say since they are not out.

    But being "closeted" is not the same as not being "obvious". I've been pleasantly surprised at times to be approached by guys who I didn't think were gay........they don't wear a sign......
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    Jul 05, 2009 3:30 PM GMT
    not in Montreal
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    Jul 05, 2009 7:10 PM GMT
    I remembered reading this...

    'A recent government survey found that 4 percent of adults aged 18-45 identified as 'homosexual' or 'bisexual.' A similar proportion of voters identify as GLB. If you define gay as having same-sex attractions or behaviors, you do get higher proportions that are a bit closer to the one in ten figure'

    http://gaylife.about.com/od/comingout/a/population.htm

    So about half of people who have 'same sex attraction' do not identify as 'homosexual or bisexual'.... that suggests that quite a lot of people who have same sex attractions aren't 'out'.