Hmmmm, two years in and such a rookie move. You didn't "allow" yourself to fall in love with him instantly, you fell in love with him instantly. This is a behavior you will learn to curtail. It's a thing that a novice does until he realizes it hurts him and deters most relationships from blooming. Being the metaphor lover that I am, I'd say that the behavior is like dumping an entire box of fish food into your aquarium. All of the baby fishes will die! Basically, whatever love that might have been germinating there, you leveled and built a house on! Ok, no more metaphors, but I might as well tell you, that is a selfish act, which is why it turns most men off.
You feel love so come what may, fuck how the object of your affection feels, you're going to manifest that love. I don't know what you did, it wasn't clear, but you had to manifest it and in a disturbing way. It was the crucial blow, but wouldn't usually be. However, you are dealing with a young, wounded, person. Too much food at one time, and you killed what little he in his weakened state was able to give. Further more, he is handsome, which as you know, being good looking in the gay community is a season pass to 'Fun World." When you land that next cutie, keep that in mind. No matter what he told you, which he probably said because he was mirroring your intense manifestations; the minute you make him uncomfortable, he can always opt out and have much variety. Not because he wants to per say....that's just reality; if you've got the keys to "Fun World," you never forget you've got them. Any handsome man who tells you that he could is shining you on.
With TIME, yes, a man like that could lock them up and bury them in maximum security storage for you, but that takes TIME. From March to now isn't enough time. I'd be hard pressed to believe it is enough time for you to fall in love, unless what you are lovin ain't what you think. IT FEELS SO RIGHT is a term that should be banned from your vocabulary because so many men hang themselves with this term. WHAT feels right? Your world, your comforts? What about the other guy with this term.? For so many men, the other man is that electric blanket on a cold night. It feels so right, absolutely....because it's cold outside and you need it. It feels so right because of it's ability to warm you just like any other electric blanket warms a cold person. Because of what it does for you, you could easily become attached. Of course, it's a blanket. It'll never say : "You've fallen too hard and I haven't. When you clutch onto me whenever you want, it sometimes bothers me." "You smother me, you objectify me." "When you grab me and plug me in, you never inquire if it is a good time....for me.
It took me shorter than two years to figure out that men don't exist to make my world and comforts more bearable. A man is meant to be a partner, someone separate from me, but who is willing to share himself with me. That's an act that is voluntary and cannot be forced or rushed, even if it would feel so right if it did. If he doesn't want it, I won't get it anyway so long talks at night about intense things connected to that permission I haven't received yet just don't make any sense.
Of course, you like your objects alive. You described him as wounded!? YUCK, no man wants to be treated like a three legged puppy. If you described him as that, I just know you treated him as that. That goes back to what I said. He's separate from you. If he's wounded, the healing will come from him, not you, at this point anyway. MenInLove could probably tell you that their love energizes each other, but that is a very well established couple. They've given each other the permission needed and reaped the benefits of their union.
The guy is not a monster. If he were obsessed with looks I doubt he'd be with a man who calls himself "Bald One" for any amount of time beyond a couple nights and I DOUBT YOUR SON IS THE REASON he's calling it quits. A defenseless little boy, couldn't run him away, but an overbearing nurse?
I've dated the "ON" type and I've been the "ON" type. Live and learn.