What would you do? Stay at the club or go home with your man?

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 06, 2009 4:22 PM GMT
    I was out last night with some friends and one of them had a headache and wasn't feeling that great so he asked his boyfriend if they could leave. The boyfriend was having fun and wanted to stay so he suggested that his man go home and he'd get a ride from one of our other friends. The bf was visibly annoyed. It was around 10PM on a Sunday night, so it wasn't like he was wanting to go home super early. He ended up leaving alone and didn't seem too happy about it.

    I was a little surprised that the bf, who ended up staying out with the rest of us until after midnight, didn't go home with his man.

    So I'm curious...what would you do?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 06, 2009 4:37 PM GMT
    Hey,

    My boyfriend hates going to clubs in most cases, so the cjances that we ever go together are very slim. But in the rear cases we go, and the same situation would have taken place, i will go home with him.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 06, 2009 4:40 PM GMT
    It all depends, there has been times when my partner hasnt felt well and told me to stay while he grabs a cab home and then there are other times he has asked us both to leave due to him not feeling well (or vise versa).

    I really think it depends on the relationship and how sick/not feeling well the partner is.

    But if my partner said he wanted us both to leave I would do that.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 06, 2009 4:50 PM GMT
    Go with him. Always. Hes your man. Plenty of time to party. Plus that headache, etc might be something bad coming. You would feel like shit if you got home and he died of an aneurism, clutching the teddy bear you gave him for Valentines day that said "I love you", now wouldnt you? Of course the doctor told you he would have lived had someone found him in time. PLUS the body would probably be too cold for a quicky now. So there you have it. Tragedy all around. icon_eek.gif
  • GQjock

    Posts: 11649

    Jul 06, 2009 4:58 PM GMT
    O Boy .... icon_cool.gif

    Well at least he'd have the couch all
    made up nice and cozy for when he got home
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 06, 2009 5:45 PM GMT
    Well at least I know I'm not crazy...I was beginning to think I was some sort of buzz kill prude. icon_neutral.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 06, 2009 5:56 PM GMT
    My health is such that I sometimes do need to go home from the club earlier than planned. I invite my partner to stay with our friends. He has once or twice, but usually not.

    Maybe because it's a semi-regular thing with me we both try to be accommodating. And I do try to hang on for as long as I can, and not spoil his evening, so he knows if I say I have to leave, I really do. I dunno, I think partners should know these things about each other, and have an understanding about them.
  • Timbales

    Posts: 13993

    Jul 06, 2009 7:25 PM GMT
    It would depend on if he really had a headache or not.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 06, 2009 8:36 PM GMT
    I would leave with him. If it wasn't something serious, such as the headache, I might go back, but the first priority is making sure my man is ok and comfortable.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 06, 2009 8:46 PM GMT
    scftnsguy saidWell at least I know I'm not crazy...I was beginning to think I was some sort of buzz kill prude. icon_neutral.gif


    No, your response was a sane one.

    There was a forum on this before and the overwelhming majority would have left with their man.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 06, 2009 8:50 PM GMT
    As something as minor as a headache I would have told the BF to stay and that I was done and over it, no biggie.
  • bchbum

    Posts: 161

    Jul 06, 2009 9:11 PM GMT
    Since I'm single, doesn't apply to me. However, if I did have a bf and he wanted to leave early I would go with him.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 06, 2009 9:27 PM GMT
    I'd take him home - and get him some aspirin - and something to drink - anything I could do to help him feel better. There is always another night - another party - another deal to go to. The most important person in my life comes first. He'd do the same for me - gladly.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 06, 2009 9:37 PM GMT
    of course i'd go home with my bf if i had one.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 07, 2009 4:31 AM GMT

    Since I like sappy romance novels I'd not only leave with him, but anguish all night and curse the heavens for making him sick! However, as an esteemed cohabitant of a little place I like to call reality, cliche boundaries make some guys sick. In other words, the boyfriend doesn't believe in doing what any dashing, barrel chested keeper would do. He believes in rationality: he and his bf where having fun, his boyfriend got ill and will be ok, so why shouldn't he not stay and have fun? A little douche y for him to think that way, I know, but not completely irrational. Now if the headache were something that would affect both parties like something external to them both: for example somebody grabs boyfriend 2 by the collar and bf one knows it upsets him, definitely not cool to stay and party at a place your bf just got assaulted.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 07, 2009 4:37 AM GMT
    This happened a few months ago to a friend of mine. He wasn't feeling good, so wanted to go home. His bf, who lives in another city and doesn't go out partying much, wanted to stay out. My friend was really pissed off about it. Being biased, I sided with my friend on this one, because if I were in that situation I would go home with my sick bf (and so in turn I would want him to come home with me).
  • cityguy39

    Posts: 967

    Jul 07, 2009 4:44 AM GMT
    That's a no brain answer, you go home with your man if he's sick. I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall when he got home last night. That one decision can have so many unforeseen consequences on a relationship, that neither party can begin to fathom what the outcomes could be.
  • CuriousJockAZ

    Posts: 19119

    Jul 07, 2009 4:46 AM GMT
    It was a Sunday night for one, and 10pm is late for a Sunday. The BF was being selfish to stay at the club. That is why so many relationships don't work because one , or both, of the partners can't put the relationship first. The honeymoon appears to be over for that couple.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jul 07, 2009 4:49 AM GMT
    I would always go with him, unless for some reason he wanted me not to. For example, I prefer not being touched or talked to when I'm not feeling well, and I might accidentally bite your head off for no good reason if you initiate any kind of conversation that requires even the least bit of attention or thought. If he is like me and would like alone time I might stay, although i would probably still go with him, make him some soup, and relocate myself to some side room until my presence was requested.