Sometimes I wish I'd had a 'slut' phase

  • Timbales

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    Nov 24, 2007 1:05 AM GMT
    I can't help but wonder what I missed.
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    Nov 24, 2007 5:43 AM GMT
    I think i have plenty, but everytime when opportunity came, i chicken out. lol
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    Nov 24, 2007 4:56 PM GMT
    Timberoo you aren't the only one. I used to be so 'proud' of myself that I never had it, now. I kinda wonder what would have been if I did.
  • Timbales

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    Nov 24, 2007 5:58 PM GMT
    I never really felt proud, just didn't seem like me. I've been in a relationship since 1992, so the whole internet hook-up thing wasn't there. I think I am socially retarded, because I've never been able to get the hang of all the unspoken things that everyone else just seems to understand and acknowledge.

    I mean, I've had sex without a relationship a few times, but it's always been with someone I've known fairly well and it just kind of happened with us not wanting to take it further into a relationship.
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    Nov 24, 2007 7:32 PM GMT
    You mean you've never had casual sex? Wow. It can be great fun.
  • iHavok

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    Nov 24, 2007 7:54 PM GMT
    Go get tested for the clap.

    Then you'll see what you missed.

    Fixes any regrets very quickly.
  • Timbales

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    Nov 24, 2007 10:56 PM GMT
    briarhawk - I think that certainly would

    redheadguy - I've always worn a tuxedo or suit

    I've been told in the past by friends that I am a just not 'that guy'.
  • zakariahzol

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    Nov 25, 2007 1:53 AM GMT
    Slut phase for me is not having sex with different guys and multiple partner, I still do those today. For me is a time when I am doing barebacking and unsex behaviour. About 12 years ago I was so obsses with barebacking and I do screw (toP) with some guys condomless, though most of the time with one lover.

    I really regretted it. I have not take any HIV test so I am not sure my status but seem I no longer barebacking for the last 12 years hopefully I am negative.
  • GQjock

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    Nov 25, 2007 12:09 PM GMT
    This is a little the grass is always greener...
    or in this case the anonymous sex is always hotter

    We are who we are...
    do most guys have a lot of sex before they settle down
    yeah...I think so
    but hey...if you've been in a relationship for goin on 20yrs
    good for you
    I wouldn't give that up for some blow job after meeting some guy at the gym or in a club no matter how hot he is
  • Kevin82

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    Nov 25, 2007 2:04 PM GMT
    You missed drunken orgies and casual sex?!?
    I didn't know that existed.
  • Timbales

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    Nov 25, 2007 5:07 PM GMT
    Yeah, I haven't ever lived in a major metropolitan area, never been anywhere with tons of gay men around. I was 22 when I met my guy. At this point, I can't even imagine what it would be like to be single again.
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    Nov 25, 2007 5:39 PM GMT
    i never fooled around ..but now i'm making up for lost time. It has been really good for me to do blow off steam in a big way...experiment and deal with curiosity issues etc. that have bugged me almost subconsciously all my life. But in reality it is all in my head you aren't missing much.
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    Nov 25, 2007 11:18 PM GMT
    yeah, i really dont think youre missing too much. i am over this whole casual sex thing, would much rather come home to the same person every night. when you dont remember your sex partners names, it can be depressing
  • BlackJock79

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    Nov 26, 2007 6:45 PM GMT
    I'm going through my 'slut' phase now. icon_redface.gif And let me tell you... boy oh boy I'm having a BLAST! icon_biggrin.gif It does get kind of old tryin to find new booty every night but when you do... WOW! It kinda sucks too because I've met a few guys that have been BEAUTIFUL, we've done it and then you never speak to them again. But if I had the chance I would totally date them. Well... one of them... I mean I would date all of them but one at a time. icon_lol.gif
  • Laurence

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    Nov 27, 2007 3:32 PM GMT
    It's difficult to have the best of both worlds. It's great to be in a relationship, but sleeping around is fun too.

    Everyone I know has had a slut phase, some longer than others. I think it's part of live's experiences and you shouldn't knock it unless you've tried it.

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    Nov 27, 2007 5:43 PM GMT
    Sometimes i think that too... and then i think of all the people i know who have had them, or are having them, and how many, not all, of those people i know seem to just be "pretty pieces of flesh". No substance, no soul.

    they seem to be substance abusers too, it seems to go hand in hand.

    Plus i agree with what Briar said... going to the clinic to get those tests is a REAL eye opener. Makes me glad i didn't and dont have slut phases!
  • Timbales

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    Nov 27, 2007 11:40 PM GMT
    It's pretty much too late for me now, anyway. I don't plan on breaking up to have one. When and if I am single again, I'll most likely be too old unless I want to be the senior center slut.
  • liftordie

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    Nov 28, 2007 2:46 AM GMT
    there will only ever be one Blanche DuBois mister!!
  • Timbales

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    Nov 28, 2007 4:29 AM GMT
    True, I'm probably more of a Rose anyway. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 30, 2007 5:55 AM GMT
    Sometimes I feel like you do too, Timber.

    When I was younger, I didn't have the self-confidence to go really out there and pickup for casual sex. Then when I started being a bit more forward and being able to chat comfortably with strangers, I would find myself taking a guy home who would want to marry me in the morning.

    So the quick "hook-up" as you guys call it, never really happened for me.

    oh well.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Nov 30, 2007 5:59 AM GMT
    Look at it this way Timber. U missed out on any free gifts like an std. I don't look at it as missing out.
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    Dec 04, 2007 4:05 PM GMT
    I am 25 & have had 3-4 "Slut Phases". It Is Good & fun at times, but luckly i haven't gotten any STD's which is what you really need to stay away from!! use protection!!!
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    Dec 06, 2007 3:38 AM GMT
    Came out at 24. Got into an LTR at 25. Dropped out of that at 41. Slut stage started then! icon_razz.gif You're never too old for it!

    Granted, I've found that it didn't last too long for me, and as I'm really more interested in making a connection with a guy, the hookups make me feel like I've eaten a bag of potato chips: a rush while you're doing it, but leaves you sick to your stomach afterwards.

    Now, if I could just find a friend with benefits.
  • asupas

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    Dec 10, 2007 6:31 PM GMT
    I never had a slut phase and I don't really think I missed out on anything. Sex with someone I love was always better than the few times I had casual sex.
  • Tyinstl

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    Dec 12, 2007 1:52 PM GMT
    It's great stuff but it desensitizes you.

    I tend to objectify men a lot more now that I have hookups...but I may just be a chauvenist peeg.