OMG!!! GET OVER YOURSELF!!!

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    Jul 08, 2009 4:50 AM GMT
    OK... So I have this "friend" more like a pest... And everyday no matter how many times I delete his friend request on myspace, facebook, here!!! He is always talking about his relationships, friend problems, and how much "money" he has, his new cars,.. o yea... about his "modeling" and "acting" career.. ok so the kid is 5'5", 180 lbs.. so obviously hes not a model.. hes constantly sending these pix he takes and photoshops.. saying they are from his last abercrombie shoot... lol..(btw whats with everybody being a model im proud to say all my pix are pool side and taken by a friend are from being bored and i took them) but what is the best way to let him know I DONT CARE!!!! with out making him feel too bad.. im usually an ass and can do the whole u arent ever going to be my friend thing.. but this guy needs a friend.. but im not into others life dramas and stories... and i dont want to hear it any more... how can i say get over yourself.. with out making him want to commit suicide!!!
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    Jul 08, 2009 5:23 AM GMT
    What makes you think he's going to commit suicide if you turn him down and do it in an unkind way? We've all been dumped or told to "fuck off" at some point...maybe it's his turn to be told by you.
    Why do you need to "ok" him as a FRIEND?, Just hit the ignore and delete buttons......Action taken and initiated by him does not require your acceptance or Acquiescence.....just ignore and move along .
    Tell him to "stop" once or twice, and then report him if it is that big of an issue.icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 08, 2009 1:57 PM GMT

    If he's a member here, problem solved. I wrote a thread like this about a date with bad breath once and I felt like you: wanted to oust him, but also wanted to keep him around. He got wind of that thread and that was all she wrote.

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    Jul 08, 2009 2:21 PM GMT
    well yea.. i really dont want him around.. but for some reason i feel so bad.. because obviously he needs a friend!!! trust me.. hes soooo dramatic... lol... very dramatic... hes the type that if you yelled at him he would act like hes dying or something.. lol.. but ill figure somthing out.. thanks!
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    Jul 08, 2009 2:24 PM GMT
    Kindness to strangers is admirable and speaks well of a person...but also important is having proper boundaries and being able to vocalize those uncrossable lines.

    Good luck.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jul 08, 2009 2:39 PM GMT
    Maybe what he needs is a friend who will be brutally honest with him. It may hurt at first, but he may learn from it and emerge a better, wiser, more truthful, and less dramatic person. Be upfront with the guy and explain to him that his bragging about his material things, and his obvious dishonestly about things like "his last Abercrombie Shoot" are a turnoff. Tell him that you look for honesty and integrity in friendships, and that he hasn't shown you either. Be direct, but try to say it in a nice way so he understands that you aren't trying to be mean, but rather just trying to let him know honestly why you, and perhaps others as well, have resisted his friendship. Sometimes being open and honest with someone is ultimately the nicest thing you can do for them.
  • calibro

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    Jul 08, 2009 2:48 PM GMT
    Being someone's friend out of pity is like putting sugar in someone's unsweetened iced tea and calling it splenda.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 08, 2009 3:03 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidMaybe what he needs is a friend who will be brutally honest with him.


    I agree with Todd, being bluntly honest doesn't imply that you have to be an ass. I can appreciate where you are coming from, but I'd be clear, but blunt.
    If he throws a fit or gets nasty is his own issue, don't get involved with either, just tell him like it is. Maybe he will learn and improve as a result.
  • coolarmydude

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    Jul 08, 2009 4:18 PM GMT
    Just tell him "Your interests aren't closely the same as my interests and I'm sorry, but I'm not interested in your emails."

    Be prepared for a queeny response. If he continues, you may need to file a restraining order.
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    Jul 08, 2009 4:33 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidMaybe what he needs is a friend who will be brutally honest with him.




    And if that doesn't work, then tell him to fuck off......
  • EricPrado

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    Jul 08, 2009 4:39 PM GMT
    You guys make this harder than it is. It's not that hard to just brush someone off you know. I had someone who was sort of like that too. He'd always brag about all the money he supposedly had, how everyone always wanted to be his friend, and all this other crap that only he believed. I think the guy was just jealous of me.

    But yeah, just completely ignore the guy. they should get the point. And if they don't.... get a restraining order! haha.
    Or maybe he just doesn't have any friends?

    hey, does he act this way with other people too or just you?
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    Jul 08, 2009 4:56 PM GMT
    I say just be upfront and let him know you are in no way interested.

    I had someone like that (still kinda do) but he's backed off a bit. He thought i was playing hard to get but i was just being nice about it. I ended up coming face to face with him and he happen to know my friend who decided to give him a ride to the train station. The guy asks me for my number and when i said sorry no he wouldn't let me out of the car, literally. So yea i kind of had to put him in his place, in a not so polite way.

    He probably thinks you're doing the whole cat and mouse thing.
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    Jul 09, 2009 3:07 AM GMT
    calibro saidBeing someone's friend out of pity is like putting sugar in someone's unsweetened iced tea and calling it splenda.


    What's a splenda? icon_surprised.gif
  • EricPrado

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    Jul 09, 2009 3:53 AM GMT
    Sedative said
    calibro saidBeing someone's friend out of pity is like putting sugar in someone's unsweetened iced tea and calling it splenda.


    What's a splenda? icon_surprised.gif




    lol
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    Jul 09, 2009 3:58 AM GMT
    simple solution!

    BLOCK....



    next!!!
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    Jul 09, 2009 6:02 AM GMT
    If the kid wanted to commit suicide because you don't want to talk with him, then he has problems much bigger than anything you can help him with. He may need a friend, but you don't need the stress of a pathalogical liar and drama queen in your life. One day he'll grow up, it's just not going to be today.
  • joggerva

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    Jul 09, 2009 6:25 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan said
    CuriousJockAZ saidMaybe what he needs is a friend who will be brutally honest with him.


    I agree with Todd, being bluntly honest doesn't imply that you have to be an ass. I can appreciate where you are coming from, but I'd be clear, but blunt.
    If he throws a fit or gets nasty is his own issue, don't get involved with either, just tell him like it is. Maybe he will learn and improve as a result.


    I'm going to be bluntly honest and hopefully not an ass. Every time I see your new profile pic in a thread I think it looks like you're peeing in your garden. icon_smile.gif