Have you ever picked up roots - without any firm plans and relocated to another place/state - come what may? How did things turn out for you?

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    Jul 09, 2009 3:55 AM GMT
    Where did you go? Did you have enough money? Were you excited but scare as well? What made or led up to you making such a move?
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    Jul 09, 2009 5:52 AM GMT
    I did. I moved out of my parents when I was 17 with nothing for a house, no money and no job. Fresh out of high school. I was terrified but things seem to have a way of working out, "Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but doesn't get you anywhere."

    As of recently I have been thinking about selling everything I own, shedding all of my personal property and just moving again. Who knows..........
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    Jul 09, 2009 6:29 AM GMT
    yes, i have done it a few times. it's something to do when you're in your 20's, so do it now, rather than later. you'll meet alot of amazing people, and learn alot of valuable lessons. stability can wait.
  • kinetic

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    Jul 09, 2009 9:47 AM GMT
    Yes actually,
    I moved to Houston TX from Boston MA on Feb 1st 2008 with $50 in my pocket and a couch to crash on (in a house of people I barely knew).
    I did it because I had to leave a relationship that went really bad. It has been a very difficult experience that I would not wish upon anyone.
    Had I taken care of my own life and concentrated on my own goals instead of that of my ex-boyfriend's and had he been more honest with me, I think I would be in a very different place than I am now.
    I'm glad that I've managed to make things work in Houston.
    It took me about 14 weeks to finally get a place after holding down a job for a while -And I really had to bust my ass for it.
    The 1st year was very rough, but every month things seem to get easier. Hopefully I will make it back to school in a year or so (I was hoping to be in a grad program by now), but life seems to have all sorts of setbacks...
    I have definitely learned some hard lessons through all of this.
    Most important, that I have to be able to really take care of myself and to never let ANYONE interfere with my goals and aspirations. Also, to not let people take advantage of me whether it be a work or social situation (which people often have).
    I feel very fortunate to have made some good friends and to have come through this situation relatively ok.
    I know that without the love and support of my friends and family (although I was a bit estranged from family for a while) things would be much much worse for me.

    The next time I move ANYWHERE, I hope there will be a plan and a positive reason for it; not because I have to flee a messed-up situation.
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    Jul 09, 2009 10:44 AM GMT
    Actually I'm doing that this year, worked hard to pay off all my bills and have been saving money for a while so I'm not struggling till i find work.
    I'm very excited at the prospect and I'll be free to move to a different city if things don't work out ( in Vegas ) and Yes I'm a little scared as well.
    My job here has turned out to be dead end after working for a guy for years that made all kinds of false promises... plus I'm in Detroit.. that's reason enough to move.

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    Jul 09, 2009 11:46 AM GMT
    Lived in Chicago 10 years. Got a new job in San Francisco and had completely moved in 11 days. Ditched everything but the cats and the hard drives. Still a bit jarring - don't feel 'in love' with San Francisco as everyone else seems to be - including my beau. I'm sure I'll grow to love it.
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    Jul 09, 2009 3:34 PM GMT
    I did 4.5 years ago when I decided to move to SF and about to do it again in 3 weeks and relocate to Denver, this is some exciting shit!! I can't WAIT!!!
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    Jul 09, 2009 3:36 PM GMT
    andymatic saidLived in Chicago 10 years. Got a new job in San Francisco and had completely moved in 11 days. Ditched everything but the cats and the hard drives. Still a bit jarring - don't feel 'in love' with San Francisco as everyone else seems to be - including my beau. I'm sure I'll grow to love it.



    I LOVE SF just never fell IN LOVE with SF! I'll always call this place 'home' and will ALWAYS come and visit, but Denver felt like 'home' to me, so off I go!
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    Jul 09, 2009 3:40 PM GMT
    when i was 22, i went on vacation to austria then decided that i wanted to move to hawaii so i picked up and moved there without a place to live or any connections at all.

    i lived among the homeless people on the beach for a few days until i found a place to live and a job.

    it was the best decision i ever made.
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    Jul 09, 2009 3:46 PM GMT
    dancerjack said it's something to do when you're in your 20's, so do it now, rather than later. you'll meet alot of amazing people, and learn alot of valuable lessons. stability can wait.


    I don't completely agree with this, I'm doing it now in my 30's and I'm TOTALLY loving the freedom and adventure!!! Although some people tend to "settle down" more in their 30's I suppose is what Jack is referring to....
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    Jul 09, 2009 3:58 PM GMT
    I have done it a few times and it always worked out. I moved from Texas to LA, from LA to New York, and from New York to Italy. I have tried London but didn't like that.

    The one thing I have to say about the experience is to be clear about the motives. Life's problems are portable and I always ask myself if I am moving toward something that I want or away from something I don't like.

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    Jul 09, 2009 4:00 PM GMT
    UrsaMajor said

    The one thing I have to say about the experience is to be clear about the motives. Life's problems are portable and I always ask myself if I am moving toward something that I want or away from something I don't like.




    And NEVER move for a man!!!
  • cacti

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    Jul 09, 2009 7:13 PM GMT
    I'm pretty much in the middle of this right now, actually!

    I drove from Indiana to Seattle last week with everything I could fit in my Yaris hatchback. The drive was deserving of a story in itself... I quit my full time job to make this happen, and no, I don't have a job here yet.

    The reason? I was in a long distance relationship(with a guy I have known for almost 4 years), and neither one of us could stand being apart anymore. Not to mention I felt as if I were rotting in Indiana and desperately needed to get out. So it was not just about my boyfriend. icon_wink.gif I have a little bit of money, but only enough to last me for about two months.

    If any of you Seattle RJers have any job leads, especially in TV(editor- producers love me!) hit me up!
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    Jul 09, 2009 7:16 PM GMT
    Yes I did. Best thing I ever did, no question. Not sure who I would be if I hadn't.

    Went from Boston => Albuquerque in '94 with no friends or job. Had never really been out of New England prior to that. I was purposefully looking for a good culture shock. ABQ fit the bill. Sure, I went to Austin a year later (same circumstances, actually), but don't regret a thing.

    I have since found my career as well as became far more confortable with being gay (here in TX!) than I ever would have in MA. Who'd have thought that?
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    Jul 09, 2009 7:21 PM GMT
    RuggerATX saidI have since found my career as well as became far more confortable with being gay (here in TX!) than I ever would have in MA. Who'd have thought that?


    Sounds like an Irish Catholic upbringing. I can relate to that - being from suburban Boston myself.

    Never made a really big move myself, but I'd never really needed to. Of course, that could all change in a heartbeat.
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    Jul 09, 2009 7:23 PM GMT
    Have you ever picked up roots - without any firm plans and relocated to another place/state - come what may? How did things turn out for you?

    Yep, sure did. Like jumping off a cliff, and not knowing what was below me. And I've always landed in... gravy. If there is a God, He sure must like me a lot, or else He takes pity on fools! LOL!
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    Jul 09, 2009 7:24 PM GMT
    jprichva saidAnd next week, I'm moving from Wilton Manors to Oakland Park, a hefty 1.5 miles away.

    Oh my! You are? Do you need help? Let us know! We're right around the corner.
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    Jul 09, 2009 8:21 PM GMT
    YUP! Just after university I picked up and left for Australia...after 3 months in Sydney I started my application for my residency. 2 years later, the very WEEK I recieved my temporary residency, I made the trek back to Canada. Being THAT far from my family was just too difficult...what can I say?!...I'm greek.
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    Jul 09, 2009 9:00 PM GMT
    After nearly starving to death in Phoenix, for five years, I said one afternoon, "enough." I packed up and headed to Dallas with $65.00 in my pocket.

    I arrived in Dallas, at Josey Lane and I-635 with $65.00 in my pocket, on a Friday afternoon at 4:30 p.m. in a city where I knew no persons. I fired up my fax machine and by 11:30 a.m. on Saturday morning, I had a $28.00 / hour job.

    I had inadvertently moved into one of the strongest tech economies in the world, at absolutely the perfect time.

    The rest is history.
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    Jul 09, 2009 9:06 PM GMT
    I have never lived in the same city longer than 3 years in my entire life, while I'm trying to stay settled in the city of my family, I have done the pick and go with little to nothing to such places as:

    Boulder, Colorado, USA

    Jakarta, Indonesia

    Singapore

    Mexico City

    New York

    Paris

    Amsterdam, Netherlands

    and a number of villages here and there
  • bchbum

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    Jul 09, 2009 9:11 PM GMT
    I'd love to just pick up and leave. Unfortunately, I'm tied down with two houses and bills to pay. I do feel like I'm rotting away and wasting the best years of my life in this small sleepy town. Two more years....crossing my fingers...and I'm out of here. I'm ready to head West....where I'm originally from.
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    Jul 09, 2009 9:26 PM GMT
    i'd love to just move somewhere but idk where to go...
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    Jul 10, 2009 6:17 AM GMT
    UrsaMajor said
    The one thing I have to say about the experience is to be clear about the motives. Life's problems are portable and I always ask myself if I am moving toward something that I want or away from something I don't like.



    I so agree with the 'life's problems are portable.......' On a different note, I need a change of pace and scenery.

    I'm a native New Yorker, but have tired of the hustle and bustle and am not impressed by New York at all. I just recently returned from Austin TX - loved it - and on the flight home as the NY skyline appeared I felt more disappointed than happy to return.

    Neither mortgage, chick, child or guy holds me here in NY so maybe this time next year and I'll be an Austinite.
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    Jul 10, 2009 7:10 AM GMT
    i came to the US for grad school with just enough money for 1 semester- luckily i managed to get funding by working part time, send most of the money back home and then moved to san francisco with a ticket i bought from my tax refund after working in 2001- so i moved twice in 18 months. was a very exciting part of my life. no money, no fear, 2 bags worth of belongings, lots of confidence ( or recklessness) and lots of helpful folks along the way.

    why displace yourself?
    i moved because i realized i was gay and life would be better here. although i dont recollect writing that in my grad school 'statement of purpose'.icon_surprised.gif
    now, after 8 yrs of staying here, i dont have any strong desire to move- i want to stay here for a while..not sure if its because i like san francisco so much or its because i'm getting older.

    if u feel like a move will do you good- you owe it to yourself. good luck.
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    Jul 12, 2009 3:50 PM GMT
    Long story short, I was 18. Couldn't find a job. Looked for months and months, my money was running out. I lost my apartment and had to move back home.

    Things are going a lot better with the house me and my bf just got however, though he just lost a really important client and so his hours have dropped drammatically.