Flirting

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    Jul 10, 2009 1:40 AM GMT
    I'm a pretty friendly guy but I'm not used to strangers being outwardly friendly towards me, especially guys my age. If some guy my age starts talking to me my first thought is "this guy wants to sell me pot", "this guy wants some change" or "this guy is psycho". Afterwards I realize that, hey, maybe he kept talking to me cause he was interested in me. The chances may be slim but it's possible.
    It happened to me yesterday in the movie theatre. I was with some friends and a guy two seats over from me kept pointing out the previews to me and asking me if I thought they looked good.
    I was hoping you guys could give me some tips on this sort of thing.

    -What are some signs that someone is flirting and not just being friendly?

    -What are some good ways to avoid akward chatter?

    -How often do you meet guys out and around that are gay (that you meet up with again afterwards)?

    Thanks
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    Jul 10, 2009 2:33 AM GMT
    oh good lord..

    You aint fuck ugly, ya kinda cute.. YES.. the chances are pretty good a guy would flirt with you..



    How do you know..
    well.. if its me flirting, I'm playful and fun, I say and do stuff that gets a laugh and gives me a chance to get in close and get a little touchy.. be that a nudge with ma shoulder, my hand going somewhere..

    Lots of smiles, general focus is usually on you, but a good flirt involves everyone in a group to some extent but your usually the main focus..

    Flirting is obvious to everyone watching with any interest what so ever in what and who happens to you.. so if your friends say "he's flirting with you" there is a massive chance he is and I mean MASSIVE!!

    thats how I do it and yeah I have met quite a few guys just out and about
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    Jul 10, 2009 3:53 AM GMT
    Eye contact is a pretty good indicator.

    Also, as Tanker said, any attempt at physical contact... that's flirting.
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    Jul 10, 2009 4:52 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidoh good lord..

    You aint fuck ugly, ya kinda cute.. YES.. the chances are pretty good a guy would flirt with you..



    How do you know..
    well.. if its me flirting, I'm playful and fun, I say and do stuff that gets a laugh and gives me a chance to get in close and get a little touchy.. be that a nudge with ma shoulder, my hand going somewhere..

    Lots of smiles, general focus is usually on you, but a good flirt involves everyone in a group to some extent but your usually the main focus..

    Flirting is obvious to everyone watching with any interest what so ever in what and who happens to you.. so if your friends say "he's flirting with you" there is a massive chance he is and I mean MASSIVE!!

    thats how I do it and yeah I have met quite a few guys just out and about


    Hmm wasn't trying to say I am ugly or unlikeable merely that chances are they aren't gay. Anyway... thanks for the compliment.
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    Jul 10, 2009 4:57 AM GMT
    TrowelMonger saidHmm wasn't trying to say I am ugly or unlikeable merely that chances are they aren't gay. Anyway... thanks for the compliment.
    we queers are everywhere.. the chances are good
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    Jul 10, 2009 5:15 AM GMT
    Oh - flirting? I didn't have my glasses on - - - - I thought the title of this thread said fisting!

    I don't know anything about the former, and far too much about the latter.


    Edit: I said that backwards..........oh please make the e-mails stop! I've never been fisted - - - - and truth be known - I could never take something as massive as the huge appendage belonging to TheGuyNextDoor!!!! OMG!!!
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    Jul 10, 2009 5:15 AM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidOh - flirting? I didn't have my glasses on - - - - I thought the title of this thread said fisting!

    I don't know anything about the former, and far too much about the latter.


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    Jul 10, 2009 5:29 AM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidOh - flirting? I didn't have my glasses on - - - - I thought the title of this thread said fisting!

    I don't know anything about the former, and far too much about the latter.

    Dats just SCARY!!! icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 10, 2009 7:47 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Jockbod48 saidOh - flirting? I didn't have my glasses on - - - - I thought the title of this thread said fisting!

    I don't know anything about the former, and far too much about the latter.

    Dats just SCARY!!! icon_eek.gif


    Scary because I would normally think one would flirt before fisting. Where are people's manners these days?
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    Jul 10, 2009 7:49 AM GMT
    BradySF said
    lilTanker said
    Jockbod48 saidOh - flirting? I didn't have my glasses on - - - - I thought the title of this thread said fisting!

    I don't know anything about the former, and far too much about the latter.

    Dats just SCARY!!! icon_eek.gif


    Scary because I would normally think one would flirt before fisting. Where are people's manners these days?

    apparently up the crappa..
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    Jul 10, 2009 8:00 AM GMT

    Monger,

    this instance concerns a movie theater where he couldn't really see your face
    or have an opportunity to see your personality shine. those are two important aspects of flirting: focus and a judgment call made by the pursuer. if you're someone who catches his attention, he's going to look. if your personality attracts him past the physical, he'll linger.

    different people flirt in various ways, but if they are flirting with you, then you can rest easy knowing that you are his main focus. when being the pursuant, take notice as to how it makes you feel. your intuition may cause you to react, thereby signaling to you that something is happening (fight or flight).

    an effective flirtation can mirror that of, haha - in the wild - a predator pursuing their prey. wild, but, if you want something, you've gotta either work for it or lure it.
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    Jul 10, 2009 10:06 AM GMT
    Well, I bet he was flirting with you. The first thing you notice about a guy is what he looks like, and then you go from there.

    Maybe he saw you in the lobby or at the concession stand, thought you were cute, so he tried to make a move when you were in the theatre?

    As for avoiding awkward chatter, that is part of the *ahem* fun part of flirting. Unless both guys are on EXACTLY the same page, or the guy is really aggressive in his flirting, there will likely be some awkward moments/pauses.

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    Jul 10, 2009 10:52 AM GMT
    *sigh* Sadly, I lack the ability to flirt, so usually if I like you I'll ignore you or tease you.
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    Jul 10, 2009 11:00 AM GMT
    syd_hockey_79 said*sigh* Sadly, I lack the ability to flirt, so usually if I like you I'll ignore you or tease you.

    ah huh.. I hear this from a lot of guys.. it don't fly.. its like breathing.. flirting is built in..
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    Jul 10, 2009 11:12 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    syd_hockey_79 said*sigh* Sadly, I lack the ability to flirt, so usually if I like you I'll ignore you or tease you.

    ah huh.. I hear this from a lot of guys.. it don't fly.. its like breathing.. flirting is built in..


    Mmmm no. I missed that gene. I think it's partly because Im uncomfortable around other gay guys, so I dont know how to let someone know Im interested, and Im oblivious to when a guy is flirting with me.

    The last guy I flirted with went home with someone else, so that must say something about my talents, or lack thereof..
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    Jul 10, 2009 11:17 AM GMT
    lilTanker said its like breathing.. flirting is built in..

    It may be built in, but all too many of us have an automatic override mechanism that's hard to disable.
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    Jul 10, 2009 11:19 AM GMT
    syd_hockey_79 said
    lilTanker said
    syd_hockey_79 said*sigh* Sadly, I lack the ability to flirt, so usually if I like you I'll ignore you or tease you.

    ah huh.. I hear this from a lot of guys.. it don't fly.. its like breathing.. flirting is built in..


    Mmmm no. I missed that gene. I think it's partly because Im uncomfortable around other gay guys, so I dont know how to let someone know Im interested, and Im oblivious to when a guy is flirting with me.

    The last guy I flirted with went home with someone else, so that must say something about my talents, or lack thereof..

    OMG it is totally easy and you've the gene.. I promise you its there.. it's like a fantastic piece of arse.. its there.. its waiting.. you want it.. all you gotta do is grab it and make use of it.. ;)
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    Jul 10, 2009 11:57 AM GMT
    TrowelMonger saidI'm a pretty friendly guy but I'm not used to strangers being outwardly friendly towards me, especially guys my age. If some guy my age starts talking to me my first thought is "this guy wants to sell me pot", "this guy wants some change" ,,......



    I don't think I've ever thought that....LOL.

    I think you are getting some good advice. I know when someone is flirting with me and when its just a conversation. When someone is flirting, its more direct, eye contact, more intense, generally a more personal discussion and more times than not its done in a very friendly way with laughing and very positively.

    I can flirt, I enjoy it... but there is a line. I know what it is and it shouldn't be crossed. If you are flirting to induce action... i.e. dating, a serious intent to know that person romantically, etc. That wouldn't be what my focus would be.
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    Jul 10, 2009 12:33 PM GMT
    If I had to say one way or another, I'd agree with those who have said this guy was flirting with you. I don't know anyone who gives a crap about what perfect strangers think about yet-to-be released movies. icon_wink.gif

    My only advice would be to keep your antenna up (you're right, people do have agendas that may not be apparent at first), have fun with it and be yourself.

    If nothing else, you may score a better deal on pot. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jul 11, 2009 4:13 AM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidOh - flirting? I didn't have my glasses on - - - - I thought the title of this thread said fisting!

    I don't know anything about the former, and far too much about the latter.


    Edit: I said that backwards..........oh please make the e-mails stop! I've never been fisted - - - - and truth be known - I could never take something as massive as the huge appendage belonging to TheGuyNextDoor!!!! OMG!!!

    Different strokes for different blokes- that's the saying, right?