What is more important in a relationship- great communication, or great sex?

  • silverfox

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    Jul 11, 2009 4:57 AM GMT
    Oh and if you answer "great communication because then you can explain to your partner what you want to make it great sex".....I don't buy it.

    Can you be in a relationship without having great communication?

    Can you be in a relationship without having great sex?

    I am going to post my answer tomorrow because I am falling asleep...but I had this topic on my mind and would like to know your thoughts....

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  • Delivis

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    Jul 11, 2009 5:11 AM GMT
    If you have great communication, good chance you'll have good sex.
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    Jul 11, 2009 5:12 AM GMT
    unfortunately, Delivis... thats not the case..

    But, I'll take communication over the sex..
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    Jul 11, 2009 6:43 AM GMT
    Ditto on the communication over sex.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 11, 2009 10:51 AM GMT
    Of course you have to have good communication
    But why does that mean you have to forgo any good sex?
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    Jul 11, 2009 11:01 AM GMT
    Over time, if a couple has good communication skills, I assume they'd become closer--otherwise problems may occur and the relationship may end (what's the point of a healthy relationship if you can't communicate?)

    Being close to your partner and loving him, I feel in most cases, can lead to great sex.

    I believe passion leads to great sex for many couples.

    This isn't true for everyone though.
  • Latenight30

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    Jul 11, 2009 11:05 AM GMT
    COMMUNICATION
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    Jul 11, 2009 11:40 AM GMT
    Great Communication.


    During Great Sex.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 11, 2009 12:29 PM GMT
    I love both... and perhaps its just because your "tired" there Michael that you don't buy the good communication yields good sex argument.

    There are various types of communication. Good chemistry is direct communication, so whether it be verbal, non verbal or chemistry... there is communication and that directly affects great sex.

    I count on my communication for sex.
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    Jul 11, 2009 2:22 PM GMT
    I am a full and complete human being. Therefor I have full and complete human needs. Some of those needs can be met with communication. Some of those needs can be met with sex. Having it be one or the other is like asking "which would you like this weekend: food or sleep?" Sure, you can hypothetically chose one in this thread, but the reality is if you have only one you have a shitty relationship and you are better off finding a different one.
  • triniboy

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    Jul 11, 2009 2:29 PM GMT
    Communication is key to any relationship.
    Also with great communication you will be able to convey that the sex could use some improvement icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 11, 2009 2:37 PM GMT


    Great communication equals great sex? lol, no!

    HOW you communicate is just as important. Sex is a form of communication, on a very basic level, so.......

    Now we can see some of you shaking your heads over this, but wait! heheh

    We think some of the answers on here more appropriate to 'Which situation will last and which won't? A relationship based on communication or sex?' Communication wins. A relationship based on sex, no.


  • Klutch84

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    Jul 11, 2009 2:45 PM GMT
    Communication! You can find good sex more often than you can find good, genuine communication and having that connection/chemistry with someone.
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    Jul 11, 2009 3:05 PM GMT
    Sex, you know you have great communication skills when you both have happy endings without Talking.
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    Jul 11, 2009 3:18 PM GMT
    Why does it have to be either? The answer is BOTH and thensome.
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    Jul 11, 2009 3:23 PM GMT
    Assuming you're getting both, for me it would be communication, too. But frankly, I'd want both to be great, and that's really what I look for.

    "What's more important" questions like these remind me of a satirical "Peanuts" comic I saw many years ago, when jogging had recently become a big craze in the US. And Snoopy the dog was out jogging, little outfit & all, and his body parts were all arguing with each other, with text balloons emanating from different parts of his body. His body parts were insisting that each was the most important one for jogging. The text balloons went something like this:

    Eyes: "Well, we eyes are the most important. You couldn't see where you're going without us!"

    Brain: "You wouldn't know where to go without me!"

    Feet: "How would you even jog without us?"

    Stomach: "Try jogging without any energy!"

    And so on. Therefore whenever I read one of these "most important" puzzles I'm reminded of that comic, and what an impossible question they usually beg.
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    Jul 11, 2009 3:24 PM GMT
    I have to say both. But not 50/50.
    I would say 70% - great sex
    30% great communication.
    Then as we become wrinkled, and out of shape old geezers, you can flip the bloody numbers around!! icon_wink.gif
    But seriously....my partner and I have been together for 10 years. Great sex has always been the best therapy and communication.
    Cheers,
    Keith
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    Jul 11, 2009 3:28 PM GMT
    I never understood couples, especially long term, who have stable loving relationships but DON'T have sex. I guess I can understand cuddling, kissing, communication and waking up next to someone you love, but no actual sex?

    And then there are relationships when the sex is out of this world, but the guys don't communicate. Let's face it...you really don't need to communicate much when the testosterone is in high drive. I've been with guys where the sex was great, but they turned out to be vacant emotionally.

    I thought it was generally understood by anyone with a brain that in the beginning, sex is usually fantastic. But it's impossible to maintain that level of intensity for years and years.

    I think with communication, the sex, while it still is hot, becomes more nurturing and loving and longer lasting if the guys are growing together emotionally. I mean.....LOVE is a powerful aphrodisiac.
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    Jul 11, 2009 3:59 PM GMT
    You can have great communication with your friends too... If he's the only guy you're having sex with, it better be good icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 11, 2009 3:59 PM GMT
    communication, communication, communication, sex comes with the deal if the former's great icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 11, 2009 4:15 PM GMT
    I think communication is the most important aspect of any successful relationship, whether it be platonic or romantic. However, the importance of sex and intimacy cannot be ignored either.

    But I say communcation over sex. Yes, there are certainly many long term partners, both of the homo and hetero sort, who do not have sex for whatever reason. Clearly, it's not a necessity, and I think in long term relationships, the dynamics change, and it may not be as much about lust as it is love and being soul mates.

  • Timbales

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    Jul 11, 2009 4:20 PM GMT
    Relationships are not static. Any relationship that lasts will change throughout it's course. Communication is the key to every relationship.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jul 11, 2009 4:39 PM GMT
    Not sure you can have truly great sex over the long term without good communication. Regardless, I'll take good communication over great sex any day cuz good communication would lead to great sex anyway. Okay, now who's ready to communicate icon_wink.gif
  • calibro

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    Jul 11, 2009 5:10 PM GMT
    Great communication. I can have great sex with a stranger. Can't have a relationship without communication.
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    Jul 11, 2009 5:11 PM GMT
    just sex = fuck buddy
    just communication = friend

    you need both, communication being more important (as long as the sex is not ikky)