Putting the poor little guy to sleep :(

  • danisnotstr8

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    Jul 11, 2009 7:15 AM GMT
    I have an 11 year old miniature dachshund. Two weeks ago he started acting very lethargic-- this is a studly little dog that has hiked many miles with me on the Appalachian Trail and many other places-- well, he has been tired. And he was just diagnosed with aggressive lymphoma and I have to put him to sleep on Monday. He's gone from 12 pounds to 8 pounds in just a couple weeks and now he can't even stand up. As I write this, he's curled up asleep around my leg. Benjamin is so sweet and so many people love him. I have been crying for a couple days now, and at this point I'm just looking for words of wisdom. Uggh. Just venting. I love this dog so much. I adopted him from a rescue-- he was found in a shed 9 years ago where he was abandoned and locked there to die by the woman who had moved out of her house. He has scars on his ears from where the flies were eating him. 9 years... every night... this dog has slept pressed up against me. Monday is the day. I have never cried about anything so hard in my life. icon_rolleyes.gif

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    Jul 11, 2009 11:33 AM GMT
    My heart goes out to you. I had to put one of my dachshunds down a few months ago. He was a rescue dog too.

    The days before reaching the decision were some of the hardest for my partner and me. It was an agonizing decision but, ultimately, the right one for our little guy and one that we, as his pet parents, were responsible for making on his behalf. Dogs count on us to do right by them and, sadly, sometimes it means being strong enough to let them go with as much dignity as possible and not to prolong their suffering. You are doing the right thing for Benjamin.

    My partner and I spent as much time as we could the day before just holding our little guy and doing everything we could to let him know how much we loved him and how much he meant to us. He was pretty out of it by that point but I think he felt loved and it helped us come to terms with the situation. You might want to spend as much time as you can this weekend with Benjamin letting him know how much he means to you.

    Wish there was more I could say or do. Just know that you're not alone and others here are with you in spirit during this hard time.
  • RSportsguy

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    Jul 11, 2009 11:41 AM GMT
    I am so sorry Dan!! icon_sad.gif

  • GQjock

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    Jul 11, 2009 11:43 AM GMT
    I am truly sorry my man that you have to go through this
    I understand the hurt and the loss that you are facing
    But you need to remember that you are the only one who can end his pain
    You've made a good caring home for him and kept him safe and happy for many years
    Now it's your responsibility not to have him suffer any more than is necessary
    My thoughts are with you
  • xysx

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    Jul 11, 2009 11:43 AM GMT
    I'm so sorry to hear that you two have to go through this. What an unfair crushing to your heart this must be! He has sure been fortunate to have found you, and for you both to have enriched one another's lives. It sounds like it has been a win-win relationship for the both of you, you each have gained by having the other to spend a part of life with. you have done a wonderful job to provide for him. My heart and thoughts will with you.
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    Jul 11, 2009 12:15 PM GMT
    A beloved pet is a vital member of the family and the connection they have with the humans is unmatched. My condolences to you for what you, in a very humane way, are about to do. Thank you for not allowing him to suffer though you are and will for awhile. I am sorry you have to deal with this. icon_sad.gificon_cry.gif
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    Jul 11, 2009 1:09 PM GMT
    Dan, thanks so much for rescuing Benjamin.
    You made up for the misery he experienced before you adopted him.
    It's a success story.
    If more people would adopt rescues instead of buying bred dogs, maybe none of them would have to suffer or be homeless.

    If you have a vet that will come to your house, it won't be any easier on you, but it'll be more private and maybe a more serene transition for Benjamin.

    I've been thru it a couple of times. I'm usually a wreck, then like steel for the procedure, then a wreck again. Then it helps to have a few beers with friends who knew him and remember the fun times. Sure you'll cry again, but you'll get it out. And when the time is right, you'll adopt another rescue who desperately needs a home and go thru it all over. It's sort of my life's mission. I plan to rescue as many as I can.

    I'll pray for your strength and to put your mind at ease.
  • bchbum

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    Jul 11, 2009 1:09 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear about your loss. It is a real tough thing to go through. Your pet is part of your family. My neighbor flew his flad at half mast when he had to put his dog down a couple months ago. I'm dreading the day I have to my baby girl down. She means the world to me.
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    Jul 11, 2009 1:16 PM GMT
    So sorry. That is a real tough thing to go through.
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    Jul 11, 2009 1:20 PM GMT
    danisnotstr8
    My heart bloody breaks for you. Truly. icon_cry.gif
    There is another thread on these forums entitled, "I have to put down one of my dogs." In it contains some wonderful and lovely voices of consolement.

    Please know that you are in my thoughts at this tragic time. Here's a quote that has always brought a smile to my face....
    "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion."

    You have most assuredly lived up to this wonderful quote. You made his time with you the best he has had. He loves you as much as you love him for it.

    With warmest sympathy and regards,
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    Jul 11, 2009 2:54 PM GMT



    Dan, we both recommend having the vet come to your house for this. For your little guy to be at home surrounded by the sights and smells he knows and loves is huge, rather than a vet's office where he can hear and smell others' pain and fear. Some don't mind, but some do.

    My sister took a novel approach, Kiwi (her aussie shepherd) could no longer eat, or really walk without someone holding her up so she could void without messing herself.

    She loved car rides because they meant long back-country walks and runs.
    So, my sis and her hubby loaded Kiwi into the truck with some camping gear and boots.Kiwi was absolutely thrilled, tail wagging, and a surge of brightness all about her - eyes especially. On the way to the 'trip' they stopped at the vet's and he came out to the truck and let Kiwi go right there between my sis and her husband. Kiwi's last experience This Side was a dear, sweet and familiar thrill, one that she lived for and got to have at the last!


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    Jul 11, 2009 3:06 PM GMT
    My heart goes out to you Dan. If you ever get a chance to read the books "Marley & Me" or "The Art of Racing in the Rain" you may enjoy them. Even just the last chapter of Marley... He talks about how we know going into the relationship with a dog that we are going to have to say goodbye. But we do it anyway for all the joy they bring!
    peace.
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    Jul 11, 2009 3:08 PM GMT
    That's the saddest thing I've read all day. Stay strong, pal.
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    Jul 11, 2009 3:21 PM GMT
    I'm sorry for your upcoming loss. I can tell you have been a loving dog owner for Benjamin - and I know he totally appreciates you - the fact that you took him in and gave him a warm place that he could call home - all these years. He loves you so much - and you'll be reunited in the future. I really believe this..........our pets wait for us at the gates of Heaven.

    I just went through this with one of my beloved chows in early June. When they can't walk and have lost interest in food - it is time to gently say goodbye. Our pets know how we feel - and it is their wish to comfort us till their last breath - and beyond.......they love and appreciate us - and all we've done for them - - - all the fun times - - - trips, adventures.

    Deepest sympathies to you. Not sure how you feel - but what helps me so much is to make a place in my home for another deserving pet who might be desperately in need of a home. Giving a home to another loving pet is - I think - an honor to my previous pet. (see pics). Best of everything to you.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jul 11, 2009 4:53 PM GMT
    Awwww, I am so sad for you. I had two doxies when I lived in L.A. -- a long haired, Cody, and a short haired, Murphy -- and one day I got home and Murphy looked really off and he couldn't move his back legs. I thought he had just hurt his foot or something, so I took him to the vet right away. As it turned out, he had ruptured one of those discs in his back -- something doxies are predisposed of -- and I had to put him down -- he was only 3 years old. I was heartbroken because he was the sweetest dog ever. Cody roamed around the house whining for days looking in every closet, every room, around every corner wondering where his buddy Murphy was. I couldn't take it after a week and went and got another doxie pup. It was the best medicine for both of us to heal from our broken hearts.
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    Jul 11, 2009 5:12 PM GMT
    I'm so sorry. I've had my heart broken so many times. I lost one of my best friends, Toto back in 2004 and i still miss him. He was from a shelter and was abused also. All I can say is to be glad for the time you've had with him and know you gave him a good home, and that his suffering will end in peacful sleep.
    I do get to see Toto and my other furry friends in my dreams from time to time. icon_smile.gif
  • calibro

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    Jul 11, 2009 5:26 PM GMT
    I know how you feel. I never cried so hard as the day I put down my boy. Unfortunately, it's just a sad part of life; however, I hope you take pride in giving your dog so many wonderful years after the traumatic situation he was rescued from. By the same token, I hope your heart heals in time and you are only left with loving memories that he provided you with. I know it's so hard to say goodbye, but putting down your dog is one of the kindest things you can do for him. Take comfort in the fact he won't be suffering. Sorry again to hear you're going through this.
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    Jul 11, 2009 6:19 PM GMT
    icon_sad.gif That's horrible...I'm sorry for you having to make that decision. I'm sure it's the best one for your little guy though. I had a dachsund since he was a puppy...16 years. His name was Jasper and he was like my best friend. He died in my arms a few years ago. It was devastating, so I know what youre going through. The only thing that helps is time.
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    Jul 11, 2009 6:25 PM GMT
    Dan, I can't come up with the words to properly express my sorrow for you. I know this pain you're in the middle of. A huge hug to you and Benjamin.
  • adidas0783

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    Jul 11, 2009 6:37 PM GMT
    Dan, you are in my thoughts **big hug**

    I knoe exactly what you are going through. In 2007, we had to put our family blacl lab down. She was in heart failure and one of her hips were so severly arthritic she could barely walk. It was very emotional for me. I know exactly how you feel.

    You are a great guy and human being for rescuing him and giving him the best quality of life possible..
  • danisnotstr8

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    Jul 11, 2009 7:14 PM GMT
    Thank you all so much. It's been nice to read your thoughts and condolences... and I like that a couple of you suggested an in-home visit from the vet. I think that's what I will do.
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    Jul 11, 2009 9:10 PM GMT
    Hang in there, Dan. Sorry this is happening.
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    Jul 11, 2009 9:17 PM GMT
    You're about to make his life as easy in leaving it, as you made living it for 9 years. Your love and kindness have already given him 9 wonderful years he would never have known without you. Don't feel guilty in any way.

    Taking our leave of loved ones is never easy. As for dogs, I had to put down a shelter dog I had, and later a pure-bred miniature doxie that developed diabetes. I gave him insulin shots for years, but finally his overall health deteriorated, and I had little choice.

    Each time I wore dark glasses to the vet, to hide my tears. Cry all you want. My greatest sympathies.
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    Jul 11, 2009 9:32 PM GMT
    Oh my god..im so sad for you. I cried reading this. Me being a huge dog lover i know how it is to lose your pet you've loved for so many years. Ive had to put one dog to sleep and found my other one dead in my living room one day. I cried for a week straight.
    Reading others peoples comments makes me want to rescue a shelter dog, they are the ones that need the homes very badly, more than for sale full breed dogs, although im not saying dont buy them cause they all need homes, but these shelter dogs desperately need it.
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    Jul 11, 2009 9:46 PM GMT
    A big hug and a smile for you. I know it hurts so much right now. icon_smile.gif