Neighbor Help!

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    Jul 11, 2009 12:32 PM GMT
    Ok, so I have this neighbor that lives down the block. He's about 210lbs, muscular, supposedly straight, married, with a child and only 26 years old. He's lived on the block for a while. Nobody on my block knows of my sexual orientation (I just live my life, they might have an idea, who knows, who cares? lol) and the neighbor is very friendly. Ever since I turned 18 however, he has slowly become more friendly towards me. It's gotten to the point that even the other neighbors are like "why is he so friendly to you?". I don't know if he suspects that I am gay or not and is trying to be kind or if maybe...just maybe..he's into me! icon_surprised.gif

    I'm totally cool with being friends and if he is interested in me, that's cool too. I don't like to judge people and really hate when others do so to me. I try to be as kind as possible to everyone. I just don't know about him. I'm not looking to get involved with him (like that icon_wink.gif )because his wife is an awesome person (she feeds me great cuisine) and he has a two year old son. I just wanted to read what some of you may think. So..what do ya think?
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    Jul 11, 2009 1:43 PM GMT
    Well Whats is he doing thats making you think hes gay or into you?
    A) He can just be a really nice guy and wants a friend.
    B)He is into you
    C)maybe the wife and husband want more spice in their sex life.
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    Jul 11, 2009 1:46 PM GMT
    I'm always inclined to just assume mates with straight guys (married, kids, what have you)

    Yes, straight guys are allowed to be into other guys, to wanna hang out with'em, to get excited about meeting a new guy to hang out with and do stuff (and I don't mean sex)

    Hey, if he thinks your cool and wants to hang out then be happy with it and enjoy a potentially great friend
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    Jul 11, 2009 2:25 PM GMT
    It is pretty presumptuous to assume that because he has a wife and kid you know what he is into sexually. Just enjoy the friendship and if the husband and wife approach you for some freaky sex have a good time.
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    Jul 11, 2009 2:26 PM GMT
    A) they want you to babysit

    B) they want a MMF 3 way

    C) something other posters have suggested
  • Brinker

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    Jul 11, 2009 3:07 PM GMT
    My guess is that you are reading too much into it. Guys need friends and some need intimacy with other men: eye contact, sharing, hugs...but this does not mean sexual intimacy. I have married str8 friends, we get together one-on-one, workout at the gym, hiking, common projects, etc. You just need to put a boundary ion your own mind that probably already exists in his...cock stays in your pants. I think you're lucky to have someone that wants to be close to you without the complications of sex. If you have the same goal then you'll have a great relationship for many years.
  • EricLA

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    Jul 11, 2009 5:47 PM GMT
    I've seen this before. I know you say you're not really interested, but I sense that you would like him to make the move on you. It's okay to fantasize, but if this were to come to pass, would you really want to risk hurting his wife? It can only get messy. I'd say continue to be friendly, but not too friendly. Try to find someone more appropriate to focus attention on.
  • calibro

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    Jul 11, 2009 5:48 PM GMT
    There's nothing wrong with being a closeted bi-guy who wants the friendship of the only gay guy he knows... not saying that's the case, but I think that he's more interested in you as friends; if he wanted to get into your pants, i think the signals would be pretty overt by this time (hey, wanna go camping with me for the weekend?)
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    Jul 11, 2009 8:12 PM GMT
    It's a bromance in the making. icon_lol.gif

    I'm making a big speculation here, but maybe he's one of those guys that wishes he had a little brother or something.

    But don't assume that he's interested in you for anything other than friendship. Because it sounds like you all get along just fine. It would be a shame to lose that friendship because you got mixed signals and tried to make a pass at him.
  • coolarmydude

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    Jul 11, 2009 10:03 PM GMT
    Has anyone seen my fairy???
  • Timbales

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    Jul 11, 2009 10:06 PM GMT
    Maybe he sees himself at that age when he looks at you and just wants to be a friend to you. If he's as built as you say, I'd have him train me if I were in your shoes.
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    Jul 12, 2009 5:55 AM GMT
    Hey guys! Thanks for all the insight, I appreciate it. I just want to say that, yes I'm 19, that doesn't mean I'm a horn-dog. I just want to make friends and if that's what he wants then I'm happy. He is a really cool guy. As for his wife, I would never dream of hurting her because she is a wonderful person. I never want to be a home wrecker. I hope him and his wife aren't looking for some kinky sex stuff. I think I might take Timberoo's advice and ask him to help me get built. Oh and for find someone more appropriate to focus my attention on, I've done that for wayyy toooo longgg, someone needs to be focusing on me lol.
    Thanks again gents. I'll will update you all on the situation icon_cool.gif
  • GQjock

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    Jul 12, 2009 11:28 AM GMT
    Careful .....

    any misinterpretations might make for an awkward blockparty
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 12, 2009 2:07 PM GMT
    I think its a little hard to guess from the information given. All I can say is, I'd assume he is just a guy being nice. When I was younger, I had them in the neighborhood where I grew up.

    I agree with some of the others, if he is interested in you, he needs to make the move. Don't assume anything other than they are a nice couple who enjoy you. However if he does make a move on you, you probably ought to think about how you are going to handle it. My suggestion.. pass.
    It could blow up in your face.
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    Jul 14, 2009 6:24 PM GMT
    He wants me to go to Bear Mountain with him this weekend.icon_eek.gif I didn't give him an answer. If I go missing....lol.