Bi or Stick With a Guy?

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    Jul 12, 2009 4:00 AM GMT
    I just ended my last relationship, and in the process I realized that I wanted to expand my life experiences, whether it be trying new sports, finding new hobbies, or even dating people out of my normal desirable spectrum.

    While considering that I thought about trying to date women. In my past I have found some women attractive and have built friendships where I felt emotionally attached to the girl. However, I can't really see myself ever dating a girl, I don't even know how I would start to ask one out.

    So the question is, am I just kidding myself, or should I keep my mind open to the possibilities my love life may hold?
  • Delivis

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    Jul 12, 2009 4:09 AM GMT
    Why are you thinking of dating a girl?

    If you have sexual attraction there, go for it. If not, no.
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    Jul 12, 2009 4:47 AM GMT
    I can't really say much because I'm not you. If you like it then just go for it.

    I personally can find a girl attractive/pretty but not sexual attractive.thinking about it makes me want to icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 12, 2009 7:29 AM GMT
    it is important to be open minded when attempting something like this.. but.. you do need a sexual attraction to a women..

    However.. for dating.. women are fucking psychotic.. a LOT worse then a lot of gay guys..
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    Jul 12, 2009 7:45 AM GMT
    When I gave back my gay card at 25. Because of all I witnessed in the 80s, from a community I loved supported and stood by, when so many fled, and went running home to mummy.

    I a very short time after this. I did think about dating women, having children, so on, and it would make a lot of other people happy too. But I could not do it for them, not even myself, as bisexuality is not just in me. I'm not able to fuck anything that walks, and there is a reason women have legs too.

    So I just let a number of yeas labs. The first guy I dated after my hiatus, I'm still dating 20 years latter. But I will say he was not in the mold of the other guys I dated either; more on the nerd side; Purdue educated. My second husband is not a nerd.

    So maybe you are in the right thought, you just don't have to date girls. You know some of my best friends are women. But I would never date any of em.
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    Jul 12, 2009 8:45 AM GMT
    Here's my simple, two step advice for achieving and maintaining significant relationships with women:

    1) Make her laugh.

    2) Recognize that she is always right... without exception, under any and all circumstances, and for all time.

    If you remember these things, you will succeed.

    Godspeed my son.

    * makes the sign of the cross *
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    Jul 12, 2009 2:22 PM GMT
    Just because you are gay or have only dated men doesn't mean that you can only be attracted to men.

    Following the same suit as others, I would suggest to follow your attractions. If there is a woman you find attractive and want to spend time with, then go for it; however at some point will have to be honest with her.

    As long as you are comfortable with your sexuality everything will work out well. The last thing you want is to re-closet yourself or your same-sex desire.

    I don't think you are kidding yourself; life is meant to be lived. Live it.
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    Jul 12, 2009 2:27 PM GMT
    airdog56 saidI just ended my last relationship, and in the process I realized that I wanted to expand my life experiences, whether it be trying new sports, finding new hobbies, or even dating people out of my normal desirable spectrum.

    While considering that I thought about trying to date women. In my past I have found some women attractive and have built friendships where I felt emotionally attached to the girl. However, I can't really see myself ever dating a girl, I don't even know how I would start to ask one out.

    So the question is, am I just kidding myself, or should I keep my mind open to the possibilities my love life may hold?


    the only way you'll know is to give it a try.

    i say go for it
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    Jul 12, 2009 2:35 PM GMT
    Be HONEST!.......
    With yourself and with him/her....Women are alot more perceptive than men and can "sense" when there is a "disturbance in the force" ......Don't go running from one relationship into another one, just because you can. Take some time ot heal and to re-evaluate what happened, why and how to be more able to deal with the issues....
    Go for a quick hetero lay, first, if you like it, go for more in progressively increasing relationships.... if you need to know, find out....just don't hurt anyone and don't cause any unwanted pregnancies...be responsible and safe. Good luck.
  • jrs1

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    Jul 12, 2009 6:54 PM GMT

    um ... love me some Beyoncé (to the left, to the left),
    but ... sexually attracted to Channing Tatum (to my bed, to my bed).
    so ... in terms of guys, I'm 'a stickwitu.
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    Jul 12, 2009 11:20 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    However.. for dating.. women are fucking psychotic.. a LOT worse then a lot of gay guys..



    amen
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    Jul 12, 2009 11:33 PM GMT
    iguanaSF saidHere's my simple, two step advice for achieving and maintaining significant relationships with women:

    1) Make her laugh.

    2) Recognize that she is always right... without exception, under any and all circumstances, and for all time.

    If you remember these things, you will succeed.

    Godspeed my son.

    * makes the sign of the cross *


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    Amen to this advice. Not to be too redundant on this page, but it is obviously a huge point...be forward with whoever you set sights on so they know where things could go.

    Also, communicate. It's funny to say, but a lot of times when things go wrong people can shut down and that's not good for trying to build something.

    If it doesn't do everything for you, then you need to be honest and let things wind down before it goes too far and feelings are massively damaged.
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    Jul 13, 2009 12:16 AM GMT
    If you are really "Bi" you just have to date the individual, not the entire gender icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 13, 2009 12:41 AM GMT
    Why would you willfully want to join up with the bisexual menace?

    Dating women isn't something you do because you're bored with/frustrated by guys. It's something you do because you're attracted to them and interested in them and want to be with them.

    If you're doing it for the wrong reasons, you'll end up on Oprah's couch with her yelling at you for fucking up a lady's life.
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    Jul 13, 2009 12:45 AM GMT
    I agree. You don't just wake up one day and say "hmmm I think I'll be bisexual". It's either there or it isn't. Don't complicate a relationship with a lady who loves you in sake of your own desire to experiment.
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    Jul 13, 2009 12:47 AM GMT
    badmikeyt saidWhy would you willfully want to join up with the bisexual menace?.


    umm
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    Jul 13, 2009 1:15 AM GMT
    badmikeyt said

    If you're doing it for the wrong reasons, you'll end up on Oprah's couch with her yelling at you for fucking up a lady's life.


    Don't encourage him. Oprah pays well.
  • DCEric

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    Jul 13, 2009 1:16 AM GMT
    Sedative said
    badmikeyt said

    If you're doing it for the wrong reasons, you'll end up on Oprah's couch with her yelling at you for fucking up a lady's life.


    Don't encourage him. Oprah pays well.

    Yeah, I don't watch Oprah, make sure he ends up on something I might flip on.
  • Webster666

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    Jul 13, 2009 1:19 AM GMT
    Serious question.
    How do you feel about eating one out ?
  • Timbales

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    Jul 13, 2009 1:21 AM GMT
    There's nothing wrong with keeping an open mind about who you could fall for, but don't try to fool yourself into something you know isn't right for you.
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    Jul 13, 2009 1:23 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidSerious question.
    How do you feel about eating one out ?

    *cough*itsnotasbadasyouthink*cough*

    Whoa.. that must have been an Eric from a different lifetime.
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    Jul 13, 2009 2:05 AM GMT
    How would I feel about eating a girl out? I don't know, I've never done it. However, I imagine that it shares some similarities to dick sucking in that it provides more pleasure to the other partner, and the urge to gag is increased if your partner is...unclean.

    I have more complicated feelings about this than I divulged, and this is the wrong medium to discuss this, but thank you for all the comments you've provided.

    Peace!
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    Jul 13, 2009 2:21 AM GMT
    airdog56 saidHow would I feel about eating a girl out? I don't know, I've never done it. However, I imagine that it shares some similarities to dick sucking in that it provides more pleasure to the other partner, and the urge to gag is increased if your partner is...unclean.

    It's kinda more like eating an arse actually, except you can spread it wider, go deeper, its wetter and if your really good and she can do it, she can cum..

    watch out for the nails though, they hurt like a Mother!!!
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    Jul 13, 2009 2:43 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    airdog56 saidHow would I feel about eating a girl out? I don't know, I've never done it. However, I imagine that it shares some similarities to dick sucking in that it provides more pleasure to the other partner, and the urge to gag is increased if your partner is...unclean.

    It's kinda more like eating an arse actually, except you can spread it wider, go deeper, its wetter and if your really good and she can do it, she can cum..

    watch out for the nails though, they hurt like a Mother!!!


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    Jul 13, 2009 11:25 AM GMT
    RyanReBoRn said
    lilTanker said
    airdog56 saidHow would I feel about eating a girl out? I don't know, I've never done it. However, I imagine that it shares some similarities to dick sucking in that it provides more pleasure to the other partner, and the urge to gag is increased if your partner is...unclean.

    It's kinda more like eating an arse actually, except you can spread it wider, go deeper, its wetter and if your really good and she can do it, she can cum..

    watch out for the nails though, they hurt like a Mother!!!


    Why do you know this again? icon_eek.gif


    He's a dirty evil bisexual creature.