The white picked fence?

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    Nov 25, 2007 9:05 PM GMT
    I read a post earlier and this one member (do not remember his name at this moment) said that one of the reasons that he would not want to be gay, is because he would have liked the possibility of living the white picked fence life!

    My question is do you think it is possible for two guys to kind of settle down and live the life that heterosexual couples would? icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 25, 2007 9:39 PM GMT
    I honestly think so. Granted, our fence is wrought iron, but still ...

    It may not be this way everywhere in the world, but most of our friends are happily "married" gay couples. Some have children, others have pets. We all have dinner parties and lawns decorated for special occasions.

    Now that I think about it, our hetero friends don't decorate their lawns ...
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 25, 2007 9:43 PM GMT
    I totally agree.... I have a nice home, very grounded and stable life and my bf is right there a part of it all. I have the lawn decorated as well. Actually I'm into yardwork and love every bit of it.icon_razz.gif

    I have wrought iron fence as well...lol
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    Nov 25, 2007 9:45 PM GMT
    White picket is a bitch to maintain!
  • liftordie

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    Nov 25, 2007 9:52 PM GMT
    glad someone knew how to actually spell it! LOL
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    Nov 25, 2007 10:01 PM GMT
    I think it's possible for a gay couple to lead a happy life together, but you're right, Cure, it would certainly be a wrought iron fence -- with nice stone work and tasteful landscaping. I don't do yardwork because that's taken care of by the landscape company, but I do decorate once a year for the annual white trash party. The HOA board overlooks my pink flamingos for that one special day.
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    Nov 25, 2007 10:13 PM GMT
    Thank goodness for landscapers, but it was very clear that straight men strung the holiday lights our front lawn trees last year--that's been remedied.

    Dean, the flamingos are hysterical. We have neighbors who leave them up yearlong. Apparently, they didn't get the memo.

    Oh, and we haven't talked about minivans yet ...
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    Nov 25, 2007 10:21 PM GMT
    You might want to make a midnight run into your neighbors yard sometime, Cure, because if their flamingos are from the authentic Don Featherstone mold, they might be worth something one day. The Union Products company that made those little gems went out of business about a year ago. I'm hanging onto my Flamingos for the future value.icon_biggrin.gif

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    Nov 25, 2007 10:24 PM GMT
    Hmmm, stealing neighbors' stuff from their front lawn ... see, it IS possible to have the white picket fence life!
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    Nov 26, 2007 12:14 AM GMT
    Uh oh... Someones got a future date with the antique road show.
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    Nov 26, 2007 12:28 AM GMT
    or perhaps eBay... i'll have to cruise some trailer parks and see if i can find more.
  • atxclimber

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    Nov 26, 2007 12:33 AM GMT
    When I glanced at this topic from the main page I thought it said "The white pickled fence?"

    I did just buy a bunch of mason jars, and I have more red okra than I can shake a stick at, so it was on my mind. What can I say?

    I went with a friend of mine last night to her coworker's house where he (the coworker) and his husband were hosting a casino night. It was my friend (the only woman there) and myself and then a bunch of gay guys, all coupled. The house was total Texas quaint, reminded me of an ex-boyfriend's grandparents' house, complete with photos of the happy couple strewn variously around, inflatable polar bears with string lights in the front yard, etc. All the other guys there were coupled and knew the hosts because they all play in a gay men's bowling league on Wednesday nights.

    We ate Thanksgiving leftovers and played poker & craps all night and had a great time.

    So yeah, it's really very possible. It was almost eerie to me; it's certainly not exactly what I'm looking for, the picket fences. I like not having an HOA. But having a great partner, nice house, still doing a lot of spontaneous stuff without being excessively tethered down, sign me up, sounds great.
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    Nov 26, 2007 4:38 AM GMT
    Sure is possible. 1920's bungalow, no picket fence, but a bed of roses and a somewhat sad-looking lawn (have to work on that next spring)out front. Mostly straight neighbors who are solicitous of the old gay guys, and who hope we never sell lest a new owner remodel our house into a Mcmansion.
  • czkiwi

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    Nov 26, 2007 5:21 AM GMT
    8 years of white picket fences with the man of my dreams, and my only complaint is the damn HOA, no pink flamingos allowed!!!
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    Nov 26, 2007 7:02 AM GMT
    Kiplayer

    Yes, I think that's totally possible. There are plenty of guys in Tacoma who are doing it. That's why Tacoma is such a dead town, gaywise. One of my friends has at least a half-dozen gay couples living nearby who have purchased houses together, and live as a heterosexual married couple would live. I even know one couple who have been together for 47 years as if they are married, and they act like schoolboys around each other -- very deeply in love, even in their 70's.

    I lived with a woman who I loved for 27 years before I could admit to myself that I was gay. I intend to couple again, and get married (I have faith in government) to my male lover and live as a loving couple for the rest of our lives.

    I believe it will happen (especially since I just met a guy with whom I clicked from the first minute, both physically and emotionally).

    Believe in the dream!
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    Nov 26, 2007 7:32 AM GMT
    If you want white picket fenced life, the good news is that you only have to find one other guy who feels the same way.

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    As far as gay couples having all the drama going on behind the white picket fence - so do the straight couples. There's plenty of substance abuse, spousal abuse, child abuse, financial catastrophes. Gays do not have the market cornered on dysfunction.



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    Nov 26, 2007 8:10 AM GMT
    "Gays do not have the market cornered on dysfunction.


    Two words: Wysteria Lane.

    What? Everything on TV is true, right? Right?
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    Nov 26, 2007 3:06 PM GMT
    i'd leave the white picket fence to judy garland and mickey rooney if i were you.

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  • cityguy39

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    Nov 26, 2007 4:34 PM GMT
    One man's "white Picket Fence" could be another man's hell on earth.icon_twisted.gif

    Doug