Dating Stories and Advice for our very own jrs10k6...

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    Jul 13, 2009 1:56 AM GMT
    Alright fellas, jrs10k6 (http://www.realjock.com/profile/189669) has never been on an official date..something about guys being cheap and only wanting sex. Who has stories/advice for this beautiful soul?
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    Jul 13, 2009 1:58 AM GMT
    Mine is this:

    Find something you enjoy together. For me, this is running...we find a trail or do the roads in town. After testing his legs and personality it's one of two paths.

    Either plan right after or later in the week for a small meal, coffee/tea.
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    Jul 13, 2009 2:28 PM GMT
    Don't go over to his place to watch movies. Especially if you'll be sitting on a big couch, laying on the floor, or on his bed. It will lead to sex.

    At some point you gotta kind of demand what you want, but not too forcefully.

    Whether you're submissive or dominant, don't be afraid to ask a guy to meet you in public, maybe go bowling, out to dinner.

    We're men, we can be blunt. Say you want to be taken out on an awesome date before you give it up. It'll chase away the majority of those people you don't want to be bothered with.
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    Jul 14, 2009 6:56 AM GMT

    I haven't been on a date before. it's a little embarrassing. but I know there are great guys out there - deep in the amazonian rain forest - who are not looking to fornicate on the first meeting. I think creativity is very sexy, and if you can stimulate my imagination by making the mundane enjoyable, then we're onto something.

    haha. I'm just a little concerned that sex is one of those items that is at the top of most single men's lists. don't take me for saying that I wouldn't like to have sex ... but I can only do that with someone I'm deeply connected. Dj, you're awfully sweet for doing this. I'm hoping for a bit of advice, anecdotes, or amendments to the guidebook of gay dating. lol. thanks. =]
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    Jul 14, 2009 7:04 AM GMT
    Halfstep saidDon't go over to his place to watch movies. Especially if you'll be sitting on a big couch, laying on the floor, or on his bed. It will lead to sex.

    At some point you gotta kind of demand what you want, but not too forcefully.

    Whether you're submissive or dominant, don't be afraid to ask a guy to meet you in public, maybe go bowling, out to dinner.

    We're men, we can be blunt. Say you want to be taken out on an awesome date before you give it up. It'll chase away the majority of those people you don't want to be bothered with.


    I'm totally going to say that when I go on a date.
  • hartfan

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    Jul 14, 2009 8:54 AM GMT
    Kudos to DJ for doing this!

    jrs, you seem like a real catch. Whoever you take/takes you on a date would be lucky. I'd say you shouldn't have problem finding a date if you want one.

    Personally, I think there might be too much pressure associated with dates. So while it will most certainly be one, just treat it normally like you're hanging out with a friend. I think DJ is right about finding something you both enjoy. Instead of focusing on trying to impress the other person, focus on just having fun and being yourself. Think about what you would do/how you would react if your date is just a friend. Regardless of urban myths, I think there shouldn't be strings attached with a date: it's just two people trying a shared activity to see if they enjoy each other's company. Every subsequent date, if any, could be treated as just getting to know each other better.

    As halfstep mentioned, going to his or your place could very well lead to sex. If you would prefer not to face that situation, just avoid it. But also remember that you can say no. From what you said, it seems like you're confident about when/how you want sex to happen, so just say no if the situation arises. If the guy is worth it, he will understand and wait. If he's mad about it, he probably doesn't respect you very much.

    I hope this helps. Good luck!
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    Jul 14, 2009 9:10 AM GMT
    jrs10k6 said

    I haven't been on a date before. it's a little embarrassing. but I know there are great guys out there - deep in the amazonian rain forest - who are not looking to fornicate on the first meeting. I think creativity is very sexy, and if you can stimulate my imagination by making the mundane enjoyable, then we're onto something.

    haha. I'm just a little concerned that sex is one of those items that is at the top of most single men's lists. don't take me for saying that I wouldn't like to have sex ... but I can only do that with someone I'm deeply connected. Dj, you're awfully sweet for doing this, I'm hoping for a bit of advice, anecdotes, or amendments to the guidebook of gay dating. lol. thanks. =]


    I wish you the best of luck because you're going to need plenty of it to find a man that fits your bill. One word of advice: stay away from the men you find deep in the rain forests of the Amazon. They like to do a lot more than kiss on the first date ... after a quick hello, they'd probably slow roast you, then fuck you. Not pleasant.

    Don't get discouraged - stick to your guns.