Is "GayDar" is real???

  • twonutbuster

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    Jul 14, 2009 11:22 AM GMT
    Could you spot a gay guy from a mile away? If so, what would he have to look like????
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    Jul 14, 2009 11:42 AM GMT
    I have gaydar for real, I can spot guys from a distance fairly reliably, but I can't give you a specific set of "clues" I look for; I just know it. It's like a sense that you don't think about, but you get the message.
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    Jul 14, 2009 2:15 PM GMT
    Gaydar works, except when it doesn't. As with any classification scheme, you'll get false positives and you'll get false negatives.

    Gaydar is typically focused on the candidate's appearance, dress, speech, mannerisms. But it needs to be tuned to the context, and some regions require sharper detection skills: In France, my gaydar is busted--I get too many false positives. (q.v. "He's not gay, he's British.") In conservative areas where being gay can get you beaten up or worse, there are plenty of false negatives that your gaydar doesn't pick up.

    To continue with the statistical jargon, I suspect most people's gaydars tend to have high precision but low recall. Especially if you're trying to detect a guy from a mile away.
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    Jul 14, 2009 5:07 PM GMT
    I can't even see a mile away, but it is not just the way someone "looks" That is why it is called gaydar.

    And if you think gayness can always be "hidden", ask yourself "how do so many gays get gaybashed by complete strangers?"

    There are all kinds of things that may suggest someone is gay.
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    Jul 14, 2009 5:36 PM GMT
    "gaydar' is not a problem for me. If I only had a 'cruising me/picking me up" radar then I would be much better off icon_smile.gif lol
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    Jul 14, 2009 6:07 PM GMT
    I wouldnt rely on obvious clues like dress or mannerisms to point out someone's sexuality on a fly.
    It's like your own sixth sense; you just know.
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    Jul 14, 2009 6:22 PM GMT
    GayDar does not always work. If you rely only on GayDar, you may be missing out on some real good guys......but you won't find that out if you don't step out of your comfortable GayDar zone and ask questions.
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    Jul 14, 2009 6:24 PM GMT
    zotamorf62 saidGaydar works, except when it doesn't. As with any classification scheme, you'll get false positives and you'll get false negatives.


    Exactly It's based upon preconceptions. For example, eye contact indicates interest, but it doesn't necessarily mean sexual interest.
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    Jul 14, 2009 6:28 PM GMT
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    zotamorf62 saidGaydar works, except when it doesn't. As with any classification scheme, you'll get false positives and you'll get false negatives.


    Exactly It's based upon preconceptions. For example, eye contact indicates interest, but it doesn't necessarily mean sexual interest.



    Exactly. That's how friendships are formed, with gay or straight men, or women......... by showing interest.
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    Jul 14, 2009 6:49 PM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidI wouldnt rely on obvious clues like dress or mannerisms to point out someone's sexuality on a fly.
    It's like your own sixth sense; you just know.
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    Exactly what I meant above.

    Shortly after I came out of self-denial in my 40s, my gay mentor used the word gaydar one day, and I asked him what it meant.

    "You haven't heard about gaydar before? Well, it means gay radar, when you can figure out another guy's gay by looking at him, like ya got personal radar."

    "What's special about that?" I asked. "I've always been able to tell who's gay, all my life, that's obvious. Doesn't everyone do that?" And I didn't just mean the flamingly flamboyant queens.

    "No! Most straight people miss it. But gay guys can often pick up on it right away."

    "That's really strange! Cause I've always been able to recognize it, I had no idea that was something special."

    "DUH! You're gay, remember? And you've always been gay. You don't learn it, it's like an instinct."
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    Jul 14, 2009 7:08 PM GMT
    twonutbuster saidCould you spot a gay guy from a mile away? If so, what would he have to look like????



    a hitch-hiker?



    ...or did you mean "a mile away" metaphorically? icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 14, 2009 7:13 PM GMT
    Generally, yes, it's very real.
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    Jul 14, 2009 8:03 PM GMT
    Mines broken...i want my money back! icon_evil.gif

    I can't tell unless their purse falls out icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 14, 2009 8:09 PM GMT
    Here's a link to an article on this very topic:

    http://nymag.com/news/features/33520/
  • jrs1

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    Jul 14, 2009 8:17 PM GMT

    I sure hope so ... I've been waiting for it go on sale at newegg for, like, ever. icon_eek.gif
  • jgymnast733

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    Jul 14, 2009 8:33 PM GMT
    It's all in the eyes,,icon_eek.gif
    I had a female teacher who was married to a man of course but something about him just said GAY....I voice my opinion with a friend who flat out told me that everyone is not gay...icon_mad.gif.......Anyway, to make a long story short,,He's now gone off with some dude to frisco and selling the new york brownstone to take his half and start a new life....My heart aches everytime i see her at a party alone...she said to me that she just didnt see it coming?
    I was right all along.........
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    Jul 14, 2009 9:20 PM GMT
    Mine definitely doesnt work. I think every hot guy lately is gay or bi. Wishful thinking. Maybe I just need a good tune up. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 14, 2009 9:26 PM GMT
    Yeah it works. My straight friends think I have superpowers
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    Jul 14, 2009 9:29 PM GMT
    Respectyourself saidMines broken...i want my money back! icon_evil.gif

    I can't tell unless their purse falls out icon_redface.gif


    I've noticed a lot lately that a lot of gay guys who call themselves "masculine" or "straight acting" have some of the GAYEST voices. I mean, I met this guy online, and in his profile he described himelf as a masculine guys guy, so I was expecting a really macho guy.

    On the phone he sounded like a 13 year-old girl. That sort of higher-than-normal-pitched-long-enunciation-at-the-end-of-a-sentence thing a lot of gay guys do. My thought was "this guy has got to be really delusional if he thinks he is fooling anyone".

    Some guys don't have it, but there's something you can quickly pick up on in voice patterns among many gay men.
  • maximumrisk

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    Jul 14, 2009 9:51 PM GMT
    The gaydar is something that comes from the instoncts. There are no real marks how you can tell the sexual orientation of somebody. There is just the alltogether look and Bodylanguage.

    As for mine, it usually works as good as possible. I just dont trust it with guys I think are hot, because in the end I just want them to be gay icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 14, 2009 9:58 PM GMT
    Not in my case.
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    Jul 15, 2009 1:22 AM GMT
    it is soo real and whenever i walk in a room i swear i hear ding ding ding ding...and i see arrows over the mens heads.. i swear.
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    Jul 15, 2009 1:27 AM GMT
    Yes, it's called grindr.
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    Jul 15, 2009 1:32 AM GMT
    My has been broken for years now. he has to be obvious for me to notice
  • adidas0783

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    Jul 31, 2009 12:31 AM GMT
    mine does not function properly....honestly, i could give two shits about it. icon_eek.gif