Sex on the first date?

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    Jul 14, 2009 6:40 PM GMT
    Do you think its weird when people hold back on sex because they want to wait for the relationship to be come somewhat serious?
  • Delivis

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    Jul 14, 2009 8:57 PM GMT
    No....lol. That isnt weird at all. I never have sex with a stranger and while that sort of thing seems to satisfy some people, i see no appeal in it for myself.
  • calibro

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    Jul 15, 2009 12:52 AM GMT
    only if you paid your first date 500 dollars to go out with you.
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    Jul 15, 2009 2:34 AM GMT
    No.
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    Jul 15, 2009 2:41 AM GMT
    Sex on the first date isn't a must.

    But sex before a relationship is. Before things get serious, wouldn't you want to know that your guy can only get off if you put him in a diaper and pretend to breast feed him? What if you are both exclusive tops? Sex before a relationship lets you scope out the territory before claiming it as your own.
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    Jul 15, 2009 3:50 AM GMT
    I'm with Zombie on this one. But, your mileage may vary.
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    Jul 15, 2009 3:58 AM GMT
    I dont have any preconceived notion for what stage I have sex with a guy. If it happens on the first date, so be it. If it's the thrid, fifth, whenever, so be it. But I do want to try before I buy and any guy who tries to tell me that we must be in love or in a relationship before sex will get laughed at.
  • adidas0783

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    Jul 15, 2009 4:01 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidSex on the first date isn't a must.

    But sex before a relationship is. Before things get serious, wouldn't you want to know that your guy can only get off if you put him in a diaper and pretend to breast feed him? What if you are both exclusive tops? Sex before a relationship lets you scope out the territory before claiming it as your own.


    Sir, you hit that dead on! Could not agree more icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 15, 2009 2:23 PM GMT
    Sometimes you may not see " a relationship" down the road with the guy sitting across from you at the dinner date.................but every once and a while, a blow your socks off, NSA, GRUNDGE fuck is just what the doctor ordered.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jul 15, 2009 2:34 PM GMT
    I usually let the chemistry dictate what I'm going to do, though if I really like the guy, and I see potential there, I will try really hard to hold off for the 2nd or even 3rd date. Granted, I don't always succeed, but, dammit, I try icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 15, 2009 2:38 PM GMT
    Back when I was dating I had no rules on whether now was a good time to have sex or not. I left it up to chemistry.

    So guys got it the first day, some waited a whole month.

    My only rule for dating was safe sex, and be younger than my mom.
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    Jul 15, 2009 2:43 PM GMT
    Never apply rules. Most of my first dates included sex, but that's what we both wanted. The man and the circumstances tell me what to do, and I require nothing, nor rule out anything. As we used to say in the US Army, "go with the flow."
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    Jul 15, 2009 2:49 PM GMT
    Halfstep saidBack when I was dating I had no rules on whether now was a good time to have sex or not. I left it up to chemistry.

    So guys got it the first day, some waited a whole month.

    My only rule for dating was safe sex, and be younger than my mom.


    Gotta go with HAlfstep; if there is some chemistry yes, but if your just longing for a shag then why not. No rules just good judgement and safe sex if it goes there. Don't be the typical American prude.
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    Jul 15, 2009 5:47 PM GMT
    AlexMaletti saidDo you think its weird when people hold back on sex because they want to wait for the relationship to be come somewhat serious?


    I think it depends on the guy's experience in the past or lack of experience. It's okay to get to know the person before putting your dick or his dick into each other mouth/ass. There is a certain factor called Chemistry - if he holds back for any reason, he may want to take it slow or he's just not that into you.
  • Latenight30

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    Jul 15, 2009 5:56 PM GMT
    Does coffee count as a date?
    Is having sex after coffee slutty?
    Oh well...what about sex then a date?
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    Jul 15, 2009 6:32 PM GMT
    It's not weird BUT if the date seems to be moving along just FINE and you're feeling each other and what not, and in THAT scenario you can count on me being a for sure thing!!! icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 15, 2009 6:52 PM GMT
    No, it's not weird, especially when you think about where that person may have been. It's best to respect yourself and your reputation than being known as some male-slut who puts out on the first, or even second date. Unfortunately, the majority of guys wanna have some on the first, but I'm not one of them.
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    Jul 15, 2009 6:55 PM GMT
    syd_hockey_79 saidI dont have any preconceived notion for what stage I have sex with a guy. If it happens on the first date, so be it. If it's the thrid, fifth, whenever, so be it. But I do want to try before I buy and any guy who tries to tell me that we must be in love or in a relationship before sex will get laughed at.


    My mother always said why by the cow if you can get the milk free
  • Timbales

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    Jul 15, 2009 7:21 PM GMT
    God help me if I'm ever single again and dating.
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    Jul 15, 2009 7:28 PM GMT
    "Sex on the first date" is a hookup if there isn't a second date. If the second date is really only sex, then it's an F-Buddy situation.

    If you're both clear about your intentions and expectations are for the date, then call it what you will.
  • adidas0783

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    Jul 16, 2009 9:54 PM GMT
    Latenight30 saidDoes coffee count as a date?
    Is having sex after coffee slutty?
    Oh well...what about sex then a date?


    LOL icon_lol.gif Sex after coffee...very interesting. I am sure the sex could be amazing, super intense and fast.
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    Jul 16, 2009 9:55 PM GMT
    Probably best not to have sex until after the relationship is over.
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    Jul 19, 2009 3:56 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and I waited until our 4th date. I think waiting made it that much more special. icon_biggrin.gif
  • DCEric

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    Jul 19, 2009 4:16 PM GMT
    Test drive the car before you buy.
    /and by test drive, I mean sex.
    //and by buy mean long term relationship
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    Jul 19, 2009 4:17 PM GMT
    JUST DO IT!icon_eek.gif