How do i find a good man?

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    Jul 16, 2009 9:08 AM GMT
    Young 24 year old guy in australia.. Average in most ways. Not really into the gay scene.. go out once in a blue moon with good group of friends.
    Don't like using the net casue its all about sex sex sex.. which is nice, if its with ur boyfriend. Just sittin here wondering how every other nice guy meets someone.. or are they in a realtionship from a young age LOL.. Just wanna find mr right
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    Jul 16, 2009 10:23 AM GMT
    Go out more. Spend less time online. Nothing's better than flesh action you can see and zero-in on. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 16, 2009 10:37 AM GMT
    ZiMsTeR saidDon't be a lilTanker. icon_cool.gif
    whats that suppose to mean?
  • rock924228

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    Jul 16, 2009 3:36 PM GMT
    Be a Good Man....of which, I believe, the trait PATIENCE would be an aspect of being a GOOD Man
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    Jul 16, 2009 3:46 PM GMT

    jf_simmer said
    sex.. which is nice, if its with ur boyfriend.


    Oh, ah ha ha, that's adorable. You're a sweetie. They broke the mold.

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    Jul 16, 2009 3:52 PM GMT
    Do not just wait around. Go about developing your hobbies and interests. Travel to other parts of the world. Put yourself in situations to have the chance to meet more like-minded people. Mr right comes when you're not looking, but you need to be at the right place at the right time.
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    Jul 16, 2009 3:52 PM GMT



    Get out there, like Zim suggested. Just focus on meeting people, not using 'potential' as a yardstick.

    When both of us were single, we found it hard to approach someone out and about with their group of friends that we knew none of. So, in this case, you need to do the approaching more often.

    If you keep meeting new people and making easy friends, eventually the statistical scale will tip in your favour.

    Good luck and have fun!


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    Jul 16, 2009 3:54 PM GMT
    you are sweet -- and so young! why not concentrate on having fun; relationships will come when they do. often it's when we're not looking that we find what we really want.
    but if you insist... i met my bf on match.com. online works, but you have to use a website that isn't all about sex, as you said.
    also it's great to meet people doing something you love, like join a gay sports league, or get involved in community service. cute gay boys can always be found volunteering and such.
    good luck -- it won't take long. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 16, 2009 4:24 PM GMT
    STOP looking! Be 24 and ENJOY life and learn about YOU and he'll come when it's suppose to happen!
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    Jul 16, 2009 4:30 PM GMT
    Move to Colorado! icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 16, 2009 4:30 PM GMT
    I'm wondering the same thing.
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    Jul 16, 2009 4:30 PM GMT
    ChillGuyCO saidMove to Colorado! icon_smile.gif


    I know I am at the end of the month! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 16, 2009 4:38 PM GMT
    i would move to Australia to be with you lol..there.problem solved.
  • Delivis

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    Jul 16, 2009 5:20 PM GMT
    Seems obvious but...meet up with friends on here? Maybe something will spark with someone.
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    Jul 16, 2009 5:45 PM GMT
    Australian average?

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    I´m moving.
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    Jul 16, 2009 6:05 PM GMT
    "lol"

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    Jul 16, 2009 6:14 PM GMT
    jf_simmer saidHow do i find a good man?

    You dont. This is all there is until you die.
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    Jul 16, 2009 6:38 PM GMT
    So you are average, not into going out or looking for guys on the net.

    First, way to sell yourself. In your pretty empty profile and on this post you use the world average. No one wants average. You have interests and qualities that make you better than average in some ways. All I see in a profile is a few sentences and some pictures. For guys just looking for sex, you look just like their type. No words, just boner-inducing pics.

    Second, no one will get to know you if you aren't out playing the game. Go out. Use a few other sites. Just sitting at home will make your dog love you, but no one else. There are a ton of social groups in your area for gay guys that aren't sex clubs. Make some friends. Friends know other guys, guys you might be a match with.

    But, one thing that strikes me about your post is this weird notion that sex is only nice if it is with your boyfriend. Playing the game means going out and dating. And for a lot of guys sex isn't going to wait for this mythical boyfriend status. Sex is fun and good. You don't have to hook up, but don't hoard your sex either.
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    Jul 16, 2009 6:41 PM GMT
    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREPut yourself in situations to have the chance to meet more like-minded people.


    I find putting myself in saunas gives me a chance to find like-minded people.

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  • Delivis

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    Jul 16, 2009 7:50 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidAustralian average?

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    I´m moving.


    That is a pretty good average.
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    Jul 16, 2009 7:59 PM GMT
    I actually found my love online so don't rule that out!

    It actually works if you look in the right places - which are usually the places you wouldn't expect...

    Something that really helped us fall in love was that we met on a site that was NOT meant for that kind of thing.. We met on Flickr and we were able to get to know each other slowly and over time - learn about each person's traits, what they do day to day (365 days project) - etc etc

    so, don't rule out the internet - just you should be looking in the right places!
  • MercuryMax

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    Jul 16, 2009 8:12 PM GMT
    I found a good man, but not sure if I want to stay with him and I found him online. Theres a lacking of a connection or something, i'm just not sure.
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    Jul 16, 2009 8:22 PM GMT
    Tough to find gay guys w/o being into the "gay scene". Try Tuesday Night Bingo.
  • MercuryMax

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    Jul 16, 2009 8:31 PM GMT
    My best advice would be to find your inner confidence and stop being so concerned with it.
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    Jul 16, 2009 8:32 PM GMT
    How to find a good man. I asked myself that question for a long time. Until one day, he came forward. I had to be very patient and look around me. In order to find a good guy, look at the people in your life. Appreciate what you have. Don't search for a man. Once you calm down and just live, you'll find that someone fast.


    I say that you should look at what you have and how blessed you really are because many times, we neglect what we have already and we end up missing out on real love. I looked for love, for someone that could be like family to me and even more. This special guy was in my life the whole time. I took time to listen to what he had to say and what he really felt. Now he's mine icon_smile.gif Patience sucks ass I know, but it's worth the wait.