When a guy gets married to his wife, why does he become overweight, and fat?

  • twonutbuster

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    Jul 16, 2009 10:51 AM GMT
    I've had a few buddies I used to workout with, they had great abs, and after marriage, they started getting fat. They are straight of course. My dad said, "they have a man belly". WTF????
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    Jul 16, 2009 10:52 AM GMT
    why do you care?

    they have other things to do now.. they obviously don't place there physical appearance as high as they used too..
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    Jul 16, 2009 12:55 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidwhy do you care?

    they have other things to do now.. they obviously don't place there physical appearance as high as they used too..

    I don't care if straight men turn into hippos, but I have seen similar happen with gay couples, including myself. In my case it's from eating more, and I'll bet that's what's going on with a lot of those straight guys, too.

    Many men don't eat all that much when they're single, but a partner, man or woman, may start to feed them more than what they've regularly eaten in the past. I got heavy with my first partner, who loved to cook. Then he died, and I was single again for 3 years, during which I lost the weight.

    Now I've been with another partner for 2 years, and I've gained it all back, and then some. He also loves to cook. I really should have learned my lesson, and looked for a guy as disinterested in cooking as I am. LOL!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 16, 2009 1:03 PM GMT
    Well I see quite a number of very in shape married men at the gym and fitness remains at the top of their priority list.

    I think in reality, priorities are split. The guy has to compromise his time with his job, wife and her request for time. He may still have the desire to be at the gym... but frequency declines. Kind of sad..but with children a mortgage, etc....fitness sometimes flunks the priority test.
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    Jul 16, 2009 2:44 PM GMT
    The need to be in shape to attract a mate is gone.

    Meals are better and more consistent.

    They have honey-do lists to do instead of going to the gym
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    Jul 16, 2009 2:52 PM GMT

    It's called real life.
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    Jul 16, 2009 2:58 PM GMT
    It's called "NESTING", once you settled down you tend to relax more. Feeding more, trying to be there for your significant other begins to take precedence over everything.

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    Jul 16, 2009 2:59 PM GMT
    Because women suck the sexuality right out of you. They drain your ability and desire to want to stay young and fit. I've watched it happen to each and every one of my straight, married male friends.

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    Jul 16, 2009 3:05 PM GMT

    It happened to my brother and all my cousins.
    It didn't even take a wife, just a girlfriend. I think it's because they needed a suitable vector to usher in their sloth. Lamest excuse ever: I can't work out, my wife is home. WTF! She can breath without you! Better yet, bring her too.
    THIS HAPPENS TO GAY GUYS AS WELL. Except for gays, it's their jobs and material possessions that halt their pursuit for physical perfection. The key is to keep it a priority, otherwise other priorities are simply more important.

  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jul 16, 2009 3:08 PM GMT
    Hence, why so many women love gay men
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    Jul 16, 2009 6:15 PM GMT
    hector2009 saidIt's called "NESTING", once you settled down you tend to relax more. Feeding more, trying to be there for your significant other begins to take precedence over everything.

    I agree and in addition (from experience) you tend to eat 'regular' 3 times a day with foods that are not necessarily healthy, lack sufficient exercise to burn the calories, and re-prioritize to accommodate a lot of elements in your life. I think you especially find this in couples with children, less time goes into thinking about themselves and their looks.
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    Jul 16, 2009 7:26 PM GMT
    It is also where you live. If you live in one of the fattest states and fattest cities, yep, you are going to succumb to the bad eating and sedentary lifestyle.
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    Jul 16, 2009 7:48 PM GMT
    It definitely has a lot to do with lifestyle cause I have straight friends with AMAZING bodies! But ironically enough, one buddy and I were talking once about working out and I swear to you he said this, "Well, I don't have to keep working out, I'm married now, so FUCK it!" I was like, SERIOUSLY?!?!?!?!?
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    Jul 16, 2009 8:43 PM GMT
    Tapper saidBecause women suck the sexuality right out of you. They drain your ability and desire to want to stay young and fit. I've watched it happen to each and every one of my straight, married male friends.



    I think you have a point.....I know this to be true...LOL

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    Jul 16, 2009 8:48 PM GMT
    Yes it is true but it happens gay men as well. Thank God I love being singleicon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jul 16, 2009 8:50 PM GMT
    Caslon11000 saidThe need to be in shape to attract a mate is gone.

    Meals are better and more consistent.

    They have honey-do lists to do instead of going to the gym


    agreed- it's also why woman live longer- hahahha
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    Jul 16, 2009 9:24 PM GMT
    It's called "happiness". They must be happy in the relationship and feel they can relax, and by not trying to impress and single ladies, they let themselves go.
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    Jul 16, 2009 9:28 PM GMT
    Marriage lowers testosterone

    http://www.harvardscience.harvard.edu/medicine-health/articles/marriage-lowers-testosterone

    (HA HA!)
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    Jul 16, 2009 9:28 PM GMT
    I think it is because when a guy is single, he is out hunting for a partner (whether straight or gay) but after marrying, the hunting stops and the motive to remain in peak condition wanes. That has what happened with me, anyway.
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    Jul 16, 2009 9:39 PM GMT
    To compound the problem, some men let their brains go to waste as well after marrying a woman.
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    Jul 16, 2009 9:42 PM GMT
    Does anyone else notice that there's usually a very fat woman and a real skinny (husband) man at WalMart? Are they required in each store??
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    Jul 16, 2009 9:49 PM GMT
    Well, having suggested above that marriage, straight or gay, can lead to weight gain due to a heavier eating load, that's not a firm rule.

    We attended a charity fundraiser at a gay couple's house this Tuesday, and both of them are in very good shape, despite their respective ages. Neither as old as me, but made me feel ashamed that they hadn't gone to pot like me.

    And we were over at Rigsby's not too long ago, and his partner and him look great, though Rigsby is within 3 years of my age. I guess it's time I stopped using the "eating too well" excuse and get with the program. icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 16, 2009 10:02 PM GMT
    I understand they're going to outsource those two positions.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 16, 2009 10:35 PM GMT
    Oh it happens with gay guys too

    I've seen some hot single guys turn into porkers after they get into relationships

    lol .... and that's the shallow forecast for today
    It happened with me to some extent with my last BF
    You stay home more eat meals together MEALS ! What a concept! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 16, 2009 11:21 PM GMT
    Because there's no social pressure at all on Dads to look sexy.