Weird Situation With Cousin

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    Jul 16, 2009 3:56 PM GMT
    Well i have a second cousin and we are five years apart and his mom is my first cousin and also my god mother and they live in florida and we live in new york.

    well we would always visit them but my cousin would always do weird things like it began one night we all were sleeping and i must have been around 10 and he just said to me look im hard and dropped his pants and showed me then i just thought ok he is little and joking around. then the year later we visited again and he thought i was sleeping and tried to look in my ants so i just pretended as if i was sleeping then he put his dick on my mouth. then the year later he told me to stick my tongue out to see who has the longest toungue then he licked my tongue and laughed. then when i was around 16 we visited and i was sleeping and he had been sleeing next to my brother then he made his way over to me and wrapped his arms around me and put his leg across me and he HAD NO UNDERWEAR on! so now im 19 and he is 14 and he is visiting me but he is constantly bashing gay people and my brother is confused cause we all know about what we used to do and if i still remember im sure he does as well. what do you guys think about this situation.
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    Jul 16, 2009 4:01 PM GMT
    If his mom is your first cousin, then he isnt your second cousin. He is your first cousin, once removed. Ok, now that we have that straightened out....

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    He's gay and is totally conflicted by his feelings and the homophobic message that society is sending him. Poor kid. He needs help before he becomes a suicide statistic.
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    Jul 16, 2009 6:22 PM GMT
    Caslon11000 saidIf his mom is your first cousin, then he isnt your second cousin. He is your first cousin, once removed. Ok, now that we have that straightened out....

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    He's gay and is totally conflicted by his feelings and the homophobic message that society is sending him. Poor kid. He needs help before he becomes a suicide statistic.
    Wow, I have to say that I agree with Caslon on this one (both parts, glad you clarified that family tree). He definitely sounds very conflicted. His consistent reoccurring advances would indicate a desire to fulfill a need that he is clearly denying now. IMHO only.
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    Jul 16, 2009 6:32 PM GMT
    Are you out of the closet right now? If so, it would be nice to show him how it doesn't really bother you that you're gay.

    Seeing you're 19, I'm guessing you're not. Well... I dunno. But I think it's important to not encourage his gaybashing, nor to agree with him. Because even if he is spouting against other gay people, a lot of that hatred is actually directed at himself and the things he doesn't understand about himself. 14 is a very volatile age, so yeah... I'm hoping he doesn't end up fucking his life up.

    He really does sound like he's going through that denial phase at the moment. I was a bit like that too, but at a much younger age than him.
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    Jul 16, 2009 6:47 PM GMT
    Sounds hot.

    I'm breathless but is that because of the lack of punctuation?
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    Jul 16, 2009 9:28 PM GMT
    I'm going to say its already bad enough that you've allowed him to get away with the things that he's been doing, though during puberty its understandable. But now that you're older and If you truly genuinely care about him, if the brat climbs in your bed trying to suck you off. Turn him away.

    Then speak to him and tell him that there are men in the world who'll let him do it while they are awake, who aren't his cousin.

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    Jul 16, 2009 9:48 PM GMT
    And 'once removed' he should stay that way! Kick his butt out of your bed, make it clear that you are NOT interested

    unless you really want to hear these words:


    "Will the defendant please rise."
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    Jul 17, 2009 3:57 AM GMT
    thanks guys..i never really knew much about family tress lol

    and im not "out" i never really beleived in labels nor was i ever attracted to man honestly until last winter...omg i fell head over heals for him and he broke my heart but never mind that

    my cousin tells me how he has sex with these girls and my brother gives me the eye cause we all know what used to happen and i was afraid back then to call him out on it cause i didnt want it going public and causing a drift in the family icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 17, 2009 4:44 AM GMT
    Relatives or not, you as the 19 y.o. "adult", need to let this "MINOR", child, age 14, know that he is not to be laying in your bed, doing provocative moves and positions on or against you....gay or not...as for his homophobia, he needs to be challenged on his comments. You can "challenge" his views and not be out", mearly showing that all the crap he hears on tv and in school isn't all there is to the story....