Application for a BF? Hmmm well just how do you get one??

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    Jul 16, 2009 8:40 PM GMT
    I am wondering with all the men around here how you guys with boy friends actually get one? Then how do you keep it while looking around all the others here in RJ?

    I think paradise would be a BF you could do everything with and forget all the online stuff? Right? Wrong? ....I wondericon_question.gif
  • Delivis

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    Jul 16, 2009 8:55 PM GMT
    I met my boyfriend on here. And, as i always have, i still meet people from online (have met hundreds, mostly rhough video gaming conventions, only 7 or 8 from this site), as a way to make new friends. I dont see why this would interfere in a relationship.
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    Jul 16, 2009 9:54 PM GMT
    You still need a social outlet even when you have a boyfriend. There aren't many gay couples (or singles for that matter) in my day-to-day social circles, most of my friends/buddies are straight. An online gay community is a good way to be connected to like minded people.
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    Jul 16, 2009 11:01 PM GMT
    I met both my late and present partners through AOL gay chat rooms. I haven't been to AOL in 2 years.

    I came out online (though through a local BBS, not Internet), and I met a number of my BFs online. My 2 longest relationships besides my partners, however, were not online. One was a bar pickup, and the other I contacted directly after reading a feature about him in a newspaper.

    A modern gay man uses all the resources at his disposal to meet a BF, from the traditional to the hi-tech. One of my little personal mottos is: "I refuse to concede technology to children." But neither do I turn my back on the classic tried-and-true methods. It's all just more weaponry in my arsenal.

    Both my partner & I remain very active online, as RJ shows in my case. We just don't use it for cruising anymore. RJ men are luscious hunks, but we're both monogamous type guys. I love the online friendships I make here, and we've both met a number of RJers in person. In fact, I've never met anyone from here that he didn't meet, too.
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    Jul 16, 2009 11:26 PM GMT
    If you need an application for boyfriends, ask Redheadguy. He might be willing to share his application and coach you on his process with vetting boyfriends. I am surprised he hasnt gone franchise with Boyfriend Inc.....or I guess in Britain, it would be Boyfriend, Ltd. .... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 17, 2009 1:02 AM GMT
    dude, go to surveymonkey.com, create a survey with your stat requirements and see what bites on the various sites your on. icon_biggrin.gif

    paradise is nice but you don't want to be alone for the rest of your life. There will always be somethings you do apart and those things that you can't fathom why he's into them.
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    Jul 17, 2009 1:10 AM GMT
    All you have to do to get a boyfriend is steadily lower your standards until you've got one.

    Once you have one, it's easy to get another one. A bird in the hand and all that. icon_lol.gif
  • coolarmydude

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    Jul 17, 2009 1:27 AM GMT
    You have to collect Porn DVD UPC codes, A&F receipts, Starbucks napkins, Diesel jeans pocket lint, subscribe to OUT Mag, and declare a position on Cher's career, then tune in to Rachel Maddow on Thursday nights and catch the crypted message, then call 1-900-FUN-FIST and give them what you think is the message, then wait 2 weeks by UPS delivery if the driver is hot, 8 weeks if he's not, to finally get the secret application. Once you get the application, you have to mail all these items to some unknown address in Nigeria with a payment of something thousand dollars.
  • jrs1

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    Jul 17, 2009 1:50 AM GMT
    Although I'm single, I'd like to say that you are more likely to " meet " a boyfriend if you meet the set of standards/desires that you would like in someone you'd like to date (i.e., if you'd like to date someone who's into video gaming or psychology, then you - more than likely - should invest time into learning some of the major premises, axioms, and rhetoric within the directed field of work).

    I have been told that one must be aware of themselves before they can be aware of others; that one must know oneself (sophrosyne) and build a home for themselves - literally and figuratively - before they can invite someone else into their world. One of the sexiest aspects about a man is his mind. Everything else is just plain secondary.

    Get to know a man for his mind and the rest will follow. this is purely logical, because the mind is what controls man's actions; the heart serves as the guide.

    ... Then again, as I've said, I'm single so this may all be fluff. I really don't know. icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 17, 2009 1:56 AM GMT
    Stay single dawgz...lol! It's really hard finding someone wit common ground let alone a match made in heaven lol...leave it alone, most guys r on for sex and nuthin moreicon_exclaim.gif If u just happen to find someone who actually wants friendship, then jump on iticon_wink.gif
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    Jul 17, 2009 1:59 AM GMT
    Mystic_Man said

    I think paradise would be a BF you could do everything with and forget all the online stuff? Right? Wrong? ....I wondericon_question.gif


    All the online stuff?

    what's that mean?

    I have a boyfriend i (would?.. long distance) do everything with and love him more than anything. 6 months going and i still can think of NOTHING else - i love him more and more everyday. But what do you mean bout avoiding the online stuff? You always need social interaction - both online and in person - and we both flirt (harmlessly?) with other men ALL the time - even together. It's just healthy and human to flirt and i've said a million times that i believe looking/flirting has nothing to do with love and romance.

    Men that break up because their boyfriend was being too flirty with other men to me is as stupid an excuse as if they broke up because their boyfriend was too athletic. (or whatever everyday thing people do) - these cases are ALWAYS about some deeper insecurities that need to be dealt with. Love is love is love and nothing else should get in the way of it - even sex.


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    now how do you go about getting said boyfriend? Approach men you are interested in - not physically but personality wise - and get to know them. Let it happen over a long time, not overnight. I didn't call him my boyfriend for a couple months after we started having sex o.O before that it's just potential... Look look look and keep your options open - he won't always be the easiest man to reach but if he's the right one, it won't matter. Never rule out long distance relationships!

    (and if you're finding your partners in bars and clubs etc... you MAY not find boyfriend material >> )
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    Jul 17, 2009 3:04 AM GMT


    [bOK[/b] we just had a cool web cam with Mistic_man and guess what?

    He is

    A HANDSOME
    B has a wonderful speaking voice
    C has responsibilities that would thrill anyone
    D has a wonderful face ( the kind you want to stroke)
    E highly intuitive, to the point that with audio off at one point, we were double guessing replies and it was all correct! LOL!
    F has the kindest and sympathetic nature
    G has a phenomenal wild side that is fun fun fun.

    ...so there you have it guys, a resume, with the meninlove (unclubbed) seal of approval.

    So go ahead - email. LOL!

    - Bill and Doug
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    Jul 17, 2009 9:16 AM GMT
    meninlove said

    [bOK[/b] we just had a cool web cam with Mistic_man and guess what?

    He is

    A HANDSOME
    B has a wonderful speaking voice
    C has responsibilities that would thrill anyone
    D has a wonderful face ( the kind you want to stroke)
    E highly intuitive, to the point that with audio off at one point, we were double guessing replies and it was all correct! LOL!
    F has the kindest and sympathetic nature
    G has a phenomenal wild side that is fun fun fun.

    ...so there you have it guys, a resume, with the meninlove (unclubbed) seal of approval.

    So go ahead - email. LOL!

    - Bill and Doug


    Oh My...GOSH.....

    I don't know what to say now. You guys.rrr...but thanks for the nice complements, I am sorta embarrassed. haha

    Hey these dudes rock and I hope my relationship in the future can be like the example they have shown to me (US). I am just going to have to fly up and revisit that Vancouver and then hit that nude beach again!!

    XO
    Johnny
  • GQjock

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    Jul 17, 2009 2:37 PM GMT
    Speaking as someone who's been single and in relationships during my life

    ... be careful what you wish for
    Having a partner or BF can be a really great thing but all is not daisies and roses the minute you snag one

    There are conflicts and compatibility issues
    along with the pressure of friends and family around you

    It's always greener on the other side
    just enjoy what you have for now
    and if a man comes along Mazel Tov icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 17, 2009 2:53 PM GMT



    There's the nude beach in Victoria, Wreck beach in Vancouver at UBC (university) and now Crescent Rock beach (although the argument over that one is still happening. Apparently the patrons were mooning the passenger trains!)


  • BorderGuy

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    Jul 17, 2009 3:03 PM GMT

    Be your own BF, as the one you wish to have, and the rest will in time fall in place.

    A truly ripped and attractive man like you, it is only a matter of time.
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    Jul 18, 2009 12:19 AM GMT
    BorderGuy said
    Be your own BF, as the one you wish to have, and the rest will in time fall in place.

    A truly ripped and attractive man like you, it is only a matter of time.


    Right on, BorderGuy!
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    Jul 18, 2009 12:36 AM GMT
    All applications to be my new RJ bf will be accepted in the rear entrance.
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    Jul 18, 2009 12:45 AM GMT


    This kid cracks me up I swear! (Thelstrat) I'm wondering the same thing considering it was just sapposed to be a hookup frm manhunt! Who whudda thunk it
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    Jul 18, 2009 12:45 AM GMT

    'Be your own BF, as the one you wish to have, and the rest will in time fall in place.'

    LOL we agree, and he already is...
  • somedaytoo

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    Jul 18, 2009 12:47 AM GMT
    Don't know, but if you find out, pass it on!