Although I'm single, I'd like to say that you are more likely to " meet " a boyfriend if you meet the set of standards/desires that you would like in someone you'd like to date (i.e., if you'd like to date someone who's into video gaming or psychology, then you - more than likely - should invest time into learning some of the major premises, axioms, and rhetoric within the directed field of work).
I have been told that one must be aware of themselves before they can be aware of others; that one must know oneself (sophrosyne) and build a home for themselves - literally and figuratively - before they can invite someone else into their world. One of the sexiest aspects about a man is his mind. Everything else is just plain secondary. Get to know a man for his mind and the rest will follow
. this is purely logical, because the mind is what controls man's actions; the heart serves as the guide.
... Then again, as I've said, I'm single so this may all be fluff. I really don't know.