Why ARE WE afraid to IM here................

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    Nov 27, 2007 6:19 AM GMT
    Do guys get IM'd alot here, or are we afraid of striking up a decent conversation.......
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    Nov 27, 2007 7:30 AM GMT
    Well, it'd be a lot easier to IM you if you were online, lol
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 27, 2007 12:40 PM GMT
    I get IM'd frequently, even if it isn't a decent conversation...lol. Actually I think its fine provided the person approaches it reasonably. If the person who is IM'd doesn't want it, he should shut his IM off under the RJ task bar.
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    Nov 27, 2007 12:47 PM GMT
    I find IM extremely annoying and intrusive, so I keep it turned off. And, compared to well thought out and written email, IM is merely grunting in single sentences in real time; I don't find it the least bit conducive to decent conversation.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 27, 2007 1:22 PM GMT
    Geez, paradox.. and here I wanted to IM you!!!
    kidding, but he does have a point at times, especially if you are in the midst of something
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    Nov 27, 2007 2:50 PM GMT
    i did a lot but i had to turn it off because i only use this site when i'm at work.
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    Nov 27, 2007 2:51 PM GMT
    sorry, i should explain. it was usually invites to cam.
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    Nov 27, 2007 5:31 PM GMT
    I frequently find sad little ghosts of expired IM windows in the background of my laptop. Somebody tried to holler at me when I wasn't watching the screen. I guess it needs some kind of audible alarm, like the phone.

    But most of the ones that I do connect with seem to be tiresome requests to (unilaterally) perform a striptease. Good grief.
  • Squarejaw

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    Nov 27, 2007 6:51 PM GMT
    I find IM pretty frustrating most of the time. Lots of this:

    - hey
    - sup
    - what you doing
    - nothing. u?
    - hangin
    - cool
    - yeah

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    Nov 27, 2007 7:00 PM GMT
    ^ Boy does IM sound thrilling....
  • DiverScience

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    Nov 27, 2007 7:01 PM GMT
    Turned it off.

    Get IMed at work and conversation seems to be the last thing on most IM-ers minds.
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    Nov 27, 2007 7:12 PM GMT
    IMing is for girls. icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 27, 2007 7:32 PM GMT
    Ppl send me IMs when i'm away from my PC so i just get a thingy that says some blurb about the IM being canceled due to inactivity, then i feel bad becaus i think i'm coming off as rude.

    Of course the ones i do get usually when online want to talk sex of want to "see more of me"..HEY...I Just got an IM...lol..talk about ironyicon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 27, 2007 7:37 PM GMT
    Another cam request...go figureicon_rolleyes.gif
  • jc_online

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    Nov 27, 2007 7:37 PM GMT
    I turned off the IM function because I am at work and don't have time to IM all day. And I agree with Squarejaw about the fascinating dialogue that usually comes up. But I like Onixotto's response best.
  • jock_1

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    Nov 27, 2007 7:46 PM GMT
    I dont mind the IM's. the only thing i dont like is guys just asking to cam or IMing because they are horny and want to get off. (dont waste my time) but it is cool to chat with guys with similar interests and from different places.
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    Nov 27, 2007 7:55 PM GMT
    i'm also sitting with squarejaw. most IMs are (a) a request for sex/cam/cock pics etc, (b) quite void of content like "u r hot" or (c) a four page story about someone's life.

    further, i'm usually busy doing something else instead of watching for IMs and should any come in i'm quite likely to miss them. in addition to that, i already have all my standard IM protocols running in one program. considering that i have about 30 browser tabs up with about 6 web profiles all with their own IM gadget, i would be playing hot potato to keep up with them.

    not to mention that most web IMs are java clients and are poorly written so they eat up memory and cpu. the web is already a cesspool of horribly written websites that are bandwidth and resource intensive (myspace has got to be the all time #1 of these).

    if someone wants to IM me, they can hit me up on aim/yh/msn/icq/irc and oh _please_ say something intelligent instead of one letter words and three letter sentences.
  • DiverScience

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    Nov 27, 2007 8:57 PM GMT
    Amen Jock_1

    And none of the cam-requesters even HAVE cams (or mostly even photos) of themselves.

    I is not ur pr0n... ok well maybe Jock_1's pr0n, but not... yeah you know what I meant.
  • cacti

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    Nov 27, 2007 9:06 PM GMT
    There's nothing inherently wrong with IM. I actually really like it and welcome a good chat any day. You can really get to know someone surprisingly well via text! Cam/one-track-mind IMs are annoying, and you'll find them quicker if you hang out in the chat room... but I leave my IM on most of the time and have had many a great chat with some great guys on here. I wouldn't trade any of that to get rid of a few two second annoyances. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 27, 2007 9:11 PM GMT
    Yeah, IM can be great but nothing is more annoying than people who IM and then don't say anything. Even worse is when you try to politely end the conversation and they don't give up. Does this mean that their idea of sustainable conversation is an exchange of one word answers? Is this how they talk with their friends in real life? It baffles me. Maybe it is people so in need of distraction that anything resembling the crudest form of conversation is enough for them.
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    Nov 27, 2007 9:16 PM GMT
    I use Ims to talk to someone I already know. Most unsolicited IMs start with something like "Cam" to which I hit the close button
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    Nov 27, 2007 9:16 PM GMT
    i WOULD im... my work computer doesnt allow it and it jacks up my home computer icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 27, 2007 11:16 PM GMT
    Agreed COMale. Otherwise, I turn the IM function on when I'm able to chat, and my RJ friends write when they can.
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    Nov 27, 2007 11:24 PM GMT
    if I want to IM with you, I'll give you my msn or yahoo chat account - and even then, only run those programs when I'm in the mood for chatting.
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    Nov 27, 2007 11:45 PM GMT
    While I've had many of the same conversations as Squarejaw mentioned--and FSM knows they are tedious as all hell--I've also had some excellent IM convos and met friends and even a date from an IM convo. I'm hesitant to turn it off because of those occasional good conversations. But good IM conversations are only good if they continue on in emails after the initial conversation, I've found. When someone can put together a good, well-thought out email as well as having a quick wit over IM, that's when you know you've struck gold.