EXPOSING MYSELF TO THE 7TH GRADE GAY BOY....

  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 17, 2009 3:19 AM GMT
    What a title.. well it grabbed your attention didn't it?

    Actually its true. I'm having a good time with it and I'm going to "disclose" who I am Saturday morning at breakfast...


    Kidding aside, I have decided to come out to a kid in my graduating class. I've known him since 7th grade. All this started at our class reunion last fall.
    There was discussion about those who were not in attendence and I mentioned Scott's name (and its his real name).. A close friend of mine I walked with at graduation said, "Well you know he's gay" With Scott I could certainly see it. We were friends in 7th grade when he came to our school, but in high school, he hung around with the kids who did the pot thing and those considered to be the "freaks", etc. I was considered a goody goody
    honor student (and thats the best kind to be.. you get away with much more). He and I didn't have much interaction, but have always been friendly.

    Now let me say most of those I went to school with don't know about me..
    Scott doesn't. Over this past Christmas, I sent out an e-mail to all class members and commented about the economic duress and market situation.
    Scott was one of those who responded. He paid me a compliment on my office picture at the time.

    So this week I had a client who had worked for the same company as Scott.
    The client didn't know much about who to contact with the company (regarding the retirement plan), so I e-mailed Scott. One thing led to another and asked me for additional pictures of my house. Sensing some fun, I sent him pictures.. including the "bench shot" in my RJ profile. We traded a few e-mails including the following exchange yesterday:


    " Let’s see, I really like the pic’s and want to see more. I don’t live alone, but wish I did. Dogs are cute. Really like the pics, oh did I say that already. How late do you usually work? There’s more but since I’m at work I don’t want to put in email. You get the idea, did I say I like the pics. Ok, now I have just about embarrassed myself, I should stop........this was a fun day "

    Scott


    We have since made arrangements to chat at breakfast on Saturday... and I made this e-mail to him today:

    Scott,

    "Not an issue and your always welcome to talk to me. No doubt I'll find some what your going to tell me a surprise, but probably not as much as you think. I'm confident that we will have some things in common.:


    Chris


    I'm sure it will be a fun exchange at breakfast.....and I'm looking forward to our discussion. Anybody else have a similar experience????








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    Jul 17, 2009 3:29 AM GMT
    Kind of but not really, since leaving high school and coming out, I've bumped into a few people from my old classes who're also gay.
    It was awkward to say the least, they thought that because we shared the same sexuality that we would become the best of friends... Bleh.
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    Jul 17, 2009 3:41 AM GMT
    Strangely, yes.

    I am new to FACEBOOK and have been found by several members of my HS class. I allowed one to be a friend. I always got along with her in HS and now ...she is still the same person with 32 years expereince! We had many LONG e-mails and she told me that a couple of guys in my HS class were gay and that some would enjoy talking to me. She told me who they were and I just left it alone. About a week later i get about 10 friend requests and these are all the guys she told me about! I have taken them all on as friends and we have all had a couple of wild e-mail exchanges and we all came out to each other...it was a riot and so unexpected from some and so not a shock from others...still I think they all said that I was a surprize and never set anyone's gaydar off back then. We have planned a get together in Cleveland area, as one guy is a professional party planner.....OMG...this should be a hoot......icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 17, 2009 3:43 AM GMT
    oooh dear I had people from highschool try and friend me.. *shudders* I leave them on ignore and went on ma merry way
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    Jul 17, 2009 10:52 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidStrangely, yes.

    I am new to FACEBOOK and have been found by several members of my HS class.


    Oh bless you. I'm really baffled why it seems highschool is such a terrifying experience, anywhere except in the Philippines.
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    And the funny thing is we all got in touch somehow. Facebook was magic to those who left the country when we were still in elementary and in highschool, fast forward twentysomething years, we're still the same. Laughing and crying at the same things. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 17, 2009 11:02 AM GMT
    I've never bumped into highschool friends in a social environment, and I am so happy about that!
  • GQjock

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    Jul 17, 2009 4:49 PM GMT
    I know all my HS friends are str8
    I know ... how sad for me

    but it was funny
    I was very closeted in college
    and I met a lot of people there ... and a year or two back
    I was in a gay gym here in FTL
    and a friend from college came over who was visiting some friends
    and the look in his eyes was priceless icon_cool.gif

    He didn't come right out and say .... I never knew you were gay
    But it was written all over his face
  • Latenight30

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    Jul 17, 2009 4:57 PM GMT
    I hope the exchange goes well. Via Facebook I have tracked down a lot of friends and HS chums who I would stare at longingly. Now they have all lost their hair, had children and put on a few pounds. Oh well. I don't get into any debate or discussion with them if our sides may oppose. After 15 years they don't matter all that much.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 18, 2009 4:09 PM GMT
    Well we had our morning breakfast......

    Scott was pretty much what I expected.. I had to laugh.. we were talking about perceptions of us while in high school.. he said he always wondered about me, but that I was always so quiet in HS.... and I was, it was college when things changed.

    And then he said, "and I hung with all the freaks"... I just laughed.

    I found it interesting and intriguing. He kept looking at me curiously and
    I was just me.... as we left, we agreed we would chat more and he finally said.. "just look at you".... I wondered what the hell he meant by that.

    Probably not my cup of tea for a close friend, but he's a good guy. I told him I had this snapshot of him smoking.... his comment, "I still do, can't give that up".

    I rolled my eyes icon_rolleyes.gif
  • nerdalert

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    Jul 18, 2009 4:25 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said Sensing some fun, I sent him pictures.. including the "bench shot" in my RJ profile.



    WTF? Don't you have a bf? And why would you send that photo (of you barely dressed in skin tight "shorts" with your legs spread "napping") to a platonic friend who you haven't seen in forever? Either you are starved for attention and you jack off to people complimenting you, or you have a hidden agenda.

    I had a boyfriend who did this crap behind my back and it's pretty lame.
    If you want to rekindle a friendship only, why send that picture? If I had a former classmate send me that in an email out of nowhere I would be really confused.

    Bizarre.
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    Jul 18, 2009 4:36 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidHe kept looking at me curiously and
    I was just me.... as we left, we agreed we would chat more and he finally said.. "just look at you".... I wondered what the hell he meant by that.


    I bet he was saying that as a compliment, like you look great, and what guy, straight or gay, would not like to hang around with you. Just look at you! icon_smile.gif

    P.S. Love your garden pics too.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 18, 2009 4:40 PM GMT
    nerdalert said
    HndsmKansan said Sensing some fun, I sent him pictures.. including the "bench shot" in my RJ profile.



    WTF? Don't you have a bf? And why would you send that photo (of you barely dressed in skin tight "shorts" with your legs spread "napping") to a platonic friend who you haven't seen in forever? Either you are starved for attention and you jack off to people complimenting you, or you have a hidden agenda.

    I had a boyfriend who did this crap behind my back and it's pretty lame.
    If you want to rekindle a friendship only, why send that picture? If I had a former classmate send me that in an email out of nowhere I would be really confused.

    Bizarre.


    Well perhaps you are amptly named... "nerdalert"...
    And my bf knows all about my breakfast with this old friend. And I don't need to justify anything. We had fun with it... and he'd say so too.
  • nerdalert

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    Jul 18, 2009 4:51 PM GMT
    It isn't the breakfast I would be concerned with. It is the flirting and sending inappropriate pictures and all of the awkward back and forths that would probably not exist had you not sent out such a weird pic in the first place. It would never cross my mind to send a pic like that to old classmates. But we all have different ideas of "fun".
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    Jul 18, 2009 5:00 PM GMT
    nerdalert saidIt isn't the breakfast I would be concerned with. It is the flirting and sending inappropriate pictures and all of the awkward back and forths that would probably not exist had you not sent out such a weird pic in the first place. It would never cross my mind to send a pic like that to old classmates. But we all have different ideas of "fun".
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    Yeah, maybe there is a context I am missing. I can't imagine an old classmate sending me a pic like that, especially if you aren't trying to have sex with each other.
    But there are some classmates who I would gladly look at shirtless pics of if they wanted to share.
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    Jul 18, 2009 5:01 PM GMT
    nerdalert saidIt isn't the breakfast I would be concerned with. It is the flirting and sending inappropriate pictures and all of the awkward back and forths that would probably not exist had you not sent out such a weird pic in the first place. It would never cross my mind to send a pic like that to old classmates. But we all have different ideas of "fun".
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    I don't think it's too bizarre to want to be proud of your body and show it off to a former classmate who he told he was gay. People are adults, and there's nothing wrong with being proud of your body.

    I think men need to be objectified more. It's flattering, and men are handsome. Dammit. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 18, 2009 5:02 PM GMT
    engrish funny sleep full ... Man’s shirt from South Korea .... WTF? ... icon_eek.gif
  • mcwclewis

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    Jul 18, 2009 5:35 PM GMT
    Caslon what the hell?!




    That sounds familiar though. I think I remember reading an actual english version of that in some "Its not your fault he touched you and made you gay, but stop it." pamphlet. I would fully wear that shirt.
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    Caslon12000 saidengrish funny sleep full ... Man’s shirt from South Korea .... WTF? ... icon_eek.gif


    The satin collar is freaking me out just as much as what is written on that shirt.icon_sad.gif
  • calibro

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    Jul 18, 2009 6:10 PM GMT
    high school? that was like decades ago for me...
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 18, 2009 6:49 PM GMT
    nerdalert saidIt isn't the breakfast I would be concerned with. It is the flirting and sending inappropriate pictures and all of the awkward back and forths that would probably not exist had you not sent out such a weird pic in the first place. It would never cross my mind to send a pic like that to old classmates. But we all have different ideas of "fun".
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    Well being a "nerd" I would expect you to make an assessment like this.
    Scott is someone I've known since 7th grade. He has been involved with a partner for 16 years. One of the first things we talked about was the time he came to my house and what we did in 7th grade. It was a fun talk, he thoroughly enjoyed it. There was never a sexual reference made in the form of flirting and we had fun. He isn't just an old "classmate"... he is someone I know. Get over yourself.
  • nerdalert

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    Jul 18, 2009 6:54 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidGet over yourself.


    Fantastic advice for the both of us icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 19, 2009 6:37 AM GMT
    nerdalert said
    HndsmKansan said Sensing some fun, I sent him pictures.. including the "bench shot" in my RJ profile.



    WTF? Don't you have a bf? And why would you send that photo (of you barely dressed in skin tight "shorts" with your legs spread "napping") to a platonic friend who you haven't seen in forever? Either you are starved for attention and you jack off to people complimenting you, or you have a hidden agenda.

    I had a boyfriend who did this crap behind my back and it's pretty lame.
    If you want to rekindle a friendship only, why send that picture? If I had a former classmate send me that in an email out of nowhere I would be really confused.

    Bizarre.


    icon_lol.gif You aren't the only one that smelt that cream bowl of shit.
  • rockleetpt

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    Jul 19, 2009 7:16 AM GMT
    I find it very strange people who considered sending a hot picture an outright expression of flirting and possible betrayal with current bf.

    I think such reaction means some sort of insecurity and mistrust regarding your love ones and (gay) people in general.

    There aren't such things as black and white, you can tease a little and making funny remarks, and still not sounding like a attention seeking jerk. I mean, hell... he didn't sent a fulll nude/cock only kind of picture, it's playing with ambiguites and see their reaction that's the fun, grown up part I think anyone who thinks otherwise has a lingering and subtle issues maybe regarding insecurity and assumptions. (Yes I think I'm aware of the hypocrisy of being assumptious about people who take a light sense of offense regarding HK's post).

    But for the sake of not derailing this topic, HK what hapenned to made you not considering a close friendship with this guy? How so he's not your cup of tea?
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    Jul 19, 2009 8:22 AM GMT
    rockleetpt saidI find it very strange people who considered sending a hot picture an outright expression of flirting and possible betrayal with current bf.

    I think such reaction means some sort of insecurity and mistrust regarding your love ones and (gay) people in general.

    There aren't such things as black and white, you can tease a little and making funny remarks, and still not sounding like a attention seeking jerk. I mean, hell... he didn't sent a fulll nude/cock only kind of picture, it's playing with ambiguites and see their reaction that's the fun, grown up part I think anyone who thinks otherwise has a lingering and subtle issues maybe regarding insecurity and assumptions. (Yes I think I'm aware of the hypocrisy of being assumptious about people who take a light sense of offense regarding HK's post).

    But for the sake of not derailing this topic, HK what hapenned to made you not considering a close friendship with this guy? How so he's not your cup of tea?



    Rockleetpt, honestly I don't understand the whole "sending pics to guys whilst 'happily' and 'monogamously' coupled" if you have no intention of cheating. Besides that, you went to school with the guy didn't you? So doesn't he already know what you look like? My motto is "if you're innocent then stop acting guilty". If my bf was still sending pictures of a risque nature to other people I'd immediately think the worst as anyone in their right mind would. It's a big red flag. Those who say it's being insecure to worry are usually those who are in open relationships themselves and probably wouldn't care two ways if their bf cheated on them. As far off topic as this response is, it just kinda irked me when guys say "so what, if your bf is on a hookup site or sending pics to other guys? quit being insecure, it's you that's the problem!" You apparently had no urge to rekindle your friendship with this guy until you found out he was gay. Does that automatically make him a better person than your other schoolmates who are straight that you decide it's worth to pursue? I'm not being judgmental, but more 3rd party p.o.v. If you don't want people saying "oooh you're up to no good!" then don't put yourself in that position. By sending a guy sexy pics of yourself whilst knowing that he's gay, you relied on that to maybe incur some response or mutual interest, and if you were just wanting to reboot your friendship with the guy then a simple "hi how are you doing? let's do lunch?" would have sufficed.
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    Jul 19, 2009 8:37 AM GMT
    High school people found me on FB and none of them have said anything about me being gay (I dont think it came as a shock to any of them). They have, however, made comment on such status updates as "will perform oral sex on any guy who brings over milk" (this was back in the day when I liked to endulge in a kahlua and milk) - they quite like them hahaha.