I Soooooo need a Date.

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    Jul 17, 2009 8:12 AM GMT
    It's been a minute and then some since I've been on a date. I find it a challenge to meet someone willing to just sit down over a drink or a cup of coffee. Say the 'DATE' word to someone these days, and they trip over themselves heading for the exit. Or I get interest from someone 10-15 years my senior (now you're ready to settle?) or junior (Aww that's cute, you're not jaded yet) icon_neutral.gif

    The club / bar scene has never been my thing, and I've tired of the online thing (email, chat, etc,.... .) - it's way too impersonal.

    It seems that I going to need to be a bit creative in meeting people. There is a gay basketball league I'll be joining in September and maybe that will open some doors.

    I'm just venting and regurgitating this topic as I'm sure it's been posted before, but damn!!
    My dating life needs to be resuscitated.
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    Jul 17, 2009 3:26 PM GMT
    Well hun im not super sure what you want me(us) to say.

    Believe there are still sentimental guys out there(me!) that think with their hearts and not their rose buds or their members. On the other hand its very hard for GLBT community to find lovers unless its via a phone chat,online correspondance, or some sort of club geared towards homosexuals. Its not as easy as our straight counterparts in assuming the other person is of the same sexual preference(damn straighties!)

    But keep the faith. Read a Oprah magazine on your free timeicon_lol.gif
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    Jul 17, 2009 3:44 PM GMT
    You're in New York City? In or close to Manhattan? You're sitting on a gold mine. There are enough gay events every day to exhaust any social butterfly. And such a range of clubs & bars there you should be able to find one that avoids any objections you might have.

    Sports is good, so are gay church groups (MCC), gay political groups, almost any topic you care to mention. Are you reading the gay rags and local web sites for gay groups and events?

    At 39 you are in the best of all possible worlds. Dead center age-wise, able to reach down to younger guys, and up to the older, as it pleases you, not to mention your own prime age. Kids can't go younger, and us old guys are pushing the limits of the nursing home. Whereas you've got unlimited options, and in NYC to boot.

    Do you know guys would kill to be in your shoes? And not bad looking, either. Maybe you need a socially successful gay friend to mentor you, I dunno. But to paraphrase the famous saying about New York, but for a gay, if you can't make it there, you won't make it anywhere.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 17, 2009 5:03 PM GMT
    Dating in the gay world is multilayered and has many misnomers

    When you meet someone ...... esp if it's online
    there is a presumption that you're meeting for sex
    ... and that's fine if that's what you want

    But I find it hard to talk to you about what books you like later on after I've had your dick in my hand icon_wink.gif ..... or maybe worse