WHAT IS YOUR STRANGEST/WEIRDEST FIRST DATE?

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    Jul 19, 2009 6:43 AM GMT

    I just returned from the strangest date I have ever had, and I have had some strange dates in my life. I met him on this site. I'll be nice and not reveal his profile name....
    From his profile and our telephone conversations he seemed like a man that had his head on straight. He was cool, funny, intelligent, had goals and was passionate about them. He was into getting to know me on a friendship level before anything sexual commenced, which is something I appreciated.
    He called earlier today, and suggested we go to dinner and get some drinks afterwards, and I said cool. His car was in the shop and he asked if I could come pick him up. I said no problem. He's a huge Patti Labelle fan, so I bought her Greatest Hits Cd for us to listen to during our drive, which he appreciated. Dinner and the conversation was great. He is, by the way, hotter than his profile pics: a tall dark skinned muscled man with a beautiful smile and a sexy bald head, and he felt the same about me. He suggested that I could stay over at the end of the evening if I wanted to. I didn't respond.
    I was not prepared for what happened next:

    He was tired of listening to Patti Labelle, so I turned the radio on to a couple R& B stations, but he pulled out of his jacket pocket a cd of GUESS WHAT?

    *“Amazing Grace: All Time Bagpipe Favorites” , to listen to on the way to a dance club. That's right- scottish bagpipe music. He put the cd in and I was like WTF? I thought he was kidding, but he was serious. I asked why we were listening to this music, and he suddenly got upset and said he loved scottish bagbag pipe music. I was like, since when do Black people born and raised in Mississippi like bagpipe music! Keep in mind, we're on the interstate, when he asks me to pull over to the side of the road and let him out. I knew the date was over at that point, but I couldn't let him out on the highway, especially since his cell phone battery was dead. I asked if I could just drive him home WHEN HE PROCEEDS TO GRAB THE STEERING WHEEL SO I CAN CAUSE AN ACCIDENT! So I gave up and did as he wished. I pulled over to the side of the road and stopped so he could get out. Before he gets out, he sounds like he's about to cry as he tells me he doesn't understand why people don't appreciate bagpipe music anymore and he kept talking but all I heard after that was blah blah blah before he got out the car and I drove off. I didn't realize until a minute later that his cd was still playing. Then I hit the eject button and I threw it out the window on the highway like a frisbee.

    WAS THAT NOT STRANGE, OR WHAT?
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    Jul 19, 2009 7:15 AM GMT
    That is insane. I can't even believed that happened...did it really go down like that? Wow, I'm just glad you survived the whole ordeal, but I'm sad that the CD wasn't so fortunate lol

    I don't have a date that even compares to that, but if I do you'll be the first to know.

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    Jul 19, 2009 8:04 AM GMT
    Haha.. Your experience sounds more funny than strange. But I think the guy overreacted big time. I mean, you're right.. bagpipe music isn't exactly a popular genre, outside of Scotland at least. He must be really passionate about bagpipe music or maybe he's just a wacky kind of guy. icon_lol.gif

    I'm into all types of music, but even I don't spring any surprises on guys I meet for the first time. I think music preferences can be a deal breaker for some guys, so l like to browse the presets on a guy's radio to see what he's into.

    Oh well, better luck next time. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 19, 2009 9:50 AM GMT
    ahahahaha All I could think of was Rakes of mallow LMAO!!!!

    Ughh I personally can't understand people that like bagpipes. Nasty sound(waaahh wahh)
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    Jul 19, 2009 10:31 AM GMT
    Hey, he was into Scottish bagpipe music, whats the big deal.. yeah, okay, it sounds like absolute freakin shit.. yeah.. it'll give any sane man a ear bleeding headache.. but come on.. ya was on a date man.. you suck it up hahahahaha

    OMG HAHAHAHAHAHA

    mind you, just cause he's black doesn't mean anything really..
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    Jul 19, 2009 12:18 PM GMT
    lenoxx saidahahahaha All I could think of was Rakes of mallow LMAO!!!!

    Ughh I personally can't understand people that like bagpipes. Nasty sound(waaahh wahh)

    Yeah, not my first choice for instrumental music. For spectacle, though, they can be impressive.

    I witnessed 1300 massed bagpipes in Germany in 1979, supposedly the largest number outside the UK to that time, in an indoor arena. The theme was a recreation of a state visit by Queen Victoria to Holyroodhouse in Scotland, whose stone facade was simulated at one end of the arena. Nobody does military extravaganzas like the Brits.

    They actually had live elephants come out, in the regalia of the Army of India of the 1800s, bearing disassembled wooden gun carriages, as they would have gone into battle. Each team of cannoneers competed in trying to be the first to dismount, assemble, and actually fire their gun, as costumed actors portraying Queen Victoria and the Royal Family watched.

    Lancers on horseback also competed in demonstrations of skill, likewise all in elaborate period military costumes, like something out of an opera. And there were many other recreations of the kind of military pomp which contemporary accounts say Victoria witnessed.

    The climax was the solemn entrance of the 1300 pipers, and a sound that cannot be described. All grouped according to their regimental uniforms, and representing most, if not all, of the "kilted" units in the British Army. Bagpipes don't sound very pretty to my ears, but it shakes you to your very soul when 1300 of them play in unison. No wonder the Scots played them in battle; they're enough to make any enemy feel queasy.

    But in a car during a first date? A pleasure that might have been better deferred for a later time. And indeed, totally unique to my knowledge.
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    Jul 19, 2009 1:37 PM GMT
    That was quite a date you had. But concerning his interest in bagpipe music — different strokes for different folks, I guess. Even for the Mississippi born and raised black folk.

    I do however think he overreacted. I mean, I don't think you would've let his love of bagpipe music deter the two of you from becoming friends or something more intimate. Without knowing the specific dialogue you guys had, so long as you were respectful then there should not have been any agitation on his part, even if you find the music irritating. You can't be forced to like something you don't necessarily care for, and neither should he let petty differences come between you two.

    And that was a sweet thing you did — buying the CD so he could listen to it on the way to your destination. I need to make a mental note to muscle up and shave my head.
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    Jul 19, 2009 2:18 PM GMT
    That was very sweet & genuinely nice of you to buy a special CD for your first date. Sorry to hear a possible good match went "Ape Sh*t*".

    While your comment may have offended him & his taste in music, he definitely overacted. For him put both of your lives in danger like that should raise huge red flag especially for a first date. That's definitely not normal behavior.

    But, maybe he was having a bad week and that was the straw the broke camels??? icon_neutral.gif
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    Jul 19, 2009 2:29 PM GMT
    That is what dating is like?



    I was obviously under a gross misconception.




    I think I'll pass.



    BTW: Buying a CD that he would like?
    Major points.
  • training_guy

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    Jul 19, 2009 2:29 PM GMT
    Do you think the guy got home alright? He might be wondering along the highway clutching an empty cd case of Bagpipe Favorites......
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    Jul 19, 2009 3:42 PM GMT
    Sounds like a crazy date. Glad you're okay. There's a reason some guys are always single.

    I just wonder if they start out that way. How many deranged kids do you know?
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    Jul 19, 2009 3:55 PM GMT
    After a few years of hearing this every morning on camp base
    your start to like it icon_confused.gif

    But I guess if you were in battle 150 years ago and you heard bands playing bagpipes I don't think you would wait and find out especially if they were black watch Regiment or even worse Gurkhas Regiments who have won more Victoria Cross medals then any British Regiment (13)
    There motto is "Better to die than be a coward" icon_neutral.gif

    Why do you think when Prince Harry was there in Irag he had these guys round him.You don't need body guards if you have these guys

    Edinburgh Military Tattoo 2008
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz7AJHwiL2s


    Gurkhas Regiment
    Hope you like the film it comes a cross at the begin like a tourist information film about Tower of London only doing my bit to help with the credit crunch icon_lol.gif

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0M7JYon0xoo

    Good luck with your next dateicon_wink.gif
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    Jul 19, 2009 5:19 PM GMT
    what a freak
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    Jul 19, 2009 5:25 PM GMT
    i went on a date once and the guy got drunk and freaked out on me. He started throwing Christmas ornanments at me and told me i ruin the holidays. I started laughing until i got hit with the glass star, then i just went home. Never heard from him again
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    Jul 19, 2009 5:25 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidHey, he was into Scottish bagpipe music, whats the big deal.. yeah, okay, it sounds like absolute freakin shit.. yeah.. it'll give any sane man a ear bleeding headache.. but come on.. ya was on a date man.. you suck it up hahahahaha

    OMG HAHAHAHAHAHA

    mind you, just cause he's black doesn't mean anything really..


    Exactly.

    I'll give you that this guy was probably just a little touched in the head but you should never assume someone will behave in a certain way or like certain things because of there skin color.

    If that was me trying to drive while he did that I probably would have had an accident, lol.
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    Jul 19, 2009 5:49 PM GMT
    armylad saidEdinburgh Military Tattoo 2008




    It was in fact the Berlin Military Tattoo 1979 that I described above in my post. Unfortunately I can find nothing to show about it online. I made your link into an embedded clip.
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    Jul 19, 2009 5:59 PM GMT
    Sounds like the guy has serious problems being himself, the music situation was only the trigger for his bad mood and behavior. Thankfully it happened during the first date, my advice is don’t pay attention to it, just keep walking and don’t give up.
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    Jul 19, 2009 6:00 PM GMT
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    lilTanker saidHey, he was into Scottish bagpipe music, whats the big deal.. yeah, okay, it sounds like absolute freakin shit.. yeah.. it'll give any sane man a ear bleeding headache.. but come on.. ya was on a date man.. you suck it up hahahahaha

    OMG HAHAHAHAHAHA

    mind you, just cause he's black doesn't mean anything really..


    Exactly.

    I'll give you that this guy was probably just a little touched in the head but you should never assume someone will behave in a certain way or like certain things because of there skin color.

    If that was me trying to drive while he did that I probably would have had an accident, lol.



    He was getting his Phd in African studies. He talked of his love of African tribal music, of the Blues, of BB King, ( I could relate because my dad listens to BB king and has done so, since I was young enough to remember) He impressed me with his knowledge of the history of the blues and of jazz. I was impressed because I love music and I love it when a guy is passionate about something. He told me his favorite artist of all time was Patti Labelle. He said he loved Luther Vandross and Aretha Franklin and Mahalia Jackson, Miles Davis, McCoy Tyner, John Coltrane - all people I appreciate.
    Bagpipe music never came up, not once.

    So naturally, I was thrown for a loop
  • training_guy

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    Jul 19, 2009 6:39 PM GMT
    I must say I do like Amazing Grace on the Bagpipes.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V84STSWVp3g

    Very moving IMO.
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    Jul 19, 2009 7:21 PM GMT
    I wonder if we will hear the other side of the story since the other guy is also from this site.
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    Jul 19, 2009 7:28 PM GMT
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    He might be tried to test you
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    Jul 19, 2009 7:30 PM GMT
    The lesson from this story is rather clear: Dont date guys in Wisconsin!icon_lol.gif

    Just kidding. That's bugged out right there. I mean black people can like bagpipe music - I personally don't - weirder things have happened though.

    So since you asked, here's my weirdest date: 5 years ago I went on a dinner date with a guy who talked - I'm mean TALKED!!- the whole duration (almost 3 hours) of the date. I may have got in about 20 words the most for the evening.

    Dinner came and 2 hours into the date he'd taken about only 2 bites off his plate because he was talking so much. I actually faked a bathroom run to call one of my friends and tell him to ring me in about 20 minutes feigning an emergency so this date could end.
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    Jul 19, 2009 7:31 PM GMT
    Other then your polluting by throwing garbage out of the window, why did you not just let him out when he originally asked? Obviously a bloody loon, I would have gladly left him when he first requested! What a daft bird he was. icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 19, 2009 7:52 PM GMT
    OMG that was scary!! I never heard of bagpipe music? what is it?
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    Jul 19, 2009 8:35 PM GMT
    Not sure if this is a date, or a trick. I've told this story on RJ before elsewhere:

    He was a bartender I met at a struggling new lesbian club in the 1990s, that I patronized to help them out whenever in that area south of Seattle. We'd chat, often being the only 2 men in the place.

    One afternoon as his early shift ended he asked me if I'd like to drop over to his house, just a few blocks away. I said sure, thinking that could be fun, since he wasn't bad looking. I thought of it kinda like a date at that moment, not sure what we might do.

    He took his car and I followed on my motorcycle. Once inside I enjoyed a brief tour, a quick drink, and a fast strip. We began a nice little romp on his bed, learning he was a bottom eager to be filled, while I was glad to oblige. But that's when things turned strange.

    We had just gotten into it doggie style when he started yelling, and I mean YELLING, about how great I was, how big I was, how much he loved it, best he'd had, etc, etc. Well that was OK, kinda inspirational for me, until he started hollering even more desperately how much he loved me personally, and wanted to marry me! On our first date? Even if it did already include a fuck? Really nothing more than a trick?

    And after his marriage proposal, noisily shouted over his shoulder in gasps timed to my thrusts slapping his bare butt, he started adding the details. We'd rent a truck tomorrow, start moving my things into his place, and oh, did I need office space for my computer?

    Now call me an old-fashioned romantic, but shouldn't conversation during a fuck be a little more intimate, or hot, or somehow related to the task at hand, assuming one talks at all? This was entirely too lesbionic for me, planning a U-Haul rental while I was still in the middle of plowing him for the first time. One thing at a time, please, and knock off the multi-tasking, OK?

    But just then my infallible Peter-Meter sent me an urgent message that I was about to be running on empty, thanks to all this weird behavior, and I hadn't cum yet. Too late now, and I knew he'd be certain to notice the change in me any second. So I did some yelling of my own about my cumming, and pulled out so fast I think I must have made a pop.

    I quickly went into the bathroom to remove my condom, being careful to hide its dry sight from him. When I returned he took his own turn in there, while I threw my clothes on as fast as I knew how.

    He caught me almost at the front door, begging me to stay longer. Not slowing down for fear of losing the momentum of my escape, I made some lame excuse about forgetting a commitment I had back home. I left him standing naked in the doorway as I leapt on my motorcycle like it was a horse in a Western movie, and roared out of town.

    I never contacted or saw him again. I also stayed away from that bar, until I heard he had quit and left town. And thereafter, every time I did a guy doggie I'd have flashbacks to that scene, and briefly wonder if I'll get a marriage proposal I didn't want, at least not at that particular moment.