lol ok we'll confess top a little confusion here; to the first two posters crash26a and j0rd4n, er, didn't you know your partners were sexually conservative when you first got together?
If you did, then there was something that made you continue with them in spite of it. Whatever that was, where is it?
- Curious us
Everyone has sexual rhythms; cycles, peaks and valleys if you like. The tide comes in, the tide goes out, the tide comes in...and these tides, just like the ones at the beach come and go to different levels on different days. We learned patience right away, and to court the other in small ways and enjoy flirting, cruising each other in low level (no pressure) admiration. Affection is huge.
Here's our old chocolate cake analogy. If you could only get your hands on chocolate every now and then you'd constantly crave it. Being single is an example of that, in some cases. Now imagine a truck bringing thousands of chocolate cakes to your house and so, delighted you dig in morning noon and night...well, after about a month vanilla starts looking pretty good.
Both of us prefer to be in a state of wanting that chocolate cake, rather than feel too sated.
hope that helps, men!
-Doug and Bill of meninlove