How do you keep sex in a relationship new and exciting?

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    Jul 19, 2009 2:48 PM GMT
    I've been with my partner for 1 year now (I know, not that long, but its the longest relationship I've had) and although I love him I'm starting to get a little frustrated sexually. I'm quite adventurous in the bedroom where he is conservative.... I don't want to leave him or have an affair. Any suggestions on spicing things up?
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    Jul 19, 2009 3:00 PM GMT
    I am in the EXACT same situation as you! My fiancé and I are having trouble with sex, at least I think so. I don't think he is bored but I am and I feel bad for it. We only have sex like once a week if even that and his reasoning is because "when we have sex, it's wild" and I do have to give him credit for that.. it's intense and wears me out but I feel our sex is boring.

    Since he is my fiancé (even if he wasn't) I wouldn't want to cheat on him and that's rarely been in my mind, the thought of that, but I guess maybe try cutting the sex. It's somewhat working. I'm enjoying our sex even if it is every once in a while. Maybe try doing cute things, cooking dinner, staying in, our try some erotic fantasies? If you don't have any, try them, you never know.

    Sorry i'm not much help. I guess i'm somewhat looking for answers too. haha
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    Jul 19, 2009 10:09 PM GMT


    COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP!

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    Jul 19, 2009 10:24 PM GMT
    Include choking, spanking, and forced situations... make 'em feel shameful as you enjoy every humiliating moment! icon_twisted.gif

    Oh I'm sorry. I meant to say, do try something different for there's always role-play, toys for stimulation but importantly, communication. Speak with your partner of what sexual positions you both want to try, or scenarios you'd like to play out, a change of scenery for sex, etc. There are so many possibilities but its just communication with words, but with body language. Do you look at each other? Tenderly kiss your partner in different parts? Or hold one another? Express in ways how much you two love one another.
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    Jul 19, 2009 11:32 PM GMT
    OMG you keep it spontaneous and wild by doing things like..

    Randomly jumping him when he wants in the door, you clobber him to the ground..

    in the middle of the night, you push his head into the pillow and scream "Your gonna get it now bitch" at him. .

    You be rough, so rough that he's not sure he's going to survive the experience..

    You drug him, tie him up in a basement and when he comes to you parade around in the nuddy with a mask on..

    All these things will keep him wildly excited and constantly on alert of random sexual perversion..

    *sniffs* I'd almost forgotten the joys of a relationship *sighs*
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    Jul 19, 2009 11:43 PM GMT
    Jeez liltanker are you trying to kill him or fuck him?

    Drugs, ambushes, and masks....OH MY!!!!!!!
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    Jul 19, 2009 11:44 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidOMG you keep it spontaneous and wild by doing things like..

    Randomly jumping him when he wants in the door, you clobber him to the ground..

    in the middle of the night, you push his head into the pillow and scream "Your gonna get it now bitch" at him. .

    You be rough, so rough that he's not sure he's going to survive the experience..

    You drug him, tie him up in a basement and when he comes to you parade around in the nuddy with a mask on..

    All these things will keep him wildly excited and constantly on alert of random sexual perversion..

    *sniffs* I'd almost forgotten the joys of a relationship *sighs*


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    Jul 19, 2009 11:46 PM GMT
    Runsupport saidJeez liltanker are you trying to kill him or fuck him?

    Drugs, ambushes, and masks....OH MY!!!!!!!

    Sex should be fun.. spontaneous.. whats more spontaneous then a random adultnapping of your man to have a kinky romp in a secluded parking lot.

    The sex will always be unexpected and FUN..

    I mean as long as you push him outta your moving fan onto the side walk and not into oncoming traffic... all's good!
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    Jul 19, 2009 11:46 PM GMT
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    Jul 19, 2009 11:58 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Runsupport saidJeez liltanker are you trying to kill him or fuck him?

    Drugs, ambushes, and masks....OH MY!!!!!!!

    Sex should be fun.. spontaneous.. whats more spontaneous then a random adultnapping of your man to have a kinky romp in a secluded parking lot.

    The sex will always be unexpected and FUN..

    I mean as long as you push him outta your moving fan onto the side walk and not into oncoming traffic... all's good!


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    Jul 20, 2009 12:35 AM GMT
    cheat
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    Jul 20, 2009 12:47 AM GMT
    MuscleToronto saidcheat


    I'm starting to think that's your answer to everythingicon_razz.gif

    but crash26a said no affairs, so I vote for bringing home a play date for a 3-way. Just tell your man that you're going to fuck the play date with or without him. That way it's his choice to make you cheat.
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    Jul 20, 2009 12:48 AM GMT
    crash26a saidI've been with my partner for 1 year now (I know, not that long, but its the longest relationship I've had) and although I love him I'm starting to get a little frustrated sexually. I'm quite adventurous in the bedroom where he is conservative.... I don't want to leave him or have an affair. Any suggestions on spicing things up?


    Hey evaluate the situation and see if your routine is always the same. same time, same room, same approach. Throw a curve in the routine. Go fuck in or on the car in the garage. Check out some porn together and ask him to pick what would turn him on. Tell him to step outside the box and be completely honest. You'd have a real good idea what gets him going. Set up a weekend away together. Weekend trips to spend time away from a routine are great for spicing things up. I'm surprised you haven't clicked into your sexually conservative mans wild side yet. Usually conservative guys are open to all kinds of things and are just waiting to get a little crazy. They are looking to be guided.
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    Jul 20, 2009 12:57 AM GMT
    JamesDee saidHey evaluate the situation and see if your routine is always the same. same time, same room, same approach. Throw a curve in the routine. Go fuck in or on the car in the garage. Check out some porn together and ask him to pick what would turn him on. Tell him to step outside the box and be completely honest. You'd have a real good idea what gets him going. Set up a weekend away together. Weekend trips to spend time away from a routine are great for spicing things up. I'm surprised you haven't clicked into your sexually conservative mans wild side yet. Usually conservative guys are open to all kinds of things and are just waiting to get a little crazy. They are looking to be guided.


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    Jul 20, 2009 1:47 AM GMT
    Introduce poo play.

    Failing that, talk to him. Communication is essential here. Rather than take the angle that you're bored, maybe take the angle that you want to make sure he's 100% satisfied and is there anything you can do that you're not doing to ensure that.
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    Jul 20, 2009 1:49 AM GMT
    get2knowit saidWell, I'm usually not so open about these things. Here goes.

    I'm not with medical insurance at this time and prefer comfort so be gentle please. I love the tongue twirl while getting oral. If you let me deep throat on you and you do it to me I'll get a lot of pleasure from it. I like licking balls, if you don't know CPR please let me breathe every 10 seconds. lol. Kisses are lovely. Hugs mandatory. Missionary position is a favorite so I can look at those fabulous muscles, that or mirrors.

    Awesome I know CPR
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    Jul 20, 2009 2:00 AM GMT
    syd_hockey_79 saidIntroduce poo play.

    Failing that, talk to him. Communication is essential here. Rather than take the angle that you're bored, maybe take the angle that you want to make sure he's 100% satisfied and is there anything you can do that you're not doing to ensure that.



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    Jul 20, 2009 2:02 AM GMT


    lol ok we'll confess top a little confusion here; to the first two posters crash26a and j0rd4n, er, didn't you know your partners were sexually conservative when you first got together?

    If you did, then there was something that made you continue with them in spite of it. Whatever that was, where is it?

    - Curious us

    Everyone has sexual rhythms; cycles, peaks and valleys if you like. The tide comes in, the tide goes out, the tide comes in...and these tides, just like the ones at the beach come and go to different levels on different days. We learned patience right away, and to court the other in small ways and enjoy flirting, cruising each other in low level (no pressure) admiration. Affection is huge.

    Here's our old chocolate cake analogy. If you could only get your hands on chocolate every now and then you'd constantly crave it. Being single is an example of that, in some cases. Now imagine a truck bringing thousands of chocolate cakes to your house and so, delighted you dig in morning noon and night...well, after about a month vanilla starts looking pretty good.

    Both of us prefer to be in a state of wanting that chocolate cake, rather than feel too sated.


    hope that helps, men!

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    Jul 20, 2009 2:10 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidin the middle of the night, you push his head into the pillow and scream "Your gonna get it now bitch" at him.


    Finally, some proof that under that gruff exterior lies a true romantic.
    I believe it was Shakespeare who said, "Love bites, love bleeds, It's bringin' me to my knees"
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    Jul 20, 2009 2:12 AM GMT
    communicate
    communicate
    communicate.

    I am in the same situation.....we talked, and if nothing it relieved my penting resentment.....which was very good!

    My BF didnt have sex for 9 years before we met.....i was a shock for him, he really enjoys it but he also gets off on cuddling, kissing, holding...me cooking/him cooking.............i have learned that intamcey isnt just sex.
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    Jul 20, 2009 2:13 AM GMT
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    Okay, now you're getting me all hot and bothered.


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    Jul 20, 2009 2:14 AM GMT
    madtown said
    lilTanker saidin the middle of the night, you push his head into the pillow and scream "Your gonna get it now bitch" at him.


    Finally, some proof that under that gruff exterior lies a true romantic.
    I believe it was Shakespeare who said, "Love bites, love bleeds, It's bringin' me to my knees"

    Always baby, always!
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    Jul 20, 2009 3:02 AM GMT


    Craigjd, that was very very cool.
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    Jul 20, 2009 3:14 AM GMT
    Two words: duct tape.
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    Jul 20, 2009 3:17 AM GMT
    flex89 saidTwo words: duct tape.


    Oh yes...I bet daddy likes that!!

    I say come to phoenix and find a hot Mexican to fuck with and then go back and confess and live happily ever after!

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