How much do you factor what your friends think about the guy you're dating...

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    Jul 19, 2009 9:07 PM GMT
    ...to consider on going steady or exclusive (or "taking it to the next level", so to speak)?
    Answers in percentages are welcome, too. Thank you.
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    Jul 19, 2009 11:54 PM GMT
    depends.. like MMTM said some friends can get jealous, others are just terrible at relationships advice and still others think what ever the hell it is they think..

    Sometimes you just have to totally disregard a friend's opinion..

    Another thing is, some friends will have this idea of you and wont like seeing it change and will say things to keep you there..

    Don't let that happen
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    Jul 20, 2009 12:23 AM GMT
    My friends are my family. The friends that I have are incredibly important to me. When I am dating a guy it is important to me for him to get along with my friends. I don't have jealous friends so that is never a concern but they ARE as good of a judge of character as myself. I don't necessarily base what happens with my relationships on my friend's opinions but I do take any and all feedback into account.
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    Jul 20, 2009 1:02 AM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle saidDepends, sometimes a friend can become jealous and then their opinion should be completely void. They may try to sabotage your dating efforts.



    I am usually my own and a very good judge of character when it comes to figuring out the kind of person I am dating. Friends on the other hand can be very jealous or overly judgmental about the dates of their friends! good luck!!


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    Jul 20, 2009 1:25 AM GMT
    Meh, they aren't the ones dating him so their input should be minimally taken into account.

    I would let my friends pick me out a boyfriend, as much as I would let my mother.
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    Jul 20, 2009 1:27 AM GMT



    The answer, Zim, is subjective. In our case friends can offer opinions, but then, they're only friends, and aren't going to be the one benefiting or suffering the results of their advice.

    The final decision is always yours, and depending on whether they support you or not also determines whether they really are friends, or not! lol

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    Jul 20, 2009 1:52 AM GMT
    My friends thought that my boyfriend and I getting together was terrible and that he was this and that. We have been together over a year and live together. The friends that talked the most shit just wanted me to stay the single guy that was always available to go out and be slutty. It took some time for me to realize that they would not have been happy with whoever I was dating because of their own selfish needs.
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    Jul 20, 2009 4:04 AM GMT
    First I would need to have friends.
    Then I would need to get a date.

    Hypothetically speaking, I would take it into consideration weighted about 1/4 to 1/3.
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    Jul 20, 2009 9:47 AM GMT
    Not at all
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    Jul 20, 2009 10:04 AM GMT
    I don't need to worry about that, anymore, but back when I was dating, I often looked to my closest friends for insight/opinions.

    Take note that none of my friends ever offered an opinion unless I asked for it. If 'friends' offer you unsolicited opinions of a guy you're dating, I'd probably start to question their motive(s).
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    Jul 20, 2009 10:38 AM GMT
    I've been single for 8 years, so I cant say...

    ...however, as someone who has friends, I try and be the supportive friend who is positive about my friend's relationships. I wont point out any flaws or annoying habits of their beau, even if asked. Mostly because these things can be very subjective, so what's the point of bringing it up if the guy hasn't noticed?

    I do draw the line at cheating, and if I know my friend's relationship is monogamous and I see his partner cheating, I wont hesitate to speak up. Apart from that, I'll be supportive 'til it ends.