Ex finally leaves on Friday...

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    Jul 20, 2009 12:19 PM GMT
    It hurts. The odd thing, to me anyway, is that it's not really him or the relationship I am mourning; it's the choices I have made en route to this point. I know these are never happy occasions, but I really thought I'd be turning cartwheels as the end drew nearer. Instead I feel a bit derailed.

    This is normal, right?

    For whatever it's worth, I do already know the answer, but this is me checking in with people making sure my brain isn't sliding out of my ear.
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    Jul 20, 2009 12:47 PM GMT
    Dear Adam,
    Hunny, you know damn well that your mates are always right behind you. Although some cannot be with you physically, thanks to RJ and Facebook we can check up on you every now and then. I say just bask in whatever emotions come to you naturally. It will all lead up to your healing. And let me say I admire your balance and strength to be so together all this time. No, you are not crazy and to my eyes you will always be a catch.
    Love and hugs from Dubai,
    Odilon xx
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    Jul 20, 2009 12:48 PM GMT
    (HUG)
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    Jul 20, 2009 4:31 PM GMT
    Very normal ....

    Even if the relationship had run its course and you no longer care for him
    he's been part of your life
    of course you're going to mourn the relationship's passing
    it's like losing an old shoe
    the damned thing might have been ripped and gave you some painful corns
    but you've had it forever and it was soft and comfortable too
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    Jul 22, 2009 5:36 AM GMT
    Hey Adam

    Sure it hurts. Something and someone whom you cared about and who cared for you is leaving. It's only natural that you would dwell on decisions you made along the way. Just try to remember the context in which you made those decisions. You may see things differently now, but I would wager that every decision you made was sensible when you made it. As for recriminations, look at any real mistakes you made for their educational purpose and then forgive yourself, remember the lesson you learned and forget the mistake.

    You may well find your feelings all over the place for a while. The good thing is that you can feel and tolerate your feelings - even if they hurt. Just remind yourself that the difficult feelings won't last. You can't stop the waves, but I know for sure you can float.

    Stay well and let us know how it's going.
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    Jul 22, 2009 12:57 PM GMT



    Hey Adam, what they say...and of course you've got ol' us as backup people to talk to, too! heheh


    -backup people

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    Jul 22, 2009 1:26 PM GMT
    You already know that I back you, 100%. Hang in there, you beautiful hunk of man.
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    Jul 22, 2009 1:33 PM GMT
    Thanks again buds. I'm already feeling much better than I was when I first wrote this. A lot is going on in addition to this, but I know I am capable of facing it and going through it all. I just need (and appreciate) a little reminder that I can, and a gentle push from behind to keep going forward sometimes. icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 22, 2009 2:01 PM GMT
    ...just because you want the relationship to end...why would you expect to do cart wheels?

    there are so many deep, subcnscious thoughts going on here....that affect mood and point of view...i wish i could take your pain away...it sounds like a confusing, scary time. yes, ive been there

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    Jul 22, 2009 5:28 PM GMT
    Hi Adam,

    A lot of guys are pulling for you. You're in our thoughts. It is normal to be feeling a bit conflicted at this point. Just keep focused on what you're doing and what brought you both to this point - - and don't spend too much time thinking nostalgically about the past.

    My bet is that you won't be single for too long ...........you have a whole lot of good attributes going for you!
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    Jul 22, 2009 11:38 PM GMT
    Hello my friend! Everyone here supports you 100% in every way. Positive energy, great friends, and lots of laughter can make a world of difference when you need it the most. Make yourself the "priority" - take the time to make yourself be the most important person in your life. Acknowledge the past and learn from it, but keep your eyes toward that future! Happiness will not elude you. You will always be surrounded by the warmth of friends, and remember that they are only an email away when you need them. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 22, 2009 11:40 PM GMT
    oh my god.


    you're FINALLY single?!?
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    Jul 23, 2009 12:31 AM GMT
    Por vous:

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