How would you define a "Boy Toy?"

  • sportsjockla

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    Jul 20, 2009 8:11 PM GMT
    My roommate and I have different views on what a boy toy is. I'm 46 and he's 23. He dates guys my age or older with lots of money that are flying him all over the country for weekends. Guys that he has no intention of dating of getting romantically involved with because of their location. I consider that a boy toy. He says, just friends. What do you think?
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    Jul 20, 2009 8:16 PM GMT
    I'd ask the guys who are doing all this for him what they think. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 20, 2009 8:31 PM GMT
    In MY case, Boy Toy = unobtainable. icon_razz.gif Nah, really I don't want one.

    In your case, your roommate sounds like an escort. And a boy toy, and a whore, and an amoral, unprincipled opportunist. Good thing he never met me; I'd send him packing when I learned what he is, without even cab fare, and a negative recommendation that would proceed him like the swine flu.
  • sportsjockla

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    Jul 20, 2009 8:33 PM GMT
    ONe of them called him a trophey boy
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    Jul 20, 2009 8:33 PM GMT
    A guy friend that you have simply for the purpose of:

    a)his company
    b)sex

    Boytoys are useful for making you feel sexy after your boyfriend breaks up with you. Similar to a booty call except the guy knows its not gonna go anywhere. icon_wink.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 20, 2009 8:39 PM GMT
    Well the "boy toy" term isn't positive. Some of what was said above I certainly agree with.. but I think what permeates through the responses so far is someone who isn't taken seriously, who doesn't care about anybody except himself and out for himself.
    Those who use him are equally faulty.

    The term "Trophy boy" is almost worse.... thats about as bad as you can get.

    I have a question for you, sportsjock...... why are you "rooming" with this dude to begin with?
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    Jul 20, 2009 8:41 PM GMT
    Your roommate sounds like a hustler. Boytoy is a step up.
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    Jul 20, 2009 8:51 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said Those who use him are equally faulty.

    Exactly. The "benefactor" who pays the bills should share the blame.
  • sportsjockla

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    Jul 20, 2009 9:13 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidWell the "boy toy" term isn't positive. Some of what was said above I certainly agree with.. but I think what permeates through the responses so far is someone who isn't taken seriously, who doesn't care about anybody except himself and out for himself.
    Those who use him are equally faulty.

    The term "Trophy boy" is almost worse.... thats about as bad as you can get.

    I have a question for you, sportsjock...... why are you "rooming" with this dude to begin with?


    I had no idea he was like this. We dated like for about 2 weeks and I knew he all for himself. He was in a bad situation and being the nice guy that I am, I decided to help him out. He's in San Fran right now with one of his "Friends", then next week he's off to Vegas. I'm going to be sending him packing probably at the end of the month. I tried to help him, but he's to into himself.
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    Jul 20, 2009 9:13 PM GMT
    low, low IQ.
  • sportsjockla

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    Jul 20, 2009 9:20 PM GMT
    He's actually just crashing on my couch, so can't really consider him a roommate. I charge him rent which he pays, but after reading some of these responses I'm wondering why I let a hustler live with me. He's lazy too.
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    Jul 20, 2009 9:33 PM GMT
    Sportsjockia, first, I'd ask myself why I am hanging around a 23 y.o. It's not the age difference between the two of you, but the fact that a 23 y.o. is virtually out of teenagehood....some are more mature, but many still have the expedient view of life that it will not end, and that they're interests go no further than their latest strong "desire."

    Second, no doubt he is narcissistic. Whether he is a hustler is another issue. As a narcissist, he can simply love the attention that older guys pay towards him. Take a look at some of the profiles on RJ of older guys (some, not all, thank goodness) that say "...looking for a younger guy who wants to be with an older gentleman..." That's a set up...it tells the younger guy, he's going to be idolized.....for a while.

    Actually, you're friend is nuts not to want to have a relationship with you, if looks/build are his only criterion. He probably doesn't give a whit that you are intelligent, and would be committed to him. I know that's not what you are asking, though.

    So....I am willing to bet he is indeed a "boy toy" for these other guys.
  • Webster666

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    Jul 20, 2009 9:36 PM GMT

    He gets to live the good life with everything paid for by you.
    You get to have sex with a young cute boy.
  • sportsjockla

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    Jul 20, 2009 9:40 PM GMT
    "Actually, you're friend is nuts not to want to have a relationship with you, if looks/build are his only criterion. He probably doesn't give a whit that you are intelligent, and would be committed to him. I know that's not what you are asking, though.

    So....I am willing to bet he is indeed a "boy toy" for these other guys."

    Hey Fastprof... I have no intention of having a relationship with him!!! I was just being nice. Nothing more! I was trying to help this kid out. We don't have sex or anything. He sleep on the couch.

    Yes, he is a boy toy for these guys. I told him when I didn't want to date him there are 2 types of guys that are my age:

    1) Guys that are sincere and intelligent that are looking for a meaningful relationship. Perhaps with a younger guy, but most want around the same age.
    2) The guys who just want a boy toy. You are nothing more then a fuck. I guess that's the path he chose.

    I lent him a helping hand, but now I have retracted that hand. I refuse to do anything more for him.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 20, 2009 9:42 PM GMT
    sportsjockla said


    I have a question for you, sportsjock...... why are you "rooming" with this dude to begin with?


    I had no idea he was like this. We dated like for about 2 weeks and I knew he all for himself. He was in a bad situation and being the nice guy that I am, I decided to help him out. He's in San Fran right now with one of his "Friends", then next week he's off to Vegas. I'm going to be sending him packing probably at the end of the month. I tried to help him, but he's to into himself.


    You dated for 2 weeks and let him live with you? I'm just curious.. did you have an "end" time to that when you let him in your place?


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    Jul 20, 2009 9:48 PM GMT
    Kick him out.

    But make sure he doesn't steal any of your stuff. Cuz, you know he'll try.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 20, 2009 9:48 PM GMT
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  • sportsjockla

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    Jul 20, 2009 9:51 PM GMT
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    I love it!
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    Jul 20, 2009 9:56 PM GMT
    I think the phrase "boytoy" applies to older women dating young guys.

    He sounds like a prostitute to me. I'd watch out he doesn't take some of your belongings when you kick him off your couch.

  • sportsjockla

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    Jul 21, 2009 12:53 AM GMT
    Here I thought he was just being rude not inviting me to these celebrity parties here in LA. I guess only escorts are on the guest list or he just didn't want me to find out. LOL
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    Jul 21, 2009 1:37 AM GMT

    Definate Boy Toy. I should know, I've had a few. Lol.

    These young guys are not Boy Toys when they become clingy. That's the definitive feature. True Boy Toys know when to go.


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    Jul 21, 2009 1:40 AM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    HndsmKansan said Those who use him are equally faulty.

    Exactly. The "benefactor" who pays the bills should share the blame.


    Oh I do. I'm totally guilty.

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    Jul 21, 2009 1:54 AM GMT
    I smell something fishy about the OP's story. I don't quite buy it... Didn't you think he was a boy toy when you were dating him? Sounds to me like you are just envious that you are not the one being invited all over the world to be screwed by old men who have to pay for it.

    He's doig the same with these men that he did with you, no more or less
  • ChilaxinJOCK0...

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    Jul 21, 2009 2:08 AM GMT
    well damn, I need to get me a suga daddy LOL
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    Jul 21, 2009 2:11 AM GMT


    ask MADONNA..............icon_wink.gif