Relationship advice given by your Parents.

  • SwimNP

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    Jul 21, 2009 3:33 AM GMT
    Has anyone ever received relationship advice from your parents? If so what was it and did it work haha.

    One day speaking to my mom on the phone about a guy I liked but didn't know how to approach, she told me to just "walk up and say that you fancy him".

    There was a period of silence where I was trying to figure out if she was kidding or not. The fact that she was dead serious made it even funnier so I cracked up laughing. Haven't tried using those exact words yet seeing as it is no longer the 1920's (Maybe I'll trade a guy for two chickens and a horse). The concept though is golden.

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    Jul 21, 2009 10:36 AM GMT
    Well... yes. But for girls. icon_mad.gif
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    Jul 21, 2009 10:38 AM GMT
    wow im jealous...i still havent had that bird and the bee talk yet from my parents...
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    Jul 21, 2009 10:42 AM GMT
    Your mom is officially on the top of the list of those whom I respect. I want her autograph!
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    Jul 21, 2009 11:54 AM GMT
    tereseus1 saidwow im jealous...i still havent had that bird and the bee talk yet from my parents...


    My Dad said " Don't they teach you that shit in school?? that's what I pay taxes for!"

    LOL, I'm, not kidding
  • Bunjamon

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    Jul 21, 2009 1:50 PM GMT
    It just goes to show you, parents are a lot wiser than we give them credit for! icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 21, 2009 2:07 PM GMT
    LOL they sure did.

    About a week after I met Bill, I was terrified and convinced this somehow was not going to work. I called Mom and Dad during a surge of panic on a coffee break.

    I spilled to Mom and she said,"I'm going to let you talk to your father."

    GULP! WHAT?!?

    Dad came on , "Look,you obviously like the guy. You've been thinking about him and if he's the right one for you, so now that you're thinking that way, the next time you see him you'll know either way. Go on, meet him after work like you planned. Stop panicking, it'll either work or it won't."

    Mom in the background, "Oh for christ's sake Neil, give me the phone."

    Dad,as he gave it over, "jesus Alison, say something that makes sense."

    (lol! my parents)
    Mom cleared her throat, and said, "Doug, if you can use his toothbrush, you're in love with him." Dad guffawing in background.

    ...the rest of my shift was spent in a strange limbo. Then I went to see Bill.

    There he was in his office, ratty unraveling sweater, dandruff on the shoulders and hair flat and slightly greasy from a long day.

    my god I fell so hard so fast the earth shook. They were right.


    ...and yes, I eventually put other things in my mouth besides his toothbrush.


    -Doug of the unicorns
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    Jul 21, 2009 2:35 PM GMT
    my mom is horrible .. she came back from a vacation to Cuba with the phone number of two very hot guys that worked at her hotel. Apparently she showed them my pictures during a night of drunken debauchery icon_redface.gif

  • calibro

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    Jul 21, 2009 2:44 PM GMT
    my dad's advice... "no matter who you end up with, keep separate bank accounts, sign a prenup, and always make sure they have a 401K. you can't choose whom you love, but you can choose to be poor."
  • MichVBPlayer2...

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    Jul 21, 2009 3:23 PM GMT
    One day my mom was talking to my sister and I and this was the relationship advice she gave to both of us. She said "The reason why you are supposed to wait to have sex until after marriage is that the first year of marriage is so difficult and trying on both of you, that you will need the newness of sex to help keep you both together."

    Of course, I was out to her at this time so I don't know why she was telling me this and my sister had been with her bf for over 3 years and had already been having sex too. Oh well, at least it seemed like good advice at the time.
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    Jul 21, 2009 4:35 PM GMT

    Yes, actually I have. My parents have left this world of course but they were exceptional when it came to my sexuality and various boyfriends. I will always cherish that.

    Maybe I'm old fashion, but your mom suggestion was good. If the person you approach with these words does figure out ithe words themselves did not come from you, he may: 1) see it as a turnoff or 2) be insightful enough to see greater depth in you, i.e., support from "folks" behind you. Our fMILIES SHOULD SUPPORT US WHEN POSSIBLE.
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    Jul 21, 2009 4:53 PM GMT
    Before my Dad (who wasn't always on-board with my sexuality) passed away, he had started to give simple relationship advice. One thing I'll always remember is that when I lost a fella I was dating to cancer and told my Dad I thought I'd never meet anyone who could hold to this guys standard, my Dad told me that this guy would have wanted me to go on and find another terrific and exceptional guy and end up happy.

    Just hearing him dispense that advice told me just how far he had come, and served to strengthen an otherwise rather distant relationship.

    Just in time.
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    Jul 21, 2009 5:03 PM GMT
    The only advice my mother gave me about men was that wearing tight pants would get me raped. That's mom for you.
  • EricLA

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    Jul 21, 2009 5:10 PM GMT
    innerathlete saidThe only advice my mother gave me about men was that wearing tight pants would get me raped. That's mom for you.


    Inner, can you clarify whether you tested that advice or whether you followed that advice?
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    Jul 21, 2009 5:17 PM GMT
    innerathlete saidThe only advice my mother gave me about men was that wearing tight pants would get me raped. That's mom for you.


    My dad told me "I didn't know how easy it was for a bunch of fags in the city to take me gang rape me and the HE would have to pick me up at the hospital."
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    Jul 21, 2009 5:24 PM GMT
    Ericnner, can you clarify whether you tested that advice or whether you followed that advice?


    I would test it but the iron-clad chastity belt I got padlocked underneath my drawers prevents anyone from getting inside me.

    chungoMy dad told me "I didn't know how easy it was for a bunch of fags in the city to take me gang rape me and the HE would have to pick me up at the hospital."


    Ha sounds like my mom and your dad would have a lot to talk about. I'm sure they both have a lot to say about how hard life is when it's all about you.
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    Jul 21, 2009 5:26 PM GMT
    Not advice per se, but pressure. They noticed, correctly, that by my mid-20s I had yet to date anyone, neither woman nor man. I didn't even attend my high school prom for lack of a date.

    My mother was constantly nagging me to date a "nice girl," especially after I took a break from active Army service to return to college. In 1975 I did just that, bringing a college girl home who was really a tom-boy (lesbian?), a fellow motorcyclist and outdoors person, who was often mistaken for a man until I taught her how to dress.

    In 1978 we married, then split 2 years later. My sister told me in 1996 that she and my parents always knew I was gay, and were dubious & concerned when I announced my intention to marry.

    And my reaction was: first, why didn't anyone every tell ME I was gay? Second, why didn't our parents tell me about their reservations before I got married? And third, why were my parents, especially my mother, always nagging me to meet girls, if they knew I was gay?

    My sister said they initially hoped that going with girls would "cure" me. By the time I was getting married they doubted that would happen, but still held out some hope it might be possible, so they said nothing. Thanks a lot.

    So that my parents never gave me any relationship advice, when they should have. They certainly never told me about sexual matters, not really what their generation did.

    But that part I didn't need, anyway. I knew what was going on by about 12, having figured it out logically, and gotten my hands on some medical books. Where I failed was knowledge of gay sex, which mainstream literature did not address, and regarding which my anatomical reasoning provided no clues.

    Ah, well. I taught myself to play the piano, I taught myself about being gay, I basically taught myself almost everything I ever learned. Yet I still quote many things my parents told me, as invaluable folk wisdom, and merely wish they had said something to me about relationships. How much easier my life might have been. icon_confused.gif
  • maximumrisk

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    Jul 21, 2009 5:38 PM GMT
    I havent taken my parents advice in a long time and in relationships I cant trust them. In the end they still think i am just confused.icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Run4Life83

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    Jul 21, 2009 6:33 PM GMT
    Mom's current advice is "If you won't hurry up and find someone will you at least get someone pregnant so I can have a grandkid before I die? Since you're sister isn't exactly helping the situation." (cue muttering in Italian)

    &

    "The man you marry (like you can get married) had better have an ass like Troy Tulowitzki. that is some Grade A Beef!"


    Thanks Ma. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 21, 2009 6:36 PM GMT
    RnrActinTech said"The man you marry (like you can get married) had better have an ass like Troy Tulowitzki. that is some Grade A Beef!"

    Who the hell is he?
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    Jul 21, 2009 6:40 PM GMT
    meninlove said LOL they sure did.

    About a week after I met Bill, I was terrified and convinced this somehow was not going to work. I called Mom and Dad during a surge of panic on a coffee break.

    I spilled to Mom and she said,"I'm going to let you talk to your father."

    GULP! WHAT?!?

    Dad came on , "Look,you obviously like the guy. You've been thinking about him and if he's the right one for you, so now that you're thinking that way, the next time you see him you'll know either way. Go on, meet him after work like you planned. Stop panicking, it'll either work or it won't."

    Mom in the background, "Oh for christ's sake Neil, give me the phone."

    Dad,as he gave it over, "jesus Alison, say something that makes sense."

    (lol! my parents)
    Mom cleared her throat, and said, "Doug, if you can use his toothbrush, you're in love with him." Dad guffawing in background.

    ...the rest of my shift was spent in a strange limbo. Then I went to see Bill.

    There he was in his office, ratty unraveling sweater, dandruff on the shoulders and hair flat and slightly greasy from a long day.

    my god I fell so hard so fast the earth shook. They were right.


    ...and yes, I eventually put other things in my mouth besides his toothbrush.


    -Doug of the unicorns


    omg hilarious! i still have to message you about that 3 week story icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 21, 2009 6:51 PM GMT
    my father gave us dating advice:

    "When you go on a date take a brown paper bag with an apple in it. After a while the girl you are dating will ask you what is in the bag and you say "It´s an apple for you"."

    He really gave us this advice. It´s a miracle the man ever married.

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  • Run4Life83

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    Jul 21, 2009 6:59 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    RnrActinTech said"The man you marry (like you can get married) had better have an ass like Troy Tulowitzki. that is some Grade A Beef!"

    Who the hell is he?


    Shortstop for the Colorado Rockies Baseball Team.
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    Jul 21, 2009 7:05 PM GMT


    My mom always tells me.... Be nothing like your father and my Dad usually responds Yeah cause I struck gold! Married almost 50 yrs they are literally a traveling comedy act.
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    Jul 21, 2009 7:24 PM GMT
    RnrActinTech said
    Red_Vespa said
    RnrActinTech said"The man you marry (like you can get married) had better have an ass like Troy Tulowitzki. that is some Grade A Beef!"

    Who the hell is he?

    Shortstop for the Colorado Rockies Baseball Team.

    OIC, TY. Now you know how little I follow team sports. icon_redface.gif

    And you agree he has a good ass?