The Joy of Being Gay, and the Strengths We Have

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    Jul 22, 2009 6:19 PM GMT
    There was a Brit TV series called “Connections” with an eccentric host, who tried to demonstrate improbable links to all kinds of famous historical events. Sort of the “for want of a nail” scenario taken backwards to its extreme.

    So today I quoted a line here in a thread from the movie Victor/Victoria. Then I started to watch the DVD of it on this computer. And saw the scene where Julie Andrews & James Garner are at the opera watching Madama Butterfly.

    That scene reminded me of going to the Miami Opera a few months ago to see that same opera, with my partner’s sister, a retired opera singer herself. My partner wasn’t along, BTW, not a big opera fan, just the 2 of us. (His sister is a doll and we are great friends) My sister-in-law cried just like Julie Andrews does in the movie at the most famous aria ("Un bel di vedremo").

    And I reminded her I had appeared on that very opera stage myself, though in nothing so impressive as grand opera, just with a gay chorus in July, 2008, during an incredible week-long international gathering of 147 gay & lesbians choruses from around the world. She had been out of town and had to miss it. Her brother had been in it, too.

    And I thought to myself today: what a blessed life I live! I haven’t got an awful lot of money, but I live like a gay Prince (please forgive the shameless vanity). I know everyone, go everywhere, do everything.

    But not too many years ago when I was straight I did nothing, my life a horrible drudgery. And at one point more recently, I was basically destitute, thanks to a vengeful ex-wife. I fully expected I would be living under a bridge next. A little more than a year later I was performing on an opera stage.

    My success is entirely due to the gay community. I have lived on both sides of the fence, straight & gay, and the straight world was cold & unforgiving to me. The gay world has become my second family, and offers me everything. That’s why I give so much back in return, now that I’m back on my feet.

    To other gays I would advise to look to your brothers, and realize what advantages you really have. I observe that too many of us don’t appreciate what strength and support we offer to each other. The gay community wants to help its own. Don’t expect to find it in the straight world.

    Neither expect a free ride; leeches need not apply. But if you are willing to give as well as to receive, our gay community will be generous beyond measure. Perhaps the greatest thing I discovered when I came out wasn’t the gay sex -- it was the gay acceptance, support and love. I hope we all share that with each other, and thrive as a united community.
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    Jul 22, 2009 9:48 PM GMT
    Man, You are so right! Being gay is wonderful, a priceless gift. Can't think of any straight man I know I'd even be willing to think about trading places with.
    Maybe that's why so many straight men dislike us.

    My partner would say I was a "gay princess" rather than prince, however.
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    Jul 22, 2009 10:07 PM GMT
    maybe it's because I've been sucking cock since five and never, had the luxury of living the life of a heterosexual you have. darling you have never been straight or gay as you are a bisexual. Sorry I've missed your point in all of that. But I've lived my whole life as a pure homosexual.

    In the 80s I worked for the gay community in a bathhouse, and seen many gay men give other brothers a death sentance because they were not willing too deprive their dick of enjoyment. I've also had gay men deliberately try to give AIDS to me, what in the fuck was loving and supporting about that.

    In fact my last attempt to be apart of the gay community was to sing with a gay and lesbian chorus, and found the dukes to have a big chip on their shoulders, and had issues with me, because I was not girly enough, the amount of times I was told I was really a lesbianicon_wink.gif

    I found the men too be spitful and vindictive because I do have a wonderful sound, and a natural ability too sing; I have the ear. I wasn't until I stopped sinning in their concerts they missed me, but then also pissed off with me because I was not there.

    So maybe I missed what you are saying because I'm not a bisexual who has also had a wife, and lived the life of a straight guy.; even though I do live in the straight world as a poof.

    Oh but I certainly have become strong from what I've endured from the gay community, even here at RJ.
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    Jul 22, 2009 11:34 PM GMT
    does this post have cliff notes?

    I'd like to read it, I really would, but...oh look...a butterfly!!
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    Jul 23, 2009 6:30 AM GMT
    tommysguns2000 saiddoes this post have cliff notes?

    I'd like to read it, I really would, but...oh look...a butterfly!!


    Hands off my butterfly, Tommyboy. Sheesh. Two weeks in the same state and you're already trying to steal my toys!