Comment Lui Dire Adieu? - How Do You Lose a Guy Online?

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    Jul 23, 2009 4:14 PM GMT
    Hey, I get a lot of IMs and messages from guys.

    Unfortunately, the majority of these guys don't interest me at all..

    These guys are usually all very friendly and nice, but from either their profile or photo, I know that I would neither want to meet them nor continue the online conversation with them.

    The problem is that I don't want to be rude to them. I just want them to go away.

    How do you respectfully and politely end the conversation?

    1) Ignore and delete without responding?
    2) Write back and confess that you are not interested? How?
    3) Block the guy?

    What is the best way?





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    Jul 23, 2009 4:39 PM GMT
    How do you respectfully and politely end the conversation?

    1) Ignore and delete without responding?
    2) Write back and confess that you are not interested? How?
    3) Block the guy?

    What is the best way?

    If you want to do it "respectfully and politely" then options 1 and 3 are out: they are not serious crimes, but they are not the sort of thing that a real man does just to end this sort of conversation.
    3 is rude in many contexts (exception "do you want to see my cock". Reply. "No" and block), 1 is OK, but certainly not "respectful and polite". I have done both. If they are IMs wanting to cam I frequently say "I donĀ“t cam, have a good day"
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    Jul 23, 2009 4:47 PM GMT
    I used to just selectively block them without comment, on services which allowed that. Here on RJ I just switched all IMs off. A few times I tried turning RJ IMs back on because of a request during emails exchanges, but then I immediately started getting other interrupting IMs again during our chat. Now they are off permanently. Emails are fast enough.
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    Jul 23, 2009 5:52 PM GMT

    Do what you would want done to you if the role was reversed and if 1 and 3 is your style go for it but I'm sure you'd want honesty which is always a hard pill to swallow but goes over much better when all's said and done.
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    Jul 23, 2009 6:22 PM GMT
    Why not just respond "Je veux vous dire adieu?" Wherher or not they're francophone they'll sure get the message.