Truth About Age

  • Joeyphx444

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    Jul 23, 2009 8:04 PM GMT
    So there are a lot of stereotypes about age. What is too young and what is too old?

    Being 19, I have received a lot of crap from guys over 30 and even guys in their 20's. I hate it when they think of you as some young dumb thing just because they used to be dumb when they were my age. I certainly don't consider myself to be like anyone my age or anyone for that matter. I mean, preferably I would like a guy my age to about 30 years old. A lot of cool guys I have met are around 25-35. They seem cool but sometimes they just want a young one to make themselves feel better or for better sex or something. I feel like college kids just think they are so cool and so mature that they try to find older people. I know I am still young and have a lot to learn but I do feel somewhat like a 25 year old in a 19 year old's body icon_razz.gif
  • Timbales

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    Jul 23, 2009 8:06 PM GMT
    I don't think of someone 19 as being dumb, just someone who has not lived as long as me.
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    Jul 23, 2009 8:29 PM GMT
    I don't know, I admit I do have some age hang ups in regards to dating, especially when going down the scale. But I'll talk with everyone, maybe with some hestiancy but ultimately I understand that everyone is an individual. I'm not going to date a number, I'm going to date a person. The behaviors of guys your age are going to give you a bad rap, that's why they're are stereotypes. Unfortunately when you're in a category and pursuing people in a different group you've got to give it a little more time for the other person to come around. The best thing you can do is just be yourself and let that be the deciding factor for the other person. Some will bite, some won't, if they don't...NEXT!
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    Jul 23, 2009 8:52 PM GMT
    I've told this story before here, about the gay bar pickup who told me he was 42 when I was 55. That was OK for a trick, but a little low on my scale as a potential keeper, so I assumed we'd be limited to a night or 2 in my bed.

    The next morning he hesitatingly confessed that he was really 52, and when he saw me start to cry into my pillow he got all distraught, thinking I was mad & disappointed at being tricked. But neither would he believe the truth at first, when I told him they were tears of joy at the miracle.

    I had gone to sleep wishing this lovely man was 50-something instead of 42, and woke up to find my dream had come true during the night. Honest to gawd that's what I told him, and what I truly meant. We dated for 2 years after that, and remain good friends to this day.

    Never make assumptions about what other guys really want, and especially that older guys all dream of cradle-robbing. Some of us pray for our own age, and are thankful when we get it.
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    Jul 23, 2009 9:47 PM GMT
    I think it is possible to reach across those age boundaries... but hard.

    I used to think that all ages could potentially be compatible. I no longer think that is the case for most people.

    For me personally I like to be able to relate to the person I am with. That means that we share common experience and common amounts of experiences. You're 19 and either haven't been to college or are just starting. Someone even 5 years older has been through college and the experience of their first job, living in the real world, negotiating all those things in life that supposedly make you an adult.

    I will tell you one thing that is usually a big deal for me: Do you still live with your parents? Someone in their late twenties or thirties is going to have a hard time relating. And it's awkward when, "Let's go home and make love," is answered with, "It has to be your place because my parents are home."