Balljunkie saidWow...I can't wait to watch this fall apart with Christian coming on here going off with blazing guns.
I guess I'm beginning to have a bit of a reputation on here.
I actually don't have a problem with what the OP wrote. Considering how much anti-femme hysteria I've seen on this board, I'm willing to take MuscleToronto at his word and weigh in with my guns firmly holstered (for now.:lol
I think Timberoo makes a good point in terms of feeling different from other boys and, thereby, identifying with girls or women instead. I think that was the case with me as a child. Then as I grew up that identification increased and, eventually, during college, became a conscious choice. For me, gender equality is key to any true equality for LGBT people. Though I agree with Zombie that much of gendered behavior (and certainly how that behavior is interpreted by the culture) is a construct, the valuation (or devaluation in the case of femininity) is at the heart of our civil rights struggle.
I'm of the mind that gender, sexuality, and desire are not merely an issue of nature versus nurture, but a thoroughly tangled knot that may never be as simple as "I'm born gay" or "I'm queer because that's how Western Culture understands my desire to suck cock" or "damn that amniotic fluid had a lot of estrogen in it!"
Even this thread is indicative of a variety of different interpretations of gendered behavior and signs. Hillie asks a good question:
"What scale are you using to measure their manliness to their effeminacy?"
On one hand (the more obvious one) - my boyfriend is the more masculine of the two of us, and identifies as a gay man. He has a very deep voice with no "gay" accent. He is taller and more athletically built. He is a vers-top.
On the other hand (less obvious one) - I identify as being a feminine gay man and have more flourishes than he does. I have a higher (though not very high) voice with a feminine inflection. I'm shorter (not much) and have wide hips and a bubble butt. I'm am a vers-bottom.
BUT - I'm a green belt in Tae Kwon Do and regularly spar with straight guys. My BF would NEVER fight for pleasure.
I have been in countless fists fights - some win, some lose. BF has never been in a fist fight.
I am much more likely to call someone out on their shit. BF is more likely to avoid confrontation.
I like punk and hardcore music; used to go slam dancing. My BF loves musical theater and took cotillion classes.
I read crime novels, watch Deadliest Warrior, and love horror movies. BF likes crosswords, watches HGTV, and prefers musicals.
So? Who is more masculine?