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OK Guys now you can shine and show your true colors.

I enjoy making my guy dinner and always knowing what his favorite meals are. I think it is important to really get in tune with the little things that makes your man tick.

It used to be things along the lines of making a special trip out to a German market (he's Swiss-German: Schweizerdeutsch) and getting some home-made sausages and fixings. Now, with our pup, I get up early with her and let him sleep in. Surprising him with a BRAND NEW, FULLY REMODELLED BATHROOM worked pretty well, too...

When I met my partner, he'd been a florist for 30 years... he left that business to be with me on the West Coast.

About 3 weeks after he moved in, he was obligated to go to South Beach for a meeting. I arranged to have long stem roses in his room when he arrived there.

Although he loves flowers, he'd never ever received them....

I know it's a small thing, but it was the right thing at the right time. He's never forgotten it.

I proposed. Down on one knee and everything. I honestly thought I was gonna spend the rest of my life with him. That didn't quite pan out, but I don't regret it.

And I wrote him love letters all the time. Writing is my favorite form of expression.

WOW guys, your boyfriends are really lucky to have you as partners!

I allowed my partners mother to be involved with us,after 5 years of her,not supporting our lifestyle...she is one of those people.
Queen of Denial.

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The man i was with for about 2 years is a resident anesthesiologist and has to work god awful hours, he never had time 2 clean, relax, or rest. I made a copy of his work schedule and made sure before he got home, his house was clean, he had food ready (i can't cook to save my life so i order out lol or make someone help me), and his favorite part was after he ate he had either a hot bath or shower ready for him, or i'd heat up the hot tub. If your really looking 2 get some favors in return have a hot bath ready for your man, add some kind of oil, and yall hop in, relax, let your meal settle and get ready for a looong night ;)

Ya just give 'em yer all.. heart, soal and body.

Djengo Reinhart :

" I can't give you anything but love, baby..."

That is what I live by- and expect the same in return.
No rings, no fancy pants, just a little sweat n' blood,
and a lot of heart.

We practice the NOW, moment to moment.

peace

x

Actually my best bud did it for me. He had a surprise birthday and invited all our friends and he had all my favorite food alot was home made by his family- all great Italian cooks. It was a great night it took him 6 months to prepare. I usually find out about parties but he totally surprised me. Everyone said it was one of the best parties they ever had been to. I don't know how I can top that one for his b-day. I think taking him on a surprise vacation. Any suggestions??

I donated a kidney. Just kidding. I've never had a b/f or partner, but if I ever do, I'll remember these posts - really sweet guys!

NICK

i work in nightclubs in a major city in the uk. A lot of the time i come into contact with nasty violent people, even just driving the car. Our club staff agree that nice people no longer go out to pubs and clubs because they know something is liable to happen to them. uk cities are violent places now. I was moved to tears when i read the nice things people have written on this thread. i always make a point of looking my ex (now a mate for 12 years)in the eye and kissing his face when i thank him for something nice his has done as i know it takes him such an effort to do anything. He has several mental disorders that stop him doing much in his house. When i sence its all getting on top of him (even if i am really tired through working late nights),i go and clean out his kitchen throw out all the accumulated garbage, clean his fridge and make everything nice and clean again. I make him eat some food so i know he is alright then go home. You'd be surprised, there are people out there are worth bothering about. gaz

Mike, suprize vacation sounds really nice. Weekend get-away is fantastic too. Tickets to his favortite team. Or something as simple as getting his favorite whatever.

I think getting to know your guy and knowing what he enjoys in life and what makes him tick and just the thought of thinking of him in a special way turns a person on like you would not believe.

I could be anything from his favorite dish one evening to picking up a shirt for no special occasion.

Good topic RK. I will try some of those things. He is the type of person that can out do most men and woman that I have ever met. He is extremely thoughtful, genuine and when he does something he goes all out. It is hard to beat. Not that is is a competition, but I would like to do something he hasn't done for me already.

I think the 'flasiest' thing I ever did was when I proposed in front of the Eiffel Tower right after the lights had turned on and the entire tower started to sparkle.

The nicest thing, according to him, was have a bottle of wine and some cheese and crackers all laid out for him when he came home after a long week at work. He was asleep in 30 minutes but he always says that he loved that!

I clean his whole apartment and cooked him dinner, made his bed, and even cleaned his bathrooms. OK that doesn't sound like much, but this guy had ceral books from last year on the table, dishes every! And his apartment was like Joe's Apartments, the roachs could freakin talk I kid you not! lol

I remember opening some cap n crunch and a whole nest of them popped out at me...*shiver* and his bathroom! products everything, empty or spilled on the counter, o my god that place was a mess. I understand he was "straight" before meeting me and even still claims to be "straight" But I thought straight guys even knew when to pick up after themselves!

clean his whole apartment and cooked him dinner, made his bed, and even cleaned his bathrooms. OK that doesn't sound like much

Fabians, you can move in anytime if he ever leaves you. :-)

My bf had been gone on a retreat for a while and i had to work the morning he was returning home. So late the night before, i started a roast in the crock pot and made some appitizers, setting everything up rite to the minute when he arrived everything would be just done cooking. I set the table real fancy just for him, with a card and some personal writting in it, fresh flowers and a cute stuffed teddy bear holding a heart saying i love you. A candle was there ready to be lit and soft music was already playing in the house waiting for him to come home.
I was not there in person...but my heart sure was. I LOVE YOU JIMMY...KISSES

LOL HOTVERSGUY! that's awesome!

True, but you needed to see that place! I'm not gonna mention the roaches again! lol

My ex and I... awwww... We loved surprising each other.

One day he made me wake up early to supposedly go to some of his parents' friends place for lunch or something. I was not happy about it... We got to waterloo station and he told me the platform number and it was for a train to Paris for the day. My first reaction was, but I don't have my passport... And obviously he had that too! it was a great day and a great surprise.

Funny thing is that every time I tried to surprise him he royally screwed it up by accident. I was flying back from Christmas at home and was coming back one day early to wake him up with a kiss. From Dallas airport I called him and found out that he had decided to stay longer at his parents place!!! Surprise ruined. But he got up at 5 AM and got to our flat where he was waiting for me when I arrived with a bottle of champagne and breakfast.

Ah... sadly its over.

I just love this thread! All of you guys have/had partners that I hoped appreciated you for your efforts! They were lucky guys!

I was personal assistant to three big Hollywood stars in my life. The last of the three, Lucille Ball, was my employer till her death. Though Lucy wasn't fond of gay men she knew they adored her. My boyfriend at the time idolized her and wanted to meet her so badly. On his birthday Lucy called him on the phone and in her raspy voice sang "Happy Birthday" to him. He was overjoyed.

rsportsguy, i love this thread too--makes my heart sing to hear about guys being so sweet to one another :)

...ok...this is going to fall under the "tough love" part...try to see beyond the cynicism...

I dumped his ass...remained his friend...and got him into rehab/therapy...

- David

wow - didn't see that coming. tough love indeeed, but obviously worth it.

For my ex, I emailed everyone that I knew was his friend and told them which day his birthday, and asked them all to send him Happy Birthday greetings either by email or telephone. On his birthday, he got about 50 emails with good wishes and a number of calls.

For my ex, when he would travel, I would always track his flight online and call as soon as he landed to let him know I was thinking about him and his safety.

hmmm.. I think I've done lots of things for him but the one that came to mind first - Driving him to an airfield in Kent (he didn't know where we were going) to board a helicopter & take a ride over London - that was an Easter present. The funniest thing was we flew right over my flat at the time & then back to bloody Kent to get in the car & drive all the way back.

"For my ex, when he would travel, I would always track his flight online and call as soon as he landed to let him know I was thinking about him and his safety."

Hmmm.My ex used to do that. Plus he'd call the hotel in the middle of the night to make sure I wasn't out. If he didn't get an answer, he'd call a few bars. Then he'd call me the next morning and ask where the hell I was. He was "concerned."

Probably the nicest thing I ever did for my present boyfriend is go to Spain for months at a time....alone.

Today is his birthday. I gave him a rocking chair. Yes, really. Now I'm taking him to a Malaysian restaurant.

I let him know I would rather have the money than any present he could ever buy me. Saved a ton of money and eventually got him out of debt.

I'm surprised and happy to see this subject and the responses from all you men out there! I LOVED reading this! Thank you all for sharing, and may you always be inspired!

Got him out of a boring city, gave him the world, held him up, and generally was the best boyfriend I could be at the time. No regrets.

Awww. Now I wish I had a boyfriend. I'm having rough times right now and it made me feel so much better that people still go out of their way for the ones they love.

There've been a lot of great things we've done for each other over the years (just passed our 13th anniversary, counting from the time we started dating). Probably the nicest thing, though, was flying to San Francisco in February, 2004 (when the gay marriages were happening at city hall) to tie the knot.

Hey, Obscenewish,

I dont know you like Malaysian food.

The nicest thing I ever do for my ex,

I learn the art of ancient Thai Body Massage just so I can do it to him. Thai massage is really great , kinda pressing to the energy line and extremely refreshing. There a time he fall asleep during the massage , you know, the man I love sleeping in my lap, completely surrendering himself to me. Just looking at him ......pure blissful moment.

I used to give my first husband free full body massages after particularly rough days or workouts. Just pull out the massage oil, strip him down, and dig deep.

(ok, that sounds really like something that was good for me - but it was for him)

In this case, it was what my BF did for me.... He blew up 144 balloons filling my 2 bedroom apartment for my birthday. Without a Tank... all Him...... and still my birthday ended with a bang....WINK!!

Hey, Obscenewish,

I dont know you like Malaysian food."

I love Malaysian food, Zak. I do find the shrimp paste a bit extreme, though.

Maybe it's not so impressive, but I've: had dinner and a massage ready for him after a particularly nasty day; taken him to my fav spot to watch the sunset above the city; written him poetry/music; given him a bath by candlelight as the sun starts to come up; written him love letters; put on a jockstrap, oiled up my body, put on a trenchcoat, then gone to his place and surprised him with what he was going to work all night long (lol).

I'm a romantic guy at heart, though from experience with men, I'd say most don't know how to handle a man like that. Perhaps Madonna was right: "Someone said that romance is dead..."

LOL, it's a gay website!

OW,

I dont blame you. I have never meet any westerner who like Malaysian Shrimp paste (they call it belacan) It stink and dont look appertising. But just like that other Malaysian favourite DURIAN , the torny stinky fruit (they are currently in season now) we find it extremely appetising . This food is high calories, increase you blood presurre but then so delicious. Just like a big mac..right.

Sorry way off topic.

Mine isn't very impressive, but my ex really loved this candy that his dad used to get him when he was a kid...he couldn't find them anywhere, but his dad was French and had passed away...so I found a French market and bought him some when he was sick....it was finals week too, so I suprised him the morning of his Organic Chemistry final with the candy, and a newly framed picture of his father. He thought it was pretty sweet.

Food preferences maybe off topic, but who really cares. And do please eat some durian for me zakar since it is in season. I love it and it is rarely seen here and frightly expensive even when you can find it in some oriental markets.

The nicest thing I have ever done for my BF had to be when we were having a rough time together and were constantly bickering and were rarely in a good mood around one another. After a mild argument, Bosco went to work and I decided to end our rough patch. I went to the florist and got 2 dozen roses in two different colors, candles and a card that expressed how I feel for him.

He always called me when he was on his way home from the restaurant and this night was no different. I lit all the candles and spread all the rose petals all over our bedroom. I left one perfect rose in each color on his pillow with the card.

When he came home he really loved what I had done. He loved the card and the whole ambiance. We had great sex and our rough patch ended that night.

This is another off topic,

WRERICK,

I know you dont mean it. But please dont call me ZAKAR....it mean penis in Malay!!. Call me Zak, Zakariah or whatever. Really that why I should think twice before marrying a Westerner.
But I guess differences make the world more interesting.

By the way, I have durian tonite and while eating it , I think of you , a guy who call me penis.

Dont worry, no hard feeling

I left 100's of post-it notes stuck all over my B/F's kitchen cupboards one morning when I got up and left him in bed, telling him I loved him and which parts I loved the best. I went to work and waited for the text message to arrive :-)

What was the text message?

'You're dumped...for making a mess of the kitchen with those bloody post-its'

;)

Please do accept my apologies, zakariah, I was definately not meaning to call you by that body part.
Well, I hope you still enjoyed the durian even if marred by the memory.

I built him a deck. 880 square feet. that was nice of me I think.

So, despite the very positive advances in the gay rights arena, I really think that I was born in the wrong century... here is just one example of things I have done for exes.

I was seeing a guy while studying in Florence, Italy. He was a transplant from Cuba. I remembered him mentioning he had not ever read Romeo & Juliet. So... I purchased some fresh fruit, sliced it, and arranged it on a plate... packed up a blanket and headed to meet him. When I met him I mentioned that I had a surprise and made him put on a blindfold. We walked a bit through the city and boarded a bus (sidebar: got some really interesting reactions from puzzled onlookers). After heading up to Piazzale Michelangelo (panoramic overlook of all of Florence) and setting up the blanket and food... he took off his blindfold and voila'. At sunset, feeding each other fruit, and on the blanket there was also a copy (English/Italian) of Romeo & Juliet with an inscription.

I still remember one girl who was watching the scene unfold. And she was giving me the thumbs up and seemed so happy for us.

I made no attempt to become his boyfriend but to become his brother in Life and the best friend he could always count on...for a laugh...for an adventure...for me to let him do his own thing.

I'd have to say the nicest thing i've ever done was break up with my ex when I realized our relationship was no longer healthy for him...

I'm not much of a romantic. I'm pretty selfish really, all said and done.

On my ex's beday, I took him up to Big Bear for the day. He was suppose to work but i talk to hig manager and she got his shift covered no problem so i pretended to head to his work and then drove passed and he was had no clue what i was doing. We had such an awsome time up there, one of the best memories i've ever had with him.

I baked my bf a cake for his birthday. He was so shocked and happy. He said that no one had ever baked him a cake for his b-day, not even his own mother.

I bought 1000 tulips of various colors, While he was at the gym, I filled every conceivable vase and put them all over his apartment. Then I spelled out I Love You on his bed with them.

For our one year anniversary with my exbf, I took the day off, got us a really nice room at a resort. I had candles everywhere, rose petals from the door to the bed, the jacuzzi, candles, music, a lot of desserts and a bottle of champagne. I stopped by his work and slipped him a note asking him to meet me at the resort right after work. I love the look on his face when he walked in - priceless!!!

I cleaned his house for him.

For one of my exes, I arranged a surprise weekend at a gay guesthouse in the West Virginia mountains. He had no idea. We got in the car that morning and I told him we had to take a little trip to pick up his birthday present....three hours later we were atop an Appalachian mountain lying in a crystal-clear swimming pool. (Luckily he had an August birthday).

After a hard day at work, one that he said was his wrost, I filled the tub up with warm water, and bubble bath, lit a few candles, put on some Sarah MacLachlan, and let him soak while I washed his back.

I got in with him later....

hmmm....the nicest or sweetest thing i have done for my boyfriend?

he says i am the sweetest man he has ever met, but i suppose the nicest thing i have done for him, so far, is opening my home to him anytime he wants to come down. he knows where the spare key is, if i should happen to be away from home at the time of his arrival...he lives in michigan, 72 miles away...

on those times where we have pre-arranged for his visits my way, i take special pains to ensure everything is as clean as possible, that the dishes are done, that i have an evening meal ready to prepare, that candles are glowing, that incense is burning, that soft music is playing, that i have at last chosen just the 'right' clothing..and then i give him the deepest kiss and hold him as tightly as i possibly can as soon as he comes thru my front door...

he thanks me with his words, and his embrace, and admits to feeling much better, just to be with me...and that makes it all worth it-

sometimes, his life gets really hard for him, and his stress level sky-rockets. he knows that he can call me at anytime, day or night, just to talk. i am always there for him.

Had the courage to take some time apart when we needed it. In 9 years a lot can happen. A few months off to secure another 9 years is a small price to pay. It has been difficult, but I have been the enforcer. Making sure we have the time to come back to each other as stronger, happier individuals.

Not a tangible gift, but...

This is kind of a hard question, but I think it was probably my gift to him for Christmas of 2000... and that was "Gunner" his beagle.

This beagle is not just a dog, its a companion. He had wanted a beagle for years. I'll never forget when we went to look at the puppies on December 24th, 2000.
He didn't even know where we were going.

He loves the dog dearly and not sure how he will react down the line when Gunner passes. But I can see how it has enhanced his life.

I have done alot of great things that I could only dream someone would be creative and compassionate enough to bestow upon me.
However, I will probably not do anything too meaningful for many people ever again because of how bad I can get burned when someone takes it for granted or can still find a means of finding fault in an action of the heart.
I have been jaded beyond disbelief.
It's now someone elses turn to shower me with affection.
I'm done for now.

My bf of 3 1/2 years has done so many things for me.

We had been seeing each other for just a short while and I had driven 2 hours to his home to see him. I couldnt stay long because I had to get back to get my son the next day. I had mentioned that I needed brake work done on my jeep, just in conversation. I left his house that night about 2 a.m.

I went home and got my son. About 10 a.m. I kept getting this unrecognizable # on my phone and wouldnt answer it. Finally I did and it was him calling from a pay phone up the street.

He hadnt been to my house yet and said he was in town. I gave him directions and he pulled up, got out of the car with his over-alls on and tools in the trunk with brake pads to do my brakes. And this was in the winter.

He fixed my brakes and even entertained my 5 year old son by letting him think he was helping him. Watching him that day melted my heart and I fell in love with the greatest man I have ever met in my entire life.

We have had our ups and downs but he is always so giving of himself to make sure I am happy.

The nicest thing I did was take him back after he dumped me and help him through his divorce.

But romantically. I took him away for the weekend to the local mountains to pasture between two valleys.

I had a picnic setup with wonderful food, wine, and we ate , got naked, and I just let him lie there while I fed him and massaged him, washed his body and relaxed him and then made love to him.

Then we went to the lodge where I had booked a room ran him a warm bath and let him tell me what he wanted me to do to him.

Ok not entirely self sacrificing.

I redecorated his office space while he was out of town. It was spectacular and he was blown away. Also did loads of research on the perfect mountain house, went out to see it by myself and decided it was perfect than took him out and he loved it. We made an offer that day. When he is really good, I cook and I'm a damn good cook! When you love someone you'll do anything to make him happy...like visiting his parents ever summer in Minnesota!

My guy had always done something special for me throughout the year. He not being a Christian in any way, thought showing you care for somebody should be more than just something retailers take advantage of during Christmas. He was great at it too!
So, I went the whole nine yards with him, for a whole week, to the day of our anniversary. Everyday I went out of my way to buy the organic fresh authentic ingredients for Italian, Mexican, French, and Japanese recipes I'd collected months before. Everything was made just the way he liked it. He's picky eater and I didn't take the usual liberties I do when cooking to make them my own.
Everyday after work he got a massage, non-sexual, either on his head, feet, hands, or back. One day I bought flowers, another we watched one of his all time favorite movies, had sex in the morning, before he went to work, and I showed some interest in taxes and our budget because he really loves things! And, like a cherry on top, I let him top me for once.
It was the best of our 3 anniversaries.

The nicest thing my Partner did for me was a 2-week, all expenses paid trip to Italy - Yeah! Last year it was 2-weeks in Croatia and this year its 2-weeks in Spain.

I like to spoil him by doing all the cooking and grocery shopping (he hates doing that!) as well as all of the home remodeling and "fix-it" chores.

Agree to date them.

My life savings and most of my pension.
Then again, he gave me a divorce and therefor freedom.



Oh, maybe I misunderstood the question.

I did this for my first BF. Something I learned from my dad. He was out to his co-workers so this made it easier to do. On sweetest day I got him 11 roses, showed up at his work, gave him the roses, and said there where only 11 roses because he made the perfect dozen. Needless to say, he was very moved. And all the girls he worked with where very jealous. They all said they wished their boyfriends where that romantic.

And for my birthday he had this really nice poster matted and framed for me. I still have it hanging on my wall and think of him when i look at it.

Me & my first ex...

Well, I surprised him with a delectable dish of food that really got the best of him...
Thyme Chicken with Brocotatoes & Gouda Gravy. He just can't seem to get enough of my cooking & well, I think he pisses me off just to get the best of my cooking out of me. Who Knew, Right?

Treated him to a 1 week trip to Barbados in 2003 for his birthday. We loved it and highly recommend it for anyone looking for a sunny getaway. This year I am taking him to NYC for his birthday for 4 full days. First time in the Big Apple so I am really excited.

Hmm...I let him go....after 7 years...now he is happier than he has ever been....and I am happy for him.

in773guy saidHmm...I let him go....after 7 years...now he is happier than he has ever been....and I am happy for him.

Yeah, I know what you mean.

In my case... I created one of my best pieces (drawing artist here) and gave it to him for x-mas . One year later he confessed he said to me we never liked it. And the thing is he had been asking me for an original drawing with that specific theme... well, it's in the past now.

When I helped him pack up and move away. Probably one the hardest days of my life considering I knew we were breaking up beforehand. I held myself together when we were physically moving the stuff, but being there for all the finishing touches and watching him leave that apartment for the last time was really too much. It was a nice thing for me to do, but I don't think it was good for my mental health at the time!

Not pressing charges.

RBY71Not pressing charges.

ROFL!

I used to cook for my ex and i always gave him a massage after work. I also let him fuck me. I have to love and be with you for at least a month before sticking your hotdog in my buns.

... the nicest thing i ever did for my BF right now ?

to keep him turned on all the time when we're having sex ...

i always give him wild sex ... ha ha ...

uhm ... when we had been together for one year i baked him a cake with "best boyfriend in the world" - frosting

and of course lots of hugs n kisses everyday...

I was 16, he was 24.

I saved my lunch money everyday for two months, and bought him the sweater he wanted for valentines day ($100), which also happened to be my birthday.

he never got me anything, and a week after that i found him cheating on me

Fuzzers saidGot him out of a boring city, gave him the world, held him up, and generally was the best boyfriend I could be at the time. No regrets.

oh man, i need someone like that

I had a boyfriend who was very leftist and a staunch Democrat. We ended up breaking up over politics, we stopped having sex too. Anyway, among his leftist, staunch Democrat friends I would just sit and smile and nod in agreement when they went into their commie conversations at parties. That required tremendous restraint.

Oh man... I don't blame your ex boyfriend because he is a Democrat. I don't see there is a different between a Democrat or a Republican.

And no I will not date a guy like you... Hell no... I am glad your ex boyfriend broke up with you.

Moudi saidI was 16, he was 24.

I saved my lunch money everyday for two months, and bought him the sweater he wanted for valentines day ($100), which also happened to be my birthday.

he never got me anything, and a week after that i found him cheating on me

Hey stud, I am sorry to hear that...

moudi, thats like the sweetest thing i've ever heard hahaha.

hmm, i've only had one true bf and we were only together for three months...sooo i dunno. i guess i would say i was his first kiss. (he was 19, i was 20) he texted me afterwards saying "I can't stop smiling"....lol so whenever I remember that i start smiling too.

Kept him out of prison.

north_runner saidmoudi, thats like the sweetest thing i've ever heard hahaha.

hmm, i've only had one true bf and we were only together for three months...sooo i dunno. i guess i would say i was his first kiss. (he was 19, i was 20) he texted me afterwards saying "I can't stop smiling"....lol so whenever I remember that i start smiling too.

hehe, thats sweet...that happens to me at times when i meet guys, but then again i remind myself to stay on the ground

I like to see myself as a romantic type of guy. For my first bf I surprised him with a candle light dinner and when he came over i had baked cup cakes and arranged them in a way that it said I <3 U. For my 2nd relationship I paid for a get away vacation for both of us. But now, being single, I haven't found any one to do any romantic things for since.

Resisted the quiet yet persistent urging of the whispering voices in my head to smother him in his sleep and sell his organs on the black market.

RBY71 saidResisted the quiet yet persistent urging of the whispering voices in my head to smother him in his sleep and sell his organs on the black market.

Awwww.... that's the sweetest one yet!