Tell me where to live next. Relocation advice.

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    Jul 27, 2009 9:41 AM GMT
    So, Ft. Wayne is surprisingly not the most happening place and part of me is hankering for a new start somewhere. What cities should I check out and why? I'm looking into grad schools, so that should give a lot of options.
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    Jul 27, 2009 10:08 AM GMT
    Melbourne Australia is this Islands most livable City, and Sydney is 7th. Some may tell you Sydney is also Aussies gay capital, but I think melbourne is taking that crown too, if it hasn't already; but I'm happy for Sydney to have that one.icon_wink.gif

    So I'll suggest Melbourne Australia.
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    Jul 27, 2009 1:08 PM GMT
    matey saidMelbourne Australia is this Islands most livable City, and Sydney is 7th. Some may tell you Sydney is also Aussies gay capital, but I think melbourne is taking that crown too, if it hasn't already; but I'm happy for Sydney to have that one.icon_wink.gif

    So I'll suggest Melbourne Australia.


    I live in Sydney, but completely agree on this one.
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    Jul 27, 2009 1:28 PM GMT
    Atlanta, domestically.
  • rnch

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    Jul 27, 2009 1:37 PM GMT
    MeetHead saidSo, Ft. Wayne is surprisingly not the most happening place and part of me is hankering for a new start somewhere. What cities should I check out and why? I'm looking into grad schools, so that should give a lot of options.
    new orleans has several fine, nationally recognized universities (tulane, loyola, LSU) that might appeal to your post-grad requirements.

    there are several gay-friendly meighborhoods here that you would feel quite comfortable in.

    mardi gras, southern decadence, haloween and other holidys often have a "gay" slant to them here.

    and...

    you wouldn't be the first cute gay guy who came down here and never left ! icon_cool.gificon_biggrin.gif
  • zakariahzol

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    Jul 27, 2009 1:59 PM GMT
    Matey,

    I heard about that. Melbourne is the best city to live in the world, From employment, weather, crime rate, facilities. You are lucky to live where you live, eventhough I have no problem where I live now.
  • calibro

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    Jul 27, 2009 2:49 PM GMT
    Austin
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    Jul 27, 2009 3:09 PM GMT
    MeetHead saidSo, Ft. Wayne is surprisingly not the most happening place and part of me is hankering for a new start somewhere. What cities should I check out and why? I'm looking into grad schools, so that should give a lot of options.


    If you don't want a major move, consider Indianapolis, Chicago or Columbus. All cities with some progressiveness to them and large gay populations.
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    Jul 27, 2009 4:02 PM GMT
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    MeetHead saidSo, Ft. Wayne is surprisingly not the most happening place and part of me is hankering for a new start somewhere. What cities should I check out and why? I'm looking into grad schools, so that should give a lot of options.


    If you don't want a major move, consider Indianapolis, Chicago or Columbus. All cities with some progressiveness to them and large gay populations.


    Columbus has a very shallow and flakey gay population in general. Maybe it's because they're young... just like the city itself. Maybe it's the Abercrombie factor. There are exceptions, but the gays in Columbus tend to be a mirror image of all the fake brick facades on all of the pop-up suburban cookie-cutter shopping villages that people there claim is a "city." Honestly, if you want a highly progressed gay population and you choose to remain in the midwest, go to Chicago, which was recently ranked as the fourth greatest world city (I'll go in search of that citation...). Indianapolis-- I think it's a fantastic place. I really enjoyed spending time there. Downtown is cool. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 27, 2009 4:06 PM GMT
    Why not consider NYC or Chicago? If you're considering a place out west, you can't go wrong with San Fran.
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    Jul 27, 2009 4:10 PM GMT
    The media are making much ado over "youth magnet cities," like Portland, Austin, and Charlotte. I can't help thinking that means it's time to look ahead for the undiscovered ones.
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    Jul 27, 2009 4:37 PM GMT
    Make a decision on what sorts of things attract you about city life....excluding anything to do with being gay. Then select a city that has a gay culture as an important component that has that first set of characteristics.

    What I see in the choices above is that people are steering you to their favorite cities. Frankly, gay life would be roughly the same in any of the major cities...NYC, Boston, Miami, San Francisco, Chicago, Seattle, Portland, San Diego, Los Angeles, Phoenix etc. But there are factors specific to each city independent of gay life that should be the selling point. Of course, those factors influence us as gay people too....NYC is going to be more frenetic, for example.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 27, 2009 4:59 PM GMT
    First see what Grad schools will offer the best hope for you in the future as far as getting what you need
    Given that ..... There are No places like the big metro areas of NY, Chicago, Boston, San Fran, Seattle
    Cities offer the best choices for gay men
    Esp if you're single
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    Jul 27, 2009 5:13 PM GMT
    All depends what kind of grad school/degree you are interested in. I'm not reading anything in your profile that states what you are intending to study, but that'll give me a better sense of places and programs to advise you on.
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    Jul 27, 2009 5:15 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidThe media are making much ado over "youth magnet cities," like Portland, Austin, and Charlotte. I can't help thinking that means it's time to look ahead for the undiscovered ones.


    I love Charlotte, but don't find it gay friendly when I visit the family I have living there. It's very...scattered. Like a series of suburbs rolled up and down 85, with a few dollops of population concentration around the 485 belt.
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    Jul 27, 2009 5:17 PM GMT
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    RunintheCity said
    MeetHead saidSo, Ft. Wayne is surprisingly not the most happening place and part of me is hankering for a new start somewhere. What cities should I check out and why? I'm looking into grad schools, so that should give a lot of options.


    If you don't want a major move, consider Indianapolis, Chicago or Columbus. All cities with some progressiveness to them and large gay populations.


    Columbus has a very shallow and flakey gay population in general. Maybe it's because they're young... just like the city itself. Maybe it's the Abercrombie factor. There are exceptions, but the gays in Columbus tend to be a mirror image of all the fake brick facades on all of the pop-up suburban cookie-cutter shopping villages that people there claim is a "city." Honestly, if you want a highly progressed gay population and you choose to remain in the midwest, go to Chicago, which was recently ranked as the fourth greatest world city (I'll go in search of that citation...). Indianapolis-- I think it's a fantastic place. I really enjoyed spending time there. Downtown is cool. icon_smile.gif


    Columbus is very youth oriented on the surface and in its night life. But there is also a larger base of gay/lesbians who aren't that bad. I visit Columbus often enough to have figured that out. I'd rank Indy over Columbus though.
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    Jul 27, 2009 5:18 PM GMT
    Arizona is paradise
  • dannyboy1101

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    Jul 27, 2009 5:20 PM GMT
    www.findyourspot.com

    Fairly in depth questioning and it provides a list of 20 cities (or towns) that are most compatible with you. I love using it for figuring out where to vacation and maybe someday move.
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    Jul 27, 2009 5:41 PM GMT
    I agree w GQ Jock check out graduate schools and then make your pick. . I went to Carnegie Mellon in Pittsburgh for Grad School. Most people think Pittsburgh is dirty and land locked. It is one of the friendliest, nicest places I have lived. I did my undergrad at NYU. I think NYC has so much to offer. I live in Ft. Lauderdale, but am employed by a Dutch company w US HQ in Boston. Boston is nice. I prefer Northern or Western cities (SFO or SEA) - although really like Austin.

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    Jul 27, 2009 8:40 PM GMT
    Seattle!
    It is finally breaking out of its small city feel joing the rest of the world ehre soon. it has a giant gay population as it is the gay capitol of the North West. A hop skip and a jump away from Vancouver, BC. Every view here is a beautiful one. One of the best places in the world for any outdoor activity.

    oh and Seattle is also THE fittest city in the country.
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    Jul 27, 2009 9:24 PM GMT
    I'm with GQjock and SouthillsmuscleFL that you should look at the grad school first. Come up with a list of schools you'd like to study at, then look at what cities they are in to make your final choice.

    Then again, I do find it strange that you seem to be looking at grad school only as an avenue to provide a new start in another place. Can't you move without grad school? Doing grad school just to get a new start seems a little extreme.
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    Jul 27, 2009 9:30 PM GMT
    MeetHead saidSo, Ft. Wayne is surprisingly not the most happening place and part of me is hankering for a new start somewhere. What cities should I check out and why? I'm looking into grad schools, so that should give a lot of options.


    Cambridge. (The University of Cambridge.)

    No better place as you are a short distance north of London. Wonderful also becuase the requirement to be "politically correct" in the UK is very very low.
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    Jul 27, 2009 9:38 PM GMT
    Yeah, you probably want to find a suitable grad school first. Please look in the Washington, DC, area. We have a number of universities in the city, plus the U. of MD and George Mason University in the suburbs. Washington itself is a very livable city, reasonably sized in area and population with a large gay population in all age groups, lots of gay activities, and more cultural activities than you will have time for. Obviously, there's lots of politics if that is your thing, though you ca be totally apolitical and love it here.
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    Jul 27, 2009 10:20 PM GMT
    I agree with everyone else.. research grad schools first. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 27, 2009 10:55 PM GMT
    Depends on your budget and what you want out of it. Of major cities, I have lived in Chicago, DC, NYC and Denver. I have worked in just about every major city, though at some point.

    I still love Chicago and am looking to go back there part-time (summers) within the next year. All of them have their pluses and minuses, though.

    Depends on what is important to you.