How can I tell if my roommate is gay..

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    Nov 30, 2007 11:06 PM GMT
    What's going on everyone. HELP!! I have a little, well BIG!! problem here that I just can't seem to figure out and it is driving me crazy!! Around sometime in September I decide to move over to Flagstaff Arizona to train and get ready for the Olympic Trials (hoping to make the olympic team.) I made a visit to flagstaff in September after I found a compatable roommate online and boy was I in a big surprise..lol!! This guy is a great match to have as a roomie and had a killer smile to back everything else up along wih him. We never saw each other until I flew to Arizona to visit for 2 days. To make a long story short, durning the visit there was one question he ask while we went out for a bit to eat and his anwser got the best of me. He ask if I had girl friend which I told him I did only for 3 years until we broke it off after college, she ceated ( and for the obvious which he didn't know but I was gay)and I asked him and he said he has never had a girl friend. Now I'm not stupid and know just becuse someone has never had a grilfriend doesn't mena that there gay but oh man! I can beleive he had NEVER had a girl friend. If you can just see him!!! I'm 28 and think I look good for the shape I'm in, but he is 27 and just takes the cake and ice cream. I'm very stright acting and he doesn't know but sometime it's hard not to look at him when he doesn't notice. I think he does the same when I'm not looking, you know the sence you get that someone is looking at you. There are also cetain things he does that just get to me and makes me wander if he's testing me or somethings..lol Like when he finishes taking a shower, he does close the door but when he opens it he has no shirt on and only jeans and there is this table that sits in front of his door. When he goes to get something off of it, he makes sure that he flashes he underwear and shows off his butt!!lol! And he does that alot, everytime. I try not to pay attention but come on, it's hard not to. I sit in that same chair as he sit in his all the time. He always wears those same jean I tell you. They fit just right. I really think he's just trying to test me honestly. I've tried it myself. Everyone time I get finish with one of my daily workouts at the track, I usually try to show off my legs. It's very cold up here now so I either wear my long or short tight running pants. Just this past 3 days in a row, I new he was looking and trying hard now to pay attention by laughing at what was on the TV.. There's alot more more but I have no time to right. It's seem I never have time. I can't even make time to post my pictures at the site, well not until this Sunday. Help me out guys and be nice, please lol!!. I'm new this and new basiclly at try to find a guy really. With my career it's just hard. Me and my roomie are going to go to 1 of my races in San Diego in Feb for 3 days, then LA for a 3 or 4 day vacation and then another race in San Diego in June ( a big race.) Can you gys give me some clues, poniters or something to figure this guy out. I guess I'm just scard to try myself..lolicon_surprised.gif I appreciate this..
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    Dec 01, 2007 12:56 AM GMT
    Someone pulled a dirty one on me the other day..

    They used a picture as a mirror. By the time I realized it, it was too late. I had already looked them up and down 4-5 times.

    I couldn't figure out why they had stopped walking in front of me and were stroking their face.. not that I minded. Then it was.. doh! busted!

    I think you should try something similar.. unless you are already sure he is checking you out. Guys just don't stare at other guys for no reason.
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    Dec 01, 2007 3:18 PM GMT
    Sounds like a pretty exciting challenge. It sounds like he might be gay or testing to see if you are, or you are just reading into things because you want to believe there is a chance.

    What about just being honest with him and telling him you are gay and seeing his reaction?

    Maybe like a beautiful fairytale he will just proceed to make out with you and be like me too and then the two of you will skip away to Canada and get married or something. Best of luck!
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    Dec 01, 2007 5:35 PM GMT
    What do you mean, "used a picture as a mirror"? I can't envision the setup.
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    Dec 03, 2007 12:58 AM GMT
    My friend tells a joke:

    Q: How can I tell if my roommate is gay

    A: His dick tastes like sh*t

    Sorry, it's funny when a cute straight guy tells it.
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    Dec 07, 2007 11:19 PM GMT
    Hmm.. it isn't really easy for you to find that out.. but if i was you.. i'd try to talk with him.. i mean if you don't have a problem being gay or bi.. you can tell him.. the worst reaction he can make is finding another room-mate.. otherwise his behavior doesn't look like a straight guy..


    Good luke dude!
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    Dec 08, 2007 2:10 AM GMT
    Does he go out to clubs? Does he ever bring girls home? Does he talk about girls around you? If he is a drinker, does he act a certain way when he has had some alcoho in him? Just be careful. Dealing with a roommate could end bad.
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    Dec 09, 2007 1:43 AM GMT
    Well his underwear flash and coming out of the shower with jeans on is not much to read in to. Now if he was coming out of the shower with just a towel on, or even watching tv in his underwear, then I'd say he's trying to get your attention. What definately strikes my attention is that he is 27 and never had a girlfriend. I mean come on! Even the ugly straight guys have had some kind of girlfriend by the 20's. You say he's attractive right? Why on earth would he not even try dating someone by that age?icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 09, 2007 8:21 AM GMT
    Dr_JacklWhat do you mean, "used a picture as a mirror"? I can't envision the setup.


    Whoops, I should have been more specific. It was a large watercolor under glass. He used the glass as a mirror. I noticed he started walking slower at first. Then I look and he has his head cocked sideways, stroking his cheek.

    I didn't care if I was busted too bad. He knows he is cute.
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    Dec 09, 2007 1:56 PM GMT
    I think you should just ask him if he's gay.icon_surprised.gif
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    Dec 09, 2007 6:31 PM GMT
    I've always found a fifth of tequila to be helpful in such situations...
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    Dec 09, 2007 7:25 PM GMT
    you could always give him a handjob. if he gets hard and smiles, perhaps you are onto something.
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    Dec 10, 2007 6:47 AM GMT
    -STRONBOLT!!!-

    AGAIN YOU TOOK THE WORDS RIGTH UT OF MY MOUTH!!
    It weirded me out to that he is 26 and has never had a girl friend (relationship). And you are right about one thing, even the ugliest straight guys have had atleast 1 grilfriendicon_eek.gifLOL!!!! I guess I'm just nervus. Yes, in my opinon he is very attractive, this guys laugh and smile is the icing on the cake...He is a great friend though and I DON'T want to end it by NO MEANS!! jsut to see if he's gay, even though I think he is and he's also very supportive in what I do for a living (running) and is there supporting me every step of the way. I just got this felling that something good is going to happen though.HUMMM.. I just don't know what to do now.
    Thank guys!!!

    Keep'em coming (comments, suggestions.)????
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    Dec 11, 2007 1:15 AM GMT
    I saw this work once, granted it was between two paranoid schizophrenics, but it should work in normal practice.

    Invite him to a well known gay place. The trick is he obviously has to know it's a place gay people hang out. I think that invitation will through him off his base enough that you can determine he's gay if he does not just come out and say it.

    Obviously if he reacts negatively you can play dumb and say someone suggested it to you.

    Good Luck with that and the trials!
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    Dec 11, 2007 8:29 PM GMT
    Ok, my first question is, what does his room look like? Describe the decorations, the bed sheets, any pictures, etc.

    Second of all, this may sound very weird, but I live in Flagstaff. I am always willing to help a friend out when they like someone. I’ll be anything from the straight guy to the random jack ass to the most blunt person you’ll ever meet. (i.e. My friend is a lesbian and she was unsure if this girl she liked was or not. I walked over, hit on her and she said she was sorry but she is a lesbian. Long story short, they are still dating.) I’ll even trip just so I can bump into someone my friend likes so they can help me up and we can start a conversation. (Lame and very “sit-com like” I know, but hey it works. Now if only I could help myself.) If you wanted, I could meet him and help you find out. Message me and I’ll see what I can do.

    To quote Jack McFarland, “There is one question, but it has great power. Are . . . You . . . Gay?”
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    Dec 13, 2007 10:20 AM GMT
    You guys are all missing the point, he lives in Flagstaff. He is definitely 148,000% gay.
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    Jan 06, 2008 7:44 PM GMT
    hippie4lyfe saidyou could always give him a handjob. if he gets hard and smiles, perhaps you are onto something.


    I'd give him a hand job too, but that would probably lead to my giving him a blow job.
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    Jan 25, 2008 7:55 AM GMT
    phantomwho22 saidYou guys are all missing the point, he lives in Flagstaff. He is definitely 148,000% gay.


    Um what? There is like no gay community here. It is sad. icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 25, 2008 3:22 PM GMT
    Oh the fun I could have if I were in your situation!

    Your not getting advice from me on how to speed up the adventure of discovering your new roomie. I say enjoy the time that it takes to get your answer. Use your imagination- there is so much fun to be had! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 25, 2008 4:49 PM GMT
    pLEASE KEEP US UPDATED ON THIS SITUTATION
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    Jan 28, 2008 12:40 AM GMT
    I think that since you guys get along so well, and have become friends. Just tell him that you are gay, and that since you count him as a friend and important to you as such that in fairness to him he should know. Don't try to make a move on him first though, this could ruin your friendship, but just telling him that your gay probably won't. If he is gay, he'll let you know once you open this door on the subject. If he quickly lets you know he's straight, just give him assurance that you'll never approach him in any way that's inapropriate to his being straight. I hope he is gay, so you can go someplace with this cool relationship you have !!! LOL !!!
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    Jan 28, 2008 12:42 AM GMT
    The best way to find out if he's gay. So much easier since you're the roommate. When he's not in, fire up his computer, look in his browser history. If you see corbinfisher and seancody, you're pretty much on the money. If you see big titties, then you lose.

    Just pray he's not smart enough to always clear out his browser history :-)
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    Feb 12, 2008 9:55 PM GMT
    Get him hammered and ask him then. It will work.icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 12, 2008 10:10 PM GMT
    I have to agree with "reallifedad". Don't mess up a great friendship by making a move on him. Tell him your
    story and go from there. It might just be the incentive he needs. Wouldn't we all like to be friends first, then lovers?! OK, not all of us!
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    Feb 13, 2008 12:18 AM GMT
    He is 27 and has never had a girlfriend? Did I read that right? If so he is probably gay. You can use the excuse "I am shy" until about 20 or 21 then it gets very suspicious (I should know).

    You might want to let him know that you are gay and ask him if he has any problems with that.