Attractive Guys

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    Jul 30, 2009 3:26 AM GMT
    Besides the looks, what makes a guy attractive? Please be very specific in whatever attributes you think is attractive.
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    Jul 30, 2009 3:35 AM GMT
    fun personality, bubbly, smart, witty, capable of having a conversation.. that sorta thing..

    if they have the personality in big quantities they don't have to be physically "hot" for me to want them.. they just gotta work with what they have and rawr

    unfortunately so many guys are so insecure that it just doesn't happen very often.
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    Jul 30, 2009 3:36 AM GMT
    Do you think that even the "hot" guys are insecure?
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    Jul 30, 2009 3:43 AM GMT
    in my experience.. yes.. just usually in a different way.. haven't you ever found it odd how an apparently "hot guy" will spend so much time keeping him self that way.. it's almost neurotic watching and then watch what happens if he doesn't get validation from random people about how good he looks..
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    Jul 30, 2009 3:51 AM GMT
    Along with a sense of humor, kindness and warmth, what really turns me on is a guy who doesn't forget who he is, what he is, before he knew he was gay.
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    Jul 30, 2009 5:00 AM GMT


    Kind, Respectful, Stable, Vision, Confident, Humor, Grace.....Sexy!
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    Jul 30, 2009 12:50 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidin my experience.. yes.. just usually in a different way.. haven't you ever found it odd how an apparently "hot guy" will spend so much time keeping him self that way.. it's almost neurotic watching and then watch what happens if he doesn't get validation from random people about how good he looks..


    I totally agree. There is another thread on here which is sarcastically making fun of times when the 'hot' guys complain about all the attention they get. Would be funny to see the tables turned and they get no attention and see who they feel about that.

    If I get attention even if I am not interested , I consider it a compliment and move on.

    To the original poster:
    Although physical attractiveness matters and I would be lying if I denied that it did, the guys I have dated have not always been the classic good looking guy. Actually for me its a good sense of humor works wonders on me.


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    Jul 30, 2009 12:54 PM GMT
    confidence.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 30, 2009 12:57 PM GMT
    Well looks initially, but so much more is really required. What flips my switch is seeing the guy is grounded, has taken initiative in his life and has accomplished something based on his drive and determination. Combined with confidence, integrity and honesty.. I'm always impressed.

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    Jul 30, 2009 1:00 PM GMT
    AggieMan saidBesides the looks, what makes a guy attractive? Please be very specific in whatever attributes you think is attractive.


    He needs to be smart, curious about the world and its differences/contradictions, he should have his own life, respect my space, and make me laugh.

    Oh and if he hates on Madonna it ain't goin' nowhere. icon_wink.gif
  • rnch

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    Jul 30, 2009 1:05 PM GMT
    an attractive (to me, anyway) guy who doesn't know that he is attractive is a BIG turn on.

    paraphrasing the tom t hall country western song "she/he don't know she's/he's beautifull......but time and time i tell her/him so". icon_cool.gif
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    Jul 30, 2009 1:39 PM GMT
    A guy with a sense of human, Smart - who can tell me things I never knew.
    protective in a brotherly way and forces people to pronounce my name correctly. Confident, but over time lets me see every flaw and doubt. A guy who loves debating over pointless things because thats a big turn on for me.
    Who everynow and then will let me win even though they easily could've. Someone who doesn't make a big fuss about the fact that I eat too much with my hands. And someone who can handle my competitive side and my need to excel both academically, and in organizational settings.
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    Jul 30, 2009 1:44 PM GMT
    A handsome face and broad shoulders are a good ice-breaker.

    After that, intelligence, a sense of humility and a strong will of their own.
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    Jul 30, 2009 1:45 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidNothing is hotter to me than a smart guy that knows how to keep his cool. I also love a guy that does not take himself or others too seriously. No need to argue or debate, just participate. A gentle coolness and kindness gets me every time.
    Life's short. I'd rather spent it with someone that's UP rather than a downer.


    I second this, hands-down.
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    Jul 30, 2009 2:15 PM GMT
    The underwear commercial right under your post is rather humorous.
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    Jul 30, 2009 2:16 PM GMT
    jprichva said
    RunintheCity saidOh and if he hates on Madonna it ain't goin' nowhere. icon_wink.gif

    Well, that's it, then, because I'm not religious.


    I'm not religious either.
    I ignore the Kabblahblah. Which is soooo Catholic, to ignore the parts you don't like, lol.
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    Jul 30, 2009 2:16 PM GMT
    Funny, huge heart, masculine, passion/rage.
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    Jul 30, 2009 2:17 PM GMT
    a sense of self, a sense of humor and sense of humility
  • jarhead5536

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    Jul 30, 2009 2:17 PM GMT
    Intellectual curiosity. Nothing is hotter than an inquisitive mind...
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    Jul 30, 2009 2:20 PM GMT
    integrity, honesty, a sense of self

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    Jul 30, 2009 2:25 PM GMT
    jpopenb said
    lilTanker saidin my experience.. yes.. just usually in a different way.. haven't you ever found it odd how an apparently "hot guy" will spend so much time keeping him self that way.. it's almost neurotic watching and then watch what happens if he doesn't get validation from random people about how good he looks..


    I totally agree. There is another thread on here which is sarcastically making fun of times when the 'hot' guys complain about all the attention they get. Would be funny to see the tables turned and they get no attention and see who they feel about that.


    GEEE......I wonder what emotions are being played out with these comments?


    Actually, to add to my previous words in this post, to me a guy is attractive when he doesn't make assumptions based on what a person looks like.
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    Jul 30, 2009 2:29 PM GMT
    KissingPro said
    jpopenb said
    lilTanker saidin my experience.. yes.. just usually in a different way.. haven't you ever found it odd how an apparently "hot guy" will spend so much time keeping him self that way.. it's almost neurotic watching and then watch what happens if he doesn't get validation from random people about how good he looks..


    I totally agree. There is another thread on here which is sarcastically making fun of times when the 'hot' guys complain about all the attention they get. Would be funny to see the tables turned and they get no attention and see who they feel about that.


    GEEE......I wonder what emotions are being played out with these comments?


    Actually, to add to my previous words in this post, to me a guy is attractive when he doesn't make assumptions based on what a person looks like.


    a worthy goal- even if an impossible one
  • Timbales

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    Jul 30, 2009 2:30 PM GMT
    :shrug: what I find attractive can differ greatly from person to person
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    Jul 30, 2009 2:33 PM GMT
    intelligence, personality, valor, strength (not exactly physically), witty, kinda cute (personality-wise), smooth icon_smile.gif

    however...it seems like guys like that are hard to find icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 30, 2009 2:35 PM GMT
    everyone is a little insecure on the inside, how confident a person appears to be is how much they are able to ignore those feelings and not share them.

    Looks, Confidence, Power... that's what it usually boils down too, anything else is probably added so the person looking can seem like they have a lot to say, and a bigger vocabulary and high criteria.