Being GAY

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    Jul 30, 2009 6:32 AM GMT
    Dear Rj's,

    I would like to share a story with you all. Today a gay and lesbian center magazine outed me out today to my DAD. This is what happened, when he was getting the mail, he saw the gay and lesbian center magazine that was mailed to me. (Even though I said don’t send me anything via mail when I was signing up for a volunteer packet.) So my sister, father and I had a serious conversation about it. And it was then I proved my sister and father how close minded they really are when they said they weren’t. When my father pointed to the word gay, I knew they had a bad image about gay people but today they saw how I didn’t fit the image they had. They were shocked and confused. I proved to them today that they don’t know anything about gay people; that the media and bible show only what they want people to see and hear. But today I stayed true to myself and it redefined the word gay to my family. I truly believe that if people stand for what they believe, this negative image that so many people hold, can be turned into a positive one. Another example was today, I came out to a classmate, and he was shocked to see how not all gay people are horny recruiters. You have the power to change the world for the better. All you need is to love yourself and be true to your self. The rest will follow in due time.

    -IRving
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    Jul 30, 2009 7:31 AM GMT
    Gay people:

    All have AIDS.

    Love to Stick stuff up their butts.

    They are all Pedophiles.

    Love shopping.

    Wear women's clothing.

    They all talk like women.

    Want to sleep with every guy.

    They are all Atheists.

    Cher, modonna, or Brittany spears are their idols.

    Musicals are what they live for.

    They all are 20lbs underwieght.

    a 10ft penis will make their day.

    They want to become women.

    Techno is all they listen to.


    I always have to correct people when I hear shit like this. Its stupid,Dumb,and annoying.


    I hope everything went okay with your father and sister.


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    Jul 30, 2009 1:07 PM GMT
    lenoxx saidGay people:

    All have AIDS.

    Love to Stick stuff up their butts.

    They are all Pedophiles.

    Love shopping.

    Wear women's clothing.

    They all talk like women.

    Want to sleep with every guy.

    They are all Atheists.

    Cher, madonna, or Brittany spears are their idols.

    Musicals are what they live for.

    They all are 20lbs underwieght.

    a 10ft penis will make their day.

    They want to become women.

    Techno is all they listen to.


    I always have to correct people when I hear shit like this. Its stupid,Dumb,and annoying.


    I hope everything went okay with your father and sister.




    No I don't have AIDS.

    My butt is so tight it can wistel.

    Not into children, I like men.

    I shop when I need to, but I've had my moments.

    I would not be caught dead in women's clothes; yuk.

    I'm a man. I don't talk like a women, and I sing base.

    I don't belive in God as the Bible depicts it, nor the Bible, as a true history book, but I have a faith, and I know Darwin was right.

    Cher Modona; WHO?

    Musicals, never.

    At 90kg, I'm 5 over.

    A 10ft dick would make me smile any day.icon_biggrin.gif

    Gees I've never wanted to be a women, and when I come back it will be as a man again!

    I love many forms of music.

    Gees I'm OK then.
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    Jul 30, 2009 1:46 PM GMT
    I know you were going through stuff over the past couple weeks and am glad to know that this situation didn't turn out as badly as you've been thinking it would.

    The world is your oyster now. do with it as you will.
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    Jul 30, 2009 2:47 PM GMT
    what a great story. guys like you are the true gay "pioneers" (if you will). i've been there bro. guys are always confused when they find out i like sports lol
    they expect me to love madonna and use words like "delicious" and "fab" for everything. honestly...kudos for you and hope you keep educating people
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    Jul 30, 2009 2:55 PM GMT
    OP, you need to contact the magazine's publisher and lay down the law. icon_exclaim.gif
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    Jul 30, 2009 3:01 PM GMT
    Tapper saidOP, you need to contact the magazine's publisher and lay down the law. icon_exclaim.gif

    Agreed. They may even be at risk of some liability, if you can prove what you directed them, and that they promised or implied they would comply with your wishes. A gay publication should certainly understand the potentially disastrous consequences for someone being involuntarily outed.
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    Jul 30, 2009 3:11 PM GMT
    lenoxx saidGay people:

    All have AIDS.

    Love to Stick stuff up their butts.... [etc]

    It was exactly these kinds of stereotypes, common & unchallenged in my youth, that kept me in stupid denial for decades. Since I didn't behave like that, I couldn't be gay, despite my undoubted attraction to men.

    And frankly, given the negative social status of gays, I certainly had every motivation for rejecting the thought that I could be gay. Why would I want to be a social misfit and outcast, when my assumed destiny was to follow in my parents' prominent footsteps?

    It was the realization, at long last, of the fallacies of your list, that snapped me out of my deep denial. Plus, the advances since Stonewall that had, by the mid-1990s, made being gay not quite the social Devil's Island it had previously been. I not only realized I was gay, but that I could DARE to be gay.
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    Jul 31, 2009 4:05 AM GMT
    lenoxx saidGay people:


    They are all Pedophiles.



    When I 'came out....' My 'uncle' told he kids to stay away from me because he thinks that I am going to molest them....

    ...this is only the case because of all those damn catholic priest. Don't people know that the majority of offenders are straight males.... they all like 'em high school girls.... but that stuff is not televised.......

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    Jul 31, 2009 4:08 AM GMT
    Sorry you were outed by that magazine. Unfortunately, orgs aren't always great at following those sorts of directions. You're not the first to be outed that way, and you won't be the last. Doesn't make it right.

    But congrats on making a negative into a positive. It couldn't have been easy to come out on terms that weren't your own, but looks like you did well under pressure. Good for you!
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    Jul 31, 2009 4:11 AM GMT
    I will never give out ANY of my information to ANY gay organization for the very reason you gave i415: they'll just mail you anyway, waste paper, and cause shit in your life.
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    Jul 31, 2009 5:56 AM GMT
    Way to go man!

    One thing I have noticed continually here in respect to coming out stories is the need to explain that being gay is not a tragedy. It seems sometimes like people talk about how their straight friends tell them they will support them etc..... Perhaps we should reply, "and I'll be there for you when the bitches try to manipulate you." There seems to be this impression that our life will be so much harder than theirs as if we are struggling with an illness. I think it is important to point out that you don't need pity or even support but you'd like to news not to change the friendship.