in response to that post:
lol i haven't met very many gay men who aren't promiscuous and dishonest, though maybe that's more of a universal male condition than a gay one, i admit. most are mentally or at least emotionally unbalanced, being insecure (which shows itself as cattiness, superficiality, immaturity, and the tendency to never outgrow the 'token gay' stereotype persona many adopt invariably when first coming out)- most likely due to the psychological stress put on them by society and religion, manifest in the state of 'being closeted,' which i think many underestimate in sheer psychological trauma. i'm not saying ALL gays are this way, just saying that the ones worth talking to, let alone dating lol, are in my experience far and few between, in statistical relation to the population on the whole. i know my boyfriend is an amazing guy with quite a lot of intelligence and heart, with a good head on his shoulders- he's a rarity, to be sure, and i treasure him. i have gay friends (though not many) who are worth my time to talk to. but soooo many of the gay men i've been exposed to thus far, through what few clubs/bars i've wasted my time in, school, gyms, work, the internet, and every-day life, have been disappointments at best. can any argue otherwise? to do so is perhaps to be dishonest with oneself concerning the state of our population, and to indulge in an optimism and idealism which is rather unrealistic.
i think, perhaps, that the 'anything goes' mentality most of us are afflicted with- the bizarre 'open relationships,' and the promiscuity, is a result of religion's condemnation of us (for those of us who were raised to care what religion has to say)- 'if we're gonna burn in hell anyways just for being ourselves, why not have fun along the way?' or perhaps it has more to do with the suffocating disapproval felt from society at large, subliminally reminding us in every advertisement, every movie, every book, by depicting and marketing to straight couples only, of how different and unnatural we're seen to be. Yet again, it could be the disapproval most of us receive from our parents- so many kicked out of our homes for coming out! its frightening how many homeless gay youth there are. one can hardly blame most of us for being so messed up.
some of us are lucky- to have been raised in a more liberal and open-minded locality, to have unconditionally loving parents/family, to have supportive friends and to have been brought up with good values... but too few of us. the situation's getting better, socially, i think... but we're not there yet. while i won't say, in reference to your remark, that i don't have any 'problems,' (i think there isn't a single man alive who doesn't have demons to wrestle with) i can, however, say that i was fortunately blessed with an accepting/loving family, a more traditional/conservative upbringing (good values), in an area that was pretty liberal and open minded. i have not yet had a negative reaction from anyone for being openly gay (though perhaps that has a lot to do with not hitting on straight men, making those around me uncomfortable with flamboyance, exhibiting anti-social behavior, or flouting 'gay pride') since having come out completely during my sophomore year of high school, and am even embraced and supported by my fraternity for being as such. so i'd say my insecurities have more to do with having been overweight in middle school lol, and in thinking my neck is too scrawny, to answer your implied question. :p
however, as i said, i don't think any of this factors into the issue at hand in this forum- gay rights are rights, and we are entitled to them whether one has an optimistic or a pessimistic view of the population.