money are so important in a LTR?

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    Jul 30, 2009 11:56 PM GMT
    first time here.. well..
    i'm a "bastard" in my business but "weak" when in love.. love my bf for me means take care about him, try to do the best for him, realize all his wish, surprise him with a romantic dinner in a special place with a private jet etc..
    when i do something like what i did, for me isn't a way to impress my partner but just a way to show my love. EVERY partner i had, loved my money more than me((i'm not so ugly) (sometimes doing verry bad bad things)).. now i wonder to myself... if we put money at first place in our life, i must consider to share my life with an escort or do you think there still are very honest men in this world??? icon_confused.gif
  • Timbales

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    Jul 30, 2009 11:59 PM GMT
    Treat your partner like an equal. Express your love without using your money.
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    Jul 31, 2009 2:35 AM GMT
    i do not mean to sound callous - but if every partner that you've had, have only loved you for your money- don't you think there is an issue with you choosing the guys you have chosen as partners?
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    Jul 31, 2009 2:45 AM GMT
    lots of guys have money, find one.

    your profile reads like an advertisement for " like me because I say I have money" cruising on my yacht in the mediteranian, nobody needs to know about "your yacht", deal with your insecurities and then quality guys will be in your life.
  • DanielQQ

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    Jul 31, 2009 2:46 AM GMT
    I'm gonna take a whack at this one. Guys love you for your money because you define your self-worth by your wealth. I can tell by reading your profile. And I'm betting, since in "your experience" muscles = no brains, that you pursue men for their outer beauty... maybe you should just own up to the fact that you like dating really hot guys and that they like dating really rich guys. Is there any difference between the two, really?
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    Jul 31, 2009 8:09 AM GMT
    People who have real money don't brag about it on a public profile... this guy seems to be some insecure ugly person with no pictures and probably does some job through which he gets a lot of free perks (like the boss' yacht). Had he been confident and sexy - he would put up his pics here and let people judge him rather than beating his own drum.
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    Jul 31, 2009 8:52 AM GMT
    I often fly my boyfriends to dinner across the country in private jets, then appear on realjock.com forums, unverified and without pictures, to ask for relationship advice.

    Let's not forget our "Beginners Internet" course, people. If you feel you have to take the OP seriously, then we're going to be forced to take your aol.com email address away.

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    Jul 31, 2009 9:12 AM GMT
    A partner should be with you cause they love/like you for who you are not cause you can supply them with however much money they could ever want. Are there honest men out there sure you just got to find them like anything else. Leave how much money you have out til after you've been together for 6 months.
    For you can impress your partner in soo many different ways then just showering them in new "toys"
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    Jul 31, 2009 10:12 AM GMT
    when it comes to loaded guys the first thing i notice them always talking about their money, to me this isnt a basis relationship or something that will make me like them. If i'm dating you it means because im intrested in you not your money. so maybe you should look for people that give no importance towards your money and that there is equality in the realtionship as in you both are able to make independent decisions towards each other regardless of how financially able either is.

    also try not always talking about money. just a general thing ive noticed about rich guys complaining about guys liking them for their money.
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    Jul 31, 2009 10:05 PM GMT
    I try to write a general answer to who till now have commented my post...
    1) I am a very reserved person and for this reason I have not yet upload my pix..

    2) i consider myself quite handsome, even if i'm not a bodybuilder (very hard find time for gym when you work 18 hours a day, 7 days a week ect..)

    3) i don't think it's a bad thing talking about my yacht, about my cars, or my villas in 5 different place in the world : it's just my life..
    why i must to hide what i have? i prefer to hide what i do for help people in need in many humanitarian project that i support, because in this case.
    ok.. an example.. : a date with someone.. : i invite you for a dinner, ok, we can eat a pizza instead to reserve a table at NOBU MATSUHISA uptown NYC.. ; i can drive to you with taxi instead my ferrari, ok.. you ask me about my job: i can say that i'm an employee? mmm.. hard to believe if only Dolce&Gabbana, Dsquared and Balmain wear me and probably if i say that i am an employee then when you discover what you maybe you think that i'm a liar..
    well.. then? i invite you in my apartment and an employee can't have a big apartment at 57th with Oman Marble, pianting, ect..

    of course.. you can't know me through few words.. but problem isn't my relationship with money.. i can also live without money. people can judge me for my Rolex or my yacht ect.. i'm very simple. i live alone, no family (only a brother and sister) just i try to take care at myself. have money does't means have a easy life... not only when in love, but with all people are close to my life i wish for them the best but as i told, not for impress them, but just because I WANT the best for them.

    for RST2009: i had guys "with money" but no difference.. i know very well myself, i'm not insecure, even after many bad experience that could change my point of view about people etc..

    maybe isn't a real problem but just adversityicon_question.gif

    just a note...
    i'm in Sardinia (italy) actually.. today i had a brunch at the yacht club.. i met a guy.. our conversation? "you are lucky for haven't the problem to wake up early tomorrow and work for 1.000 usd a mo.; i see you yesterday with your friends have a shopping and i must to wait sale season for buy a decent jeans; tomorrow you wish to eat a pizza with me? but you must to pay because i can't, for you is nothing pay a pizza" etc tc.. after 1 hour he don't ask for my name! (i don't used my money to knew him!)
    now.. it's my problem or someone suppose (as i suppose) that mostly people put money at first place more than "i" can do?

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    Jul 31, 2009 10:30 PM GMT
    tokamak72 saidI try to write a general answer to who till now have commented my post...
    1) I am a very reserved person and for this reason I have not yet upload my pix..

    2) i consider myself quite handsome, even if i'm not a bodybuilder (very hard find time for gym when you work 18 hours a day, 7 days a week ect..)

    3) i don't think it's a bad thing talking about my yacht, about my cars, or my villas in 5 different place in the world : it's just my life..
    why i must to hide what i have? i prefer to hide what i do for help people in need in many humanitarian project that i support, because in this case.
    ok.. an example.. : a date with someone.. : i invite you for a dinner, ok, we can eat a pizza instead to reserve a table at NOBU MATSUHISA uptown NYC.. ; i can drive to you with taxi instead my ferrari, ok.. you ask me about my job: i can say that i'm an employee? mmm.. hard to believe if only Dolce&Gabbana, Dsquared and Balmain wear me and probably if i say that i am an employee then when you discover what you maybe you think that i'm a liar..
    well.. then? i invite you in my apartment and an employee can't have a big apartment at 57th with Oman Marble, pianting, ect..

    of course.. you can't know me through few words.. but problem isn't my relationship with money.. i can also live without money. people can judge me for my Rolex or my yacht ect.. i'm very simple. i live alone, no family (only a brother and sister) just i try to take care at myself. have money does't means have a easy life... not only when in love, but with all people are close to my life i wish for them the best but as i told, not for impress them, but just because I WANT the best for them.

    for RST2009: i had guys "with money" but no difference.. i know very well myself, i'm not insecure, even after many bad experience that could change my point of view about people etc..

    maybe isn't a real problem but just adversityicon_question.gif

    just a note...
    i'm in Sardinia (italy) actually.. today i had a brunch at the yacht club.. i met a guy.. our conversation? "you are lucky for haven't the problem to wake up early tomorrow and work for 1.000 usd a mo.; i see you yesterday with your friends have a shopping and i must to wait sale season for buy a decent jeans; tomorrow you wish to eat a pizza with me? but you must to pay because i can't, for you is nothing pay a pizza" etc tc.. after 1 hour he don't ask for my name! (i don't used my money to knew him!)
    now.. it's my problem or someone suppose (as i suppose) that mostly people put money at first place more than "i" can do?



    Eh, Mr. Sardinian,

    I believe every word you say. You just need to stop choosing the type of guys you have been choosing. It indicates a problem with you and not with the guys. It's like they say - you get what you pay for.

    JP, I'mma gonna have to give you a spankingicon_biggrin.gif
  • jgymnast733

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    Jul 31, 2009 11:06 PM GMT
    Try not to lead with your money foot, i know it's difficult because money is such an afrodisiac and some people will do anything to posess it, and knowing that you hold the power must give you an incredible rush.. [ It does for me]....
    Please, be careful and dont give your heart away as well....
    I know someone who grew up with the vanderbilt and rockfeller kids and the world is his oyster,and he's still unhappy...Just goes to prove:
    MONEY CANT BUY YOU LOVE...
    and yes there are good people out here in this world, Hang in there buddy..
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    Jul 31, 2009 11:18 PM GMT
    Not to be overly-critical, but I find it really hard to believe that someone with such poor command of grammar, spelling or basic sentence structure could have succeeded to the point of such personal wealth. Even trust fund babies have to graduate from somewhere.

    I think Iguana nailed it and further discussion about this person's "issues" would be futile, since he doesn't exist.
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    Jul 31, 2009 11:25 PM GMT
    Toka,

    Which yacht club was that? The one in Porto Cervo or the one in Porto Rotondo?

    Its funny because I so rarely meet guys who can't afford jeans on the Costa Smeralda, and it is the one place I can really escape from the pizza cult. I wouldn't have thought it possible to run across pizza boys at the yacht club.

    What do you sail? Do you run the R.C.?

    Alas, to your question, I do wonder sometimes if there are still "very honest men in this world???" There seems to be a notable uptick in delusional narcissism that makes it hard to tell.

    Good luck in the hunt and avoid shellfish in the summer.

    Terry

  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 01, 2009 12:08 AM GMT
    When you are an older men like me, and not as attractie as you use to be, you will realize that money is one reason why some guys are intersted in you. I dont mean I am ugly,but I surely dont have the boyish, six pack , and the physical attraction of a men in their 20's.

    I admit sometime (not all the time) I use my so call wealth (by the way, I dont have 5 villa and yatch, )to attracted attractive younger guy to hang around me. Hey, I need to fall in love, get the boy and getting sex just like everbody else. Most of the men my age or older are married and taken. The younger one is all that is available. Apart for some odd cases of guys who have fetish toward older men, I have not much to offer them beside my money and probably my wisdom.

    However , there the limitation on how we handle money in a relationship. If he started using me as a cash cow, expect me to paid for everything and laying on his ass all the time, then it time to call it quit.
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    Aug 01, 2009 12:13 AM GMT
    Nah, this is one is outré and fun, the other thread was sad and predictable.

    jprichva saidThis thread is mighty familiar-sounding.

    Anyone remember this one?
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/190116/



  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Aug 01, 2009 12:14 AM GMT
    If you have to buy love, it's too expensive. You get what you pay for.
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    Aug 01, 2009 2:02 AM GMT
    for URSAMAJOR:
    1)yacht club Porto Cervo. 2) next time try pizza at "Pizzeria Dante" to Porto Cervo, then tell me about.. 3) you don't need to be rich or poor for undestand that even if Porto Cervo is an expansive place, there also are people that live working for less than 1.000 usd a mo. and if with this money you must live for 30days.. mmm... i trust the guy that told me about his difficoult to buy a jeans..

    for BADMIKEYT
    even if i live in NYC (for the moment i wish to live there) i'm not american, so excuse me for my basic english.
    i'm graduated in 1)international and diplomatic sciences, 2)law 3)philosophy
    thanks
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    Aug 01, 2009 2:15 AM GMT
    I don't think I'd like to be taken care of so to speak by a guy, I think it would be emasculating for any guy.

    but then that said i'm not above playing the game

    I'll happily buddy up with a guy at the bar if he's offering drinks or be taken out to dinner by a guy that can afford it and wants to, but those are things I could do for myself and if he expects anything sexual in return forgot it, I can't be bought
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    Aug 01, 2009 2:26 AM GMT
    I think in some ways Money is your only true companion especially if you are Gay and older...many guys here would not agree with this because they are still young and fit - gay life everywhere is very unsettling.. gays keep talking about equal rights and marriage laws but how many are really even in relationships?? A very tiny number - and fact is most guys in relationships are very average looking people... the hottest gay men are single and busy screwing around or they settle for an "open relationship" type of arrangement.. wait till they get past a certain age and it gets harder to keep up with the competition.. then if they are rich they either get a hot twink by throwing money on him.. or if they arent so rich they usually travel to 3rd world countries in search of younger guys to bring back home.

    Sorry but looking at most profiles even here of older men - they all ask for 18 yr olds and definitely younger than them.. and they all try to impress with their money or artificaially enhanced steroided bodies.. what they dont realize is they would be a lot more happier in life if they just settled for an "equal" partner who is the same age, status etc.

    Although I personally think money is important for not just gays - but for everyone as it provides you with security - but I would never ever settle for a guy who wanted to date me for money - it has to be real and he has to like me for who I am ... not what I am worth!!!
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    Aug 01, 2009 8:45 AM GMT
    tokamak72 saidfor URSAMAJOR:
    1)yacht club Porto Cervo. 2) next time try pizza at "Pizzeria Dante" to Porto Cervo, then tell me about.. 3) you don't need to be rich or poor for undestand that even if Porto Cervo is an expansive place, there also are people that live working for less than 1.000 usd a mo. and if with this money you must live for 30days.. mmm... i trust the guy that told me about his difficoult to buy a jeans..


    Toka,

    Oh, do please excuse my misunderstanding. I based my question upon your having said this.

    "i'm in Sardinia (italy) actually.. today i had a brunch at the yacht club.. i met a guy.. our conversation? "you are lucky for haven't the problem to wake up early tomorrow and work for 1.000 usd a mo.; i see you yesterday with your friends have a shopping and i must to wait sale season for buy a decent jeans; tomorrow you wish to eat a pizza with me?"

    The impression that I took away from that was that you had met the pizza boy at your brunch at the yacht club. You didn't mention that you had met him at il Dante. That's the one in Porto Vecchio across from the tennis club?
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    Aug 01, 2009 9:28 AM GMT
    iguanaSF saidI often fly my boyfriends to dinner across the country in private jets, then appear on realjock.com forums, unverified and without pictures, to ask for relationship advice.

    Let's not forget our "Beginners Internet" course, people. If you feel you have to take the OP seriously, then we're going to be forced to take your aol.com email address away.

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    LOL

    Yeah, I kinda smell a faker.

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  • GQjock

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    Aug 01, 2009 10:01 AM GMT
    If you're gonna go swimming in the boy toy .... gold digging pool well what are you going to expect?

    To have a lasting healthy relationship you'll need to be able to give as well as take from your partner
    If you're the one Giving all the time it ain't going to work

    I know that you monetarily probably have more than the men you are with but there are countless more ways someone can give than by showering them with material things
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    Aug 01, 2009 10:12 AM GMT
    You guys are going to kill all of the fun.
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    Aug 01, 2009 1:17 PM GMT
    GQjock saidIf you're gonna go swimming in the boy toy .... gold digging pool well what are you going to expect?

    To have a lasting healthy relationship you'll need to be able to give as well as take from your partner
    If you're the one Giving all the time it ain't going to work

    I know that you monetarily probably have more than the men you are with but there are countless more ways someone can give than by showering them with material things


    no i disagree,
    mr. sardinian's lot is to shower men with gifts so that he may attempt to attract and keep their attention. we should not be discouraging him from doing this. there are many men out there waiting for someone like him. they would immediately be out of sorts if he were to stop doing this.