Emergency!!! I am going on my first date ever tonight...

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    Jul 31, 2009 3:13 PM GMT
    Emergency! I am going on my first date ever tonight, the only problem is we can't decide what to do yet lol... I actually gave the guy my number in person after seeing his profile on match.com (so I knew he played for our team haha) because he works at a place I go to regularly... so I kind of want to do something to get to know him better....

    So I was wondering, what would you consider the perfect first meeting/date?
  • Timbales

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    Jul 31, 2009 3:35 PM GMT
    What is something you like?
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    Jul 31, 2009 4:23 PM GMT
    Well, I'd say since you didn't meet on ManHunt then the choices are endless... icon_wink.gif


    Otherwise, it's usually just one of 3 places, yours, mine, or theirs....




    Congrats!!!! Have FUN bud - just enjoy it, not sweat it.
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    Jul 31, 2009 5:11 PM GMT
    AWWWWWWWWWWW! Chops, growing up so fast.

    Take him somewhere you can talk, avoid the movies etc because youll be sat in silence.
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    Jul 31, 2009 5:54 PM GMT
    Going out for coffee or tea (or a potent potable) in a fairly quiet place is always good. You need to talk one on one to find out if you have more in common then mutual lust for each other. Dinner is the second best option, but if you do not click with the guy it could be the longest 1 to 2 hours of you life (icon_confused.gif ugh, I am starting to have flashbacks of my dating years).
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    Jul 31, 2009 8:53 PM GMT
    Dating can seem like you're being looked at under a microscope, find somewhere to occasionally point the microscope... you and he will be glad you did.

    Here are some options:
    Fun Food:
    Anything you can eat with your hands, that's on fire, where you sit on the ground. Anywhere that has belly dancing or sword dancing.
    If it's a day date:
    Picnic, wine, cheese, salami (pun intended) fruit, something sweet!
    Sports:
    Rollerskating, Ice Skating, Horseback riding, cycling (
    Baseball games are fun, even if you don't like baseball, hot dogs, popcorn, beer.. what's not to love?
    Community theater:
    It's unpretentious and can be a great conversation piece when you are at dinner AFTERWARDS (see microscope reference above)

    If you feel like you are at a loss and feel self conscious, think of the most interesting things about yourself (family, hobbies, pets, work) and ask him about those areas of his life. If he is uncomfortable he will in knee jerk capacity ask you to answer the same question, you will have a question you guided him to and something you enjoy talking about.

    If he says or does something weird, give him the chance to recover without making a big deal over anything. Dating is FULL of those moments, it's how you recover from the peculiar that defines you, NOT *if* you say/do something peculiar...rest assured you will, so will he, and it's ok.

    Above all:
    Don't Panic, Don't Project & Have Fun!

    Good luck!!!
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    Jul 31, 2009 10:39 PM GMT
    thanks guys! I really appreciate it... we actually have a connection through our love for animals... he works at the Petco I go to for my salt water aquarium and he works in the fish section lol... and he also has pet my dog when Ive taken him with me, and all this was before I knew he was into guys haha... but then I saw his profile on match.com so I decided to give him my number the next time I went in for fish food icon_biggrin.gif

    I think we are going to see a movie, but I told him I want to hang out afterwards to get to know eachother

    wish me luck! and thanks again
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    Jul 31, 2009 11:53 PM GMT
    Wow Gilly Congrats on your first date!! I'm sure it will not be your last becuase you are such a babe. I'm sure he will like you!

    Please let us know how it goes for you.
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    Aug 01, 2009 12:22 AM GMT
    First dates are rough when you hardly know the person. Being able to talk and get to know the guy in a quiet place is ideal, but what if you don't have anything to talk about? Going to a movie before will give you something to talk about, just don't go to the late showing or you will end up in a bar yelling over Grace Jones or back at his place sucking down balls.
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    Aug 01, 2009 1:17 AM GMT
    Take him to dinner...a good dinner and talk.
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    Aug 01, 2009 3:41 AM GMT
    some suggestions for your date:

    . Dinner and a movie - always classic
    . have coffee, take a stroll on the sand/beach - always romantic
    . go bowling or play billiards/pool and have some beverage
    . Go shopping or window-shopping for dvds/cds, clothes...etc at your local trendy shopping mall.

    Good luck, nothing like a giddy nerves pre-first-date. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 01, 2009 3:47 AM GMT
    My number one rule for a first date is that you should tell him before hand that you have to be somewhere by a certain time, so if you aren't feeling it you have a good excuse to leave. If not you could be stuck at in an awkward situation trying to find a way out. If you are feeling it you have a second date to look forward to.
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    Aug 01, 2009 3:52 AM GMT
    Aww.. On first dates, I usually go for something like a movie and dinner at a great restaurant. I'm a shy guy, so the movie usually gives me something to talk about just to break the silence. And the it just goes from there.
    Have fun dude!
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    Aug 01, 2009 2:31 PM GMT
    I have to agree that a movie isn't always as dibilitating as many people think. I love debating movies and looking for inner meanings. Its always a favorite pass time of mine.

    Bowling was always fun.

    Dinner was always fun, especially if at least one of us had never eaten there before.

    When I think back on it, my first few dates with my boyfriend were always so much fun. He took me out for sushi the first time, had asked enough questions to find out that I liked video games and surprised me with some of my favorites that he claimed he'd always had.

    Then to play laser tag, kids vs. adults. The kids whipped our asses but it was so much fun and I had never done that before.
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    Aug 01, 2009 2:50 PM GMT
    Well it's the morning after now, how about a status update? icon_biggrin.gif
  • coolarmydude

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    Aug 01, 2009 3:12 PM GMT
    The perfect first date isn't about what you do on the date, it's about enjoying each other's company and wanting to have a second date.

    Be creative. Open the newspaper or local magazine to find events. Just go for a long drive and talk with the radio on low volume...Be spontaneous!
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    Aug 01, 2009 3:22 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidWell it's the morning after now, how about a status update? icon_biggrin.gif

    I'm curious, too. I see Gilly has been online already this day after, but that's not conclusive that he's home and alone. I hope he has a "trophy" with him from last night, and will get back to us when he can. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 01, 2009 4:04 PM GMT
    Calm down.

    Here's what you do:

    Show up to the restaurant 3 hours late and then throw everything at the dinner table on the floor.

    I did this on the last date I was invited to.

    It was about, oh, 6 years ago.
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    Aug 01, 2009 4:06 PM GMT
    mikes39 saidCalm down.

    Here's what you do:

    Show up to the restaurant 3 hours late and then throw everything at the dinner table on the floor.

    I did this on the last date I was invited to.

    It was about, oh, 6 years ago.

    YOU DID WHAT???

    Say, can we hang together? LOL!
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    Aug 01, 2009 5:57 PM GMT
    haha you guys are awesome...

    well the date went freaking amazing... we ended up going bowling instead, and I told him before hand that there was no way I was losing =) ... and I beat him pretty bad 3 times in a row... then we walked downtown for a little while and talked, so then we decided to just hop in my car a drive around randomly and talk, then we stopped and got some food and parked in a Krogers parking lot and just joked about the weirdos that were out that late (and then realized we were weirdos sitting in a parking lot looking at weidos) and after we ate I decided to show him the house that my dad is building outside of town, and my dad leaves it unlocked, but aparently he put in a security system lol, so it went off and we bolted to the car and sped off, it was hilarious, I almost peed my pants laughing in the car... then we saw a cat in an empty parking lot, and we are both big time animal lovers, so we decided to try and rescue it, but it freaking hated us lol...

    but in conclusion I couldn't of planned it better if I tried, I enjoyed that fact that it was full of completely random events and laid back, because I am a very go with the flow kind of person, and there is no need to be uptight when just getting to know someone... and Im pretty sure we are hanging out again very soon icon_biggrin.gif

    thanks again for all of the suggestions and advice!
  • Joeyphx444

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    Aug 01, 2009 6:05 PM GMT
    aww thats nice icon_biggrin.gif I would go on sites like match and stuff but it's kind of pricey icon_sad.gif ur lucky ur first date went very well
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    Aug 01, 2009 6:22 PM GMT
    yeah I dont pay, so I can't email or message people... but I have seen this guy where he works for over a year, and then saw his profile on there about a week ago, so I decided to just ask him about it, and fortunately it worked out haha
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    Aug 01, 2009 6:52 PM GMT
    Hehe make him wear armband floaties under his shirt if it helpsicon_razz.gif

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    Aug 01, 2009 7:01 PM GMT
    lol you are such a dork
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    Aug 01, 2009 7:04 PM GMT
    Gilly saidlol you are such a dork


    I'm only trying to help you our with you hang ups lolicon_biggrin.gif