"I'M OUT" Update Update

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    Aug 03, 2009 10:05 PM GMT
    Well it's been one month ago today that I let the penis out of the pants, so-to-speak. The first week was full of sorrow, regret and disdane for my parents. Dad destroyed the house, mom and her sister cried for days. The second week contact was re-established and dad surprised me when he left work and drove 2 hours to stop me from moving away and expressed how much he loved me. Third week, things returned to normal and the fourth week, I'm scared--that i'm going to have to re-come out to them because things are better than ever. NOBODY in the family treats me any differently...NOBODY. We laugh and cut up and tell jokes just like always.

    Through this experience, my parents PROVED to me just what unconditional love is. I learned a bit about me and the rest of my family. It even encouraged somebody else I know to come out to his mother (which did NOT go well, unfortunately). But this experience also gave me some important life keys that will help me become stronger and be a better mentor to those thinking of doing the same. Just thought I'd give an update since I've had 6 or 7 emails of people asking.

    All that to say I'M SINGLE AND TIME TO MINGLE!
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    Aug 03, 2009 10:07 PM GMT
    Well... toldja.

    Actually no. Lemme rephrase that to WHEW! LOL

    Congrats. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 03, 2009 10:09 PM GMT
    Glad to hear things seem to be turning out ok
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 03, 2009 10:11 PM GMT
    Glad to hear things are going well.... now be sensitive and be ready to help others
    who may not be as lucky. They may need your support, Blake..

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    Aug 03, 2009 10:18 PM GMT
    All of the above, and continue to be considerate and sensitive to the feelings of your family. They may be behaving quite well on the surface (and my admiration to them), but some emotions may run deeper and still linger. It might not yet be "business as usual" for them, so keep that in mind and tread lightly for a little longer (a gay specialty... icon_wink.gif )
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    Aug 03, 2009 10:20 PM GMT
    I was a bit out of the loop, so I had to go read the previous 2 posts of this series =P

    All I gotta say is congratulations!

    Dude, that's awesome, I'm glad things are going well =]

    Now, I need to grow as big balls as you (no, I haven't been peeking into your room...I swear) to finally tell my parents... eek, scary.
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    Aug 03, 2009 11:02 PM GMT
    raw00L said
    Now, I need to grow as big balls as you (no, I haven't been peeking into your room...I swear) to finally tell my parents... eek, scary.


    Same. Eek scary indeed. icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 04, 2009 12:20 AM GMT
    Good for you! Next couple of years should be funtastic for you!
  • cbrett

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    Aug 04, 2009 12:26 AM GMT
    as red vespa said remember to keep the gay joke clean for now your parent might be happy right now but very slowly introduce yourself to them as gay Blake not st8 Blake they have many years of dream etc for you. Now you need to give them time to change those dream a little bit, remember they love you but their will be time when they don't understand keep the line of communication open

    but ya for you mate
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    Aug 04, 2009 12:27 AM GMT



    Happy sighs from us, Blake, and take to heart what HndsmKansan said; you have something very valuable to offer others that are struggling here.

    LOL, you won't have to 're-come out' to them.

    Thanks for such good news, you've been in our quiet Concern for some time.


    -us two
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    Aug 04, 2009 12:27 AM GMT
    Well done. Change your profile title -- your world hardly seems like a mess. I am glad your world is good, you deserve it!

    Be well & be safe!
    Jon
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    Aug 04, 2009 12:42 AM GMT
    Thats great. Congrat's on having your familys support. The true test will be when you bring your first guy home. But im sure they will love him.
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    Aug 04, 2009 1:29 AM GMT
    Well that's just the thing....it's not brought up and I don't break my neck to look at guys even though I want to really badly. I just don't want to make anybody uncomfortable. I figured I'd take it easy the first few months. I told my mother the other day (she was watching the bachelor) and I said "screw that, put on the bachelorette!" Then I smiled and she smiled back. I mean I would much rather look at 20+ hot guys than just one hot guy.
  • calibro

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    Aug 04, 2009 1:33 AM GMT
    glad to hear your family cam around and acted like the loving people you know them to be
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    Aug 04, 2009 1:43 AM GMT
    Congratulations - i think you'll find you become even closer to family. Not having to lead a second life and rids the air of suspicion (on the family's part) Not to mention the load off your sholders. Again - congratulationsicon_exclaim.gif

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    Aug 04, 2009 1:43 AM GMT
    The worst enemy is the enemy within. When you like yourself, the rest follows.
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    Aug 04, 2009 1:47 AM GMT
    Excellent! So glad things came around for you.
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    Aug 04, 2009 1:53 AM GMT
    i'm super stoked to hear that things are much better. Keep your head held up high and always be proud and confident in who you are.

    hugs to you!
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    Aug 04, 2009 2:04 AM GMT
    I am glad to hear that everything is working out with you and your family. There is more to life than hating each other. We should rather love and take care of the people we love because anything can happen to them.

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    Aug 04, 2009 2:07 AM GMT
    Congratulations.
    I'll do a little happy dance around my kitchen for you.
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    Aug 04, 2009 4:06 AM GMT
    I'm glad your story has a happy ending. What happened with your friend. I hope you're there to help him.
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    Aug 04, 2009 5:00 AM GMT
    chuckystud saidThe worst enemy is the enemy within. When you like yourself, the rest follows.


    Wow! That is actually really good advice.
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    Aug 04, 2009 5:21 AM GMT
    Congrats on the happy ending. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 04, 2009 5:49 AM GMT
    well done and well done on not taking some of the horrendous advice that you where given...

    there will be an adjustment period, for both your self and your family.. let it happen and make sure to let them know that they can ask you anything, they will have questions, make sure they can ask them and answer every one of them seriously, no matter how stupid it might seem..

    Parents can fret over the stupidest thing and ask the most daft questions.. but don't knock them back and answer them, it will help both of you adjust and come to terms with the change.
  • Webster666

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    Aug 04, 2009 6:12 AM GMT
    Congratulations !
    Great news !
    Good for you.
    Big hugs.